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+1 yOnly smash the Xbox. :D
No breaking his consoles and games is a bad idea plus you are probably not thinking to clearly. Which is cool with all the hormones going on with you.
If anything what you do is while he's asleep Unplug all his consoles, take all his video games, and hide them some where. Then tell him he's not getting them back until y'all talk about this issue.
Plus since your pregnant, maybe he doesn't know how to deal with it and help you. So he plays video games due to not knowing what to do. Along with freaking out/ stressing about once the baby comes.311 Reply- +1 y
Best thing to do is compromise on spending time together and when y'all both can have your own quiet time.
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I still wonder if he's playing video games as a means to hide what he's truly thinking about. Like he could be playing them but freaking out in his head on what he's going to do about paying for the baby, how is he going to help you through labor, what all do y'all need to be ready, etc.
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Also if you broke those systems, you would be breaking around 260-300 dollar console. So then adding both of them up you would have just wasted around 560-600 dollars. Which in his situation I wouldn't blame him for becoming extremely angry and screaming your head off. That's a lot of money to just be destroyed, I would kill anyone who did that to my consoles. Since I used my own money to buy them and they weren't cheap.
Asker+1 yI started to think that maybe you're right about him. Maybe he's playing for hours not like before to avoid talking to me about these things because he's freaking out :( if that's true then I'm a horrible girlfriend
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He might be like my boyfriend and doesn't like to talk about things that stress him out but has no control over them at the time. He only thinks about what he has to do once that thing is close to happening. So maybe your boyfriend is trying to distract himself until it's closer to baby time.
You're not horrible, and if this is the first kid you two have ever had. Then it makes a lot of sense for him to have no idea what he should do. Plus he might think that talking about it might cause you to stress out, which might cause the baby to feel your stress. Which could might lead to some complications or something.
Best thing is to talk to him about it and ask him if he is, and that he shouldn't worry about being honest. None of that will hurt you or anything. That you just want to spend time with him before you two have to spend all your energy taking care of your kid. - +1 y
Though I still think you might have to hide all his technology first to get him to really talk. :D
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Thank you for mhg. ^^ I hope y'all sorted everything out.
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Imagine something you really love. An item you've worked hard to pay for and something you've dedicated a lot of time into and your partner destroys it. How would you feel? It's cruel and unnecessary. It would cause a lot of problems in your relationship - you don't do that to someone you love. Just like if your partner had a sports hobby, you wouldn't destroy their hard earned trophies because YOU don't like them spending so much time on it. It's something he enjoys and it's something you can also get involved with if you opened your mind a little. Just don't be stupid.00 Reply
+1 yhmmm... question is do u want him to kill u in cold blood after u do this?
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Asker+1 ykill me? :/
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System's are a gamer's baby man.. Don't sign ur death certificate lol. Just dump him a find someone more into u and supportive bro.
Asker+1 yWhat about his baby? This isn't just about me
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y'all have a kid together ohhh shit? yeahhhh he need's to man up
Asker+1 yYeah :/
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Yeahhhhh he need's to grow the fuck up big time! you can play and be a good boyfriend and dad. He is just an asshole sorry to say... not really. Tell him to change or your out, if he doesn't move on kiddo. It's not worth it... you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped.
Asker+1 yI don't know anymore if I'm over reacting or he is driving me craz
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you force a man to change his lifestyle like that he will most likely leave you out of frustration its understandable to be mad but if you do end up ruining your relationship because of his gaming you are better of just leaving him. if you dont want to leave him and you actually love him :D then do something more professional an just hide his controllers
+1 yDon't do it. You think it's a good decision now, but you will regret it later. Not only is it a massive waste of money, it will also not help a single bit. What he is doing is not right either, but if you destroy his consoles you won't be any better than him. It will most likely only make him angry, and trust me, it won't solve the problem either. If you really can't get him to talk to you, you could opt to hide his consoles and give them back once you two have had a talk. Just promise me you won't destroy his belongings. Nobody wants that to happen to them.
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Asker+1 y:( I think I'm losing it or something
+1 yYou said it yourself. Being pregnant could be driving you crazier. If you going to smash the video games wait until you give birth.
That way you are sure you are the one smashing your beloved boyfriend games. Not the hormones.10 Reply
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Destruction of private property is punishable by the law. Not to mention he'll be way too furious to pay any attention to your requests and it will only get worse. You're angry and it is completely understandable. Switching off the power of the whole house is much more sensible. No destruction and you'll have his undivided attention.
