He treated you like garbage. Accept that. Its not debatable. When you make plans with someone if you respect them you keep them. He does not respect you. Not debatable. Fact.
The only way this would be reasonable is if he asked you to join him. You can modify plans, sure. But by CANCELLING plans with you in favor of people he reapects more, likes better, and a more fun activity, what he said is that YOU are less of a priority then what ever he feels like doing, his friends and his hobbies. You are a person he has sex with. You are not his girlfriend. Don't kid yourself. Sorry for the tough love.
Ps. When he finds a girl he finds prettier then you or more fun then you he will dump you in a heart beat. Because he's already told you you have little worth. You decide if you are cool with that.
It’s hard to say based on this one thing. While I understand the frustration if you feel like you shouldn’t be mad I’d kind of guess you shouldn’t be.
It really depends on whether the two of you are getting enough time together. Sometimes wanting time together doesn’t mean it’s needed.
Only you have the bigger picture here. You feel
Like you shouldn’t be mad. Don’t be, tell him you were disappointed that you were trying to do something for him so the two of you could spend time together but you understand. And then set something else up. And see what happens from there.
just go call up some of your girlfriends or sister or mom or whoever you like to hangout with or even go out by yourself and do some stuff that makes you happy like library or old book sales. He has his right to make himself happy and later just remember you have your right to cancel on him if there's something else that makes you more happy that you've been talking about for a while too.
He made plans with you, then immediately bailed for someone else.
I'd be pissed and tell him he better stay over there.
Was what he did pretty shitty?
Yes.
Should you be miffed?
Yeah.
Really, truly mad and hurt?
No.
Look, I have no doubt you have dropped plans with him because something came up with a friend... and if you haven't yet, you will someday, with him or someone else.
Friends still exist. Family still exists. A need to be with those people still exists. Interests in things outside of our relationships, especially in things that our partner might not share an interest in, still exist.
The way he did it was shitty, but you and he can watch a movie any time. He wanted to see his buddy. He should have been more decent about your feelings, but this isn't the end of the world. Make him make it up to you later.
the hobbit or monster hunter? yeah i can see why he bailed on that disaster of a movie and chose to play video games instead.
im honestly so happy that im single right now because i do what i want when i want without someone on my back about it. ALL my mates get bitched at by wives/GF's etc when they spend a few hours online playing videogames.
In fact me and one of my buddies had this exact conversation about 5 hours ago. we were playing GTA when his wife came into the room and told him it was dinner time... he said he would speak to me in about 20 mins and I heard his Mrs say "no, you'll speak to him next week" like he's fucking 10 years old or some shit.
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Don't show him that you freaked out, especially if it only happened once.
I know this may be inappropriate but you should give me his number so I can send a random text saying, "Hello Dingleberry. Your girlfriend is more important than a bullshit video game". Then I'll find a pic of a micro-penis online and send it to him with it captioned "This is you right now".
I think you're right to be annoyed. Talk to him calmly and make it clear that he should not do this sort of thing- he could have told his friend that he could do it some other time- maybe after the movie, if it was OK with you.
It's bad form in general to flake on someone when you've made plans, even if you don't think a girlfriend takes priority over a male friend.
Does he make plans and then break them very often? If so, then yeah, you should be mad. Otherwise, there's no reason to be mad at a guy who wants to do something with his friend for a change, you've got to understand that you are not the center of his universe and he shouldn't be the center of your universe either, that's just unhealthy. It's perfectly acceptable and healthy for couples to do things separately every once in a while.
P. S. Any sensible person would pick Monster Hunter over The Hobbit, those movies are just bad.
He scheduled a date with you and then bailed when another opportunity arose. Flake.
If it was a serious date night, I’d be pissed. I don't know about you though, but I love video games, and if he didn’t think to invite me knowing that I’d be pissed.
I see all these people saying bros before hos.. that applies to cheap girls at a bar, not wifey material. Calm down.
chill out... he has likely seen it several times... sure it is annoying when plans change, but if it was something exciting you were into vs something you had done often... well... it seems like a simple choice... don't make an issue of the little things, or they will likely become more frequent...
I would be annoyed. if you made plans to do something he should honor it. He can play the game after. I'd you are upfront and said you wanted to watch it and spend time then that's not too much to ask for and he can play later.
I can understand your being upset, but if u step back and look at it objectively I don't think he deserves any slck from it. Really, be happy that he got invited to do something really exciting, and be happy gir your boyfriend. If it happened all the time I would be upset.
LOL @ the username.
I will just answer by saying that if that scenario came up, my wife would say "Oh you HAVE to go play "monster hunter" with Johnny. That is WAY cooler than a silly movie". And I would say "are you sure? I feel bad because we had plans to watch The Hobbit". And she would say..."absolutely, we can watch the Hobbit any time". And I would say..."OK, thanks baby... you are the best".
And, of course, I would do (and have done) the same for her. That's how love works. Going the other route breeds resentment.
Now, if this is the kind of thing he does on a regular basis, that's a different story...
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For me personally, I would not get mad if it's once in a while. But if it became regular that he rather blow me off for friends. I will blow him off and do not come back if even after a talk he still overdid it.
Jeez, we are all adults, why do I have to tell a grown man if he ever was overdoing it.
I think a mature man, would know better. But I do not have time for men who will not consider my feelings or be understanding or know when to prioritize friends and when to prioritize me.
This isn't nice but you have to ask yourself if this has been "normalised" in your relationship. In other words have you done this same thing or have either of you done this to others? If so there needs to be a long talk about expectations and agreements.
He can't keep his word so that's something you need to talk to him about. Relationships are based on trust and communication, if they don't work then it's over.
Side note, Monster Hunter is an awesome game. If things get sorted out, I recommend you play it ✌️
I really don't see a reason to be mad. I can see why you were annoyed but is it really that big of a deal to get into an argument over. Best thing would be to let him know how it mad you feel but don't do it accusing him, only mention how you felt because of it.
Nope you should not be mad.
1. You do not own him, even if you're married.
2. Men NEED!!! "Bro" and/or "solo" time away from women on a regular basis.
I have met very very few women who are able to understand this, most become emotional and bitchy nags instead of understanding, sad but true.
Just say to him: "It's not a big deal, but earlier we plan to watch a movie together and I wanted to spend time with you. However you went to see your friends. Can we do something together?"
Maybe he did not realise what he did and was excited to play that game. So this gives him a second chance for him to make it up to you by spending time. Sometimes guys don't realise. If he does it again, then you can get mad lol
Darling... you missed your opportunity! As he is heading out the door, you say ‘sweetheart.. you are leaving me home alone? ( give him sad face) ... I wish to could