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Asker+1 yUnderstandable?
Asker+1 yI wish that he was a child at least I'd make an excuse for him but being an adult and going to be a father and act like this is worst than anything else but i still love him. Fuck I'm just confused about everything :/
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Who cares what the law says?
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@MasterofPlebs she will if she has to pay back 7-800 $
Asker+1 yI won't pay for anything since he's the reason why i would smash them in the first place and our baby deserve this money not his video games. :/
+1 yYou're fucking crazy. So you think smashing stuff is gonna get you what you want? What are you, a kid? Is that what you're gonna teach your future kid, that breaking stuff is the way to go?
And you think he's gonna be ok with you doing that?
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Asker+1 yI'm not crazy! I'm just mad
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I get mad sometimes too, but I don't feel the need to break stuff.
Asker+1 yWell you're not pregnant so you probably have no idea what I'm going through :/
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So being pregnant stops you from being reasonable? I know and understand your body changes and hormones affect you, but you're still capable of knowing right from wrong.
Asker+1 yI guess you're right i'm acting crazy and moody probably it his is all my fault not his :(
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i agree its the jerks guys fault and its hard to believe there are so mant people taking the side of a lazy couch potato gamer. thats a lot of bull. people need to get there shit straight before commenting on these. rage or not if he was not such a tool she would not have this issue. are you people that blind?
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@cheapshotbob Never sided with the guy, I sided with reason and maturity.
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thats cool then but hal of these responses make it seem she is wring for ragin and beung upset. and thats just absurd in my opinion. anyone knows every action has a reaction so his action are the reason she is upset and debating these things. i dont see how this is so complicated. its really simple give him a choice. he might be smart and terific and have a good job but that does not take away from his actions.
its clearly going to be his own fault if anything happens because he want listen to her which i what i thought relationships were about *LISTENING*
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+1 yDo you have $ for counseling... you could use it for someone to talk to and work through these issues and he needs to go as well. This is the tip of the iceberg in relationships...
What you are asking for is very reasonable and your sadness/frustration/anger is a reasonable emotion. The woman wants to be connected to the man (Genesis 2 Bible) as does the man. But, he sounds like he is still very immature or avoiding discussion. Are the discussions good ones or are they painful and emotional? Guys like to avoid emotional pain... especially if they are wounded.
I would not break the game systems yet, I would talk to counselor. If you choose not to do that, you could try putting a note on the TV... talk to girlfriend first for 20 minutes, then you get your power adapter to run the system...
Sadly, this is a bad sign that he doesn't value you or the relationship or there are problems. It won't get better on its own, so get help.10 Reply "I just want to spend time with him and maybe this will help."
Okay I'm willing to chalk up this logic to the pregger hormones talking in you.
That is the DUMBEST idea ever. Not only will this not help it will blow up in your face. He'll either just dump you or find something that you truly cherish in your life and destroy it as well.33 Reply
Asker+1 yThe dumbest idea? What would you do if you were in my place?
Asker+1 yI will try this and try to be patient with him :(
+1 yu need to join in with him. start like a drug. for "free". then after a little bit he will get use to it. then start requesting that he start doing things to keep u helping him or spending time in his world.
my ex didn't do the "free" part, but she would leave me alone ;) and in return i would spend time with her for 2h while her show was on and helped her with dinner. she got what she wanted and i got left alone while playing. cause if i am yelling at a game... u comeing in and asking what im yelling at is not going to help. but as others have said, dont break his stuff, one way or another, he will jsut get more. and it will be a very high chance of u getting hurt urself. u really need to try to go into his world and pull him out from the inside. or just leave.10 Reply
+1 yis he making money out of his youtube channel?
does he "stream" while playing online? maybe he wants to make some $$ out of it.
Not saying is right to ignore you, he should pay attention to you as well,
Do not destroy their video games or console lol, that's going to be just worse11 Reply
Asker+1 yI really don't understand much about these stuff but he have a job
It won't help. Tell him that he needs to limit his video game time or you are out.
Sorry but this guy sounds like a loser. You are having a baby with a loser.
Ladies - be careful who you open your legs for because you may end up here. Tied to a guy that doesn't even live in reality for the next 18 years as you jointly try to raise a lot child. I'd hate to be depending on him for child support.11 Reply
Asker+1 yTrust me he is not a loser or i wouldn't be with him. He finished college and have a good job, good income. He have very good social life everything was perfect because he wasn't that addicted to video games like now, this happened only after i got pregnant.
Try this:
Make a shcedule.
From xx : xx to xx : xx he have the right to do watever he wants.
But from xx : xx , he can only do stuff with you.
Make the schedule with him, print it in paper and you both promisse to respect the contract. Then you both make your signutures bellow. Make a copy for him and one for you.25 Reply
Asker+1 yDo you think this will work? :(
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Yes if...
You discuss it with him with pacience and in a peacefully way. If you start talk to quick or loud you can blow things. Go smooth.
You need to do it in a time you know he's not playing... like... dunno food time, or bed time, or another one. If you try to force it when he is thnkking about games he will say "i will think about that later" ...
If he's not playing and still says that to you... then you try harder, like gracefully push his hand and hold it, make a kawaii face and a sweet voice say "if we make this now, we don't have to hurrry later with this, cmon baby"... if he still doesn't care... try... " ok... but then you have to promisse we alk about doing a schedule, but it must be today ok? You promisse?»
If he still doesn't show interest,... leave the room for somo 30 minutes or 1 hour... low your hanger and repeat the process...
Asker+1 yThis sounds like a good idea and i'm going to do it. Thank you so much :)
You're going to have 2 outcomes and they won't be pretty
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if he's a true gamer like you say,
he will become enraged and probably beat the shit out of you because he's so mad
trust me when i was into gaming like that i wanted to beat the shit out of people for just cutting it off in my face.
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he's going to call the police and have you arrested for damaging his property and you'll probably have to replace them both when he takes you to court
What i prefer you do is take the video game systems or take their cords and tell him if he wants them back he should talk to you10 ReplyWOAH!!! I think you need to simmer down.
You've got a lot of hormonal shit going on, but is breaking stuff when you get angry the sort of example you're going to want to set for you're child? Probably not, because it's an immature way to go about things.
Maybe take away his games and refuse to give them back until he talks to you. It sounds like he should be giving you much more attention, but bear in mind there may be a reason for his behaviour; it could be the stress of your pregnancy, or not knowing what to do, or something else entirely.
Just take a deep breathe and try and sort things out maturely. Take away his games. unplug his consoles if you think that'll force him to talk, and sort things out.00 Reply1.1K opinions shared on Other topic. hey dick head boyfriend she is pregnant shut off the fucking console and support her pregnancy is not easy on the body or the emotions so be there for her show her love and understanding and show her she is more important to you than a fucking game
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Asker+1 yYou should probably tell him that :( :(
Asker+1 yYes my mom is there for me but i need him too and i hope this baby will change him a bit :/
Asker+1 yThis is bad then :(
Smashing everything will not help, leave him, if he does not come around to get you back he is not worth staying with. He should have more sensitivity and time for you.
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Asker+1 yYeah he should :(
Anonymous(30-35)+1 yIf you do that, he can sue you for over a thousand dollars in damages, not to mention leave you. Then again, he's acting like an asshole. But tell me this, you fell for him because he's driven wants to succeed, right? Well that's what you get when you go for guys like that. The ones who love making money and stuff.
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Asker+1 yHow come that playing video games and upload them to the Internet can make money for you? He have a job and good income :/
Opinion Owner+1 yI'm sorry, I don't really understand what you've typed.
Asker+1 yI mean some guys told me that maybe he's making money from playing video games!!!
Opinion Owner+1 yYeah, you can make money by putting videos on youtube. If you get enough views and subscribers, youtube will pay you and so will advertisements.
Anonymous(30-35)+1 yTalk to him and if he won't listen... Break up with him. Dont break anything of his because he might dump you on the spot, break something of yours or he might even take legal action for breaking his stuff. (The laws an interesting thing)
I have dumped people who were more into video games than the real world. Its not worth fighting with a man child.10 Reply
Anonymous(25-29)+1 yI'm not a guy but you shouldn't damage things that aren't yours, period. In a relationship, you should respect each other. Talking to him might be difficult and he might just be stressed about the pregnancy so he plays video games and whatnot. Try to have a conversation with him while he isn't doing anything so he isn't distracted. Talking to him while he's in-game or something isn't really a good idea because his focus is on something else. I hope this helps :)
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+1 y"talk about it later"
Your reply should be "Because you are playing video games. This is what I want to talk about. It's getting too much"
Something like that.
And if he then STILL refuses, just break up with him.
What's breaking his stuff going to accomplish? Nothing. It's just childish, just agression.10 Reply - 327 opinions shared on Other topic.
+1 yI would not break it on him because they are very expensive.. but I would say to him you seem to have more time for time for them games then you do for me even when it is you I came over to see.. tell him to pay a bit of attention to you.. he can play those games any dam time.. but if he picks the gaming over you.. it may be time to walk away.. find that someone that will give you the time.. lots out there that will.. I would.. take care now
00 Reply Calm your titts down girl!!
If you smash any of his toys he might smash you... XD
Anyways I think you should smash his xbox and not his ps4
Ps4 is awesome14 Reply
Asker+1 yIf he smash me he will smash his baby with me :|
He's not a violent guy anyway :/
Asker+1 yNah people here made me realize that i am wrong and i was going to act like crazy and ruin our relationship just because the hormones controls me. :/
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+1 ytalk to him, tell him you need attention. Don't just tell him stop playing video games. I know I'd stop if you went straight forward like that, if I cared for you.
As for the youtube channel, nowdays a lot of people use that as a job. Can't really stop that.01 Reply
Asker+1 yHe doesn't need it because he already have a job
if you wanna break up, break up. But destroying someones good is not the right way to do it. You will be the one who pays for it... just so you know. And it won't help your relationship
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Asker+1 y:( :(
ABSOLUTLY NOT! You obviously have no ideas how many problems that's going to start. It's bad enough when someone messes with your game data destroying a whole system is asking for trouble and a lot of it.
20 ReplyPrego or not that doesn't give you the right to throw a temper tandrum like a toddler act like a civilized adult. no one is entitled to anyone's attention no matter the circumstances. If you plan on breaking it I suggest you have money saved up to replace it and at least get an upgraded model for him having to deal with childish actions.
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yGo for it.
And enjoy your jail time. Destruction of property is a crime, and the police will not have any sympathy for the "I'm a needy bitch who gets violent when ignored" defense.12 Reply
Asker+1 yWhy don't you understand what i'm going through? Do you think that being pregnant is easy? I used to support him before but things are different now!
Opinion Owner+1 yI am not unsympathetic, and I don't think he is in the right, but destruction of property is a crime. You have no right.
If you choose to do such a thing, do so full in the knowledge that you will face consequences.
+1 yWhy would you take that out on his stuff? You'll just have to pay for it and come out looking like a crazy bitch. Just break up with him.
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Asker+1 yCrazy bitch? Do you have any idea how it feels like to be pregnant and have someone that keep making you angry all the time like my boyfriend? i still love him but at the same time I'm angry because of him.
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Obviously a man cannot know what it feels like to be pregnant. However, that doesn't change the fact that it's the wrong tactic. You start breaking stuff you simply appear to be a crazy bitch. It's not going to have the result you want.
Asker+1 y:( you're right
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You CAN, however, take the detachable power cords and hide them somewhere. Same point made, no collateral damage.
Asker+1 yI will do that instead of acting crazy
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Good choice. Also a cheaper one.
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+1 ySmashing his stuff won't solve any problems and will create new ones. He'll just go buy another machine when that money could be used for the pregnancy/baby. There's got to be a time when he's not playing for you to talk about his playing.
10 Reply if you do that, then the result can be pretty dangerous, but your boyfriend is very immature. you should tell him and warn him that you'll smash his console
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Asker+1 yYeah we always end up with " yeah sure we will talk about it later" and i can't hear it one more time :/
Asker+1 yI will warn him for the last time. By the way he's 25 years old but like you see :/ although i'm younger but i feel that i'm mature more than him sometimes.
Yeah, no, that's a really really dumb idea actually. Are you really this disinterested in his activities? Maybe try to see why he enjoys it so much?
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Asker+1 yI don't hate video games or something and i used to support him but lately it started to take his time and just want to play more. Those guys who have YouTube channels are obsessed with it more anything else in their life and this is happening here now. Maybe I'm crazy because i'm pregnant but seriously what would you do if you were in my place?
5K opinions shared on Other topic. Only if you're willing to pay to buy him a new one.
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+1 yThe hormones are getting to you. Don't smash his stuff, that's really immature and a sure way of burning your bridges. You can try other things like not doing anything for him (like cooking), or staying at a friend's house, until he talks to you.
20 Reply you break them dont be surprised if he knocked your dumbass out
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+1 yThere is no excuse for destroying his property. That would just make you look psychotic. If his video game playing is really that much of a problem for you and he refuses to talk about it with you then all you can do is break up with him and move on.
10 Reply842 opinions shared on Other topic. Nope, that shit is expensive. It sounds like your pregnancy hormones are off the chart.
Write down how you feel in a letter then give it to him.10 Reply- 2.1K opinions shared on Other topic.
+1 yI dont think that will get you any where but in trouble with the law. I am with every one else here, if he doesn't want to change, then leave, if you dont want to leave seek counseling
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+1 yOr just leave him so you don't have to pay for it?
There's a certain age where you stop playing video games and life catches up to you.10 ReplySwitch the power off in the fuse box. No need to destroy anything.
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Asker+1 yI'm just angry most of the time :/
do you have a hobby or anything you do on your own?
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Asker+1 yYes I've doing a lot of things alone lately because he's busy and yes we live together.
Asker+1 yBetween his job and video games and my college we rarely sit together but i will try it one more time :(
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Thats not right.. How would you like it if he smashed your phone?12 Reply
Asker+1 yThis is different! :/
I almost did smash it. Instead I just kept turning it off. He got pissed lol. Guess who doesn't play anymore. It's now really only used for Netflix.
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Asker+1 yDid it really work?
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Yeah but if you aren't sure do a trial run. While he's playing "accidentally" shut it off while dusting or something. If he freaks too nad you'll know its a bad idea but he won't blame you too long because it was an "accident". And for all the people who are thinking "but he'll lose his progress.." or whatever. Just stop. It's a videogame.
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That's pure evil. O. O Making him get rid of games and only allowed to watch boring Netflix, I pity him some.
2.9K opinions shared on Other topic. Don't smash anything, just leave. If you smash his stuff you'll most likely have to pay for it, you'd be doing yourself a major disservice and it will only make things worse.
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+1 yIf you wanted it gone for a bit so you can talk, it may be better to hide it instead. Smashing it is a bad idea and you will end up regretting that you did it. If you hide it you get the same effect that he can't use it but you can still give it back once you have talked to him
00 ReplyYou really don't want to do this girl. You're angry because of your pregnancy and it's kind of controls you but you need to calm down and try to talk to your boyfriend about it in his free time.
10 Reply2.8K opinions shared on Other topic. I hope you're ready to pay to replace them all because I'm like 80% positive he can take you to court over you damaging his personal property.
10 ReplyAre you crazy? No offense, but smashing someone's property is not okay. The only thing it will happen is he will get resentful and if it takes that to focus his attention on you, something is off.
00 ReplySmashing his property accomplishes ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!! Not to mention you can get in trouble for it.
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Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 yIf you want to get dumped, and deal with the police, sure, go ahead.
Grow up.11 Reply
Asker+1 yGrow up? I'm the one who needs to grow up now? :/
Anonymous(25-29)+1 yIf you are prepared to go to court for destruction of property, by all means, go for it.
10 Reply4.3K opinions shared on Other topic. If you did this and you were my girlfriend I'd kill you or break up with you lol DON'T DO THIS
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+1 yCome on be the adult here, smashing his stuff is just going to land you in jail.
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Yea smash it up, show us pics when your done00 Reply- 4.3K opinions shared on Other topic.
+1 yWhy smash it when you can make money selling it? Either way if I were boyfriend I'd be pissed and file a lawsuit.
00 Reply 8.5K opinions shared on Other topic. Yeah so then I hope he can sue you.
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Asker+1 yHe won't because i warned him before
Anonymous(36-45)+1 yIf you smash $800 of his property, you'll find yourself a single mom. Keep that in mind.
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+1 ypretend to be giving birth lolololol that'll get his attention lmaoo
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+1 yGo for it. Make sure you send us cards from jail though!
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+1 yHe'll hate you for... a long time.
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Asker+1 yHe will hate me and his baby for video games and stupid YouTube channel? This is childish
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LOL Tell me about it.
+1 yno, get serious with him tell him what you want. and force him to do it
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yYou will break his heart if you do.
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Asker+1 ySeriously now?
No, that won't solve anything
10 ReplyDo not do that, that is not a good thing to do!!
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yNoooooooooooo, not the pride and joy
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Asker+1 yAre you serious?
Opinion Owner+1 yWadup
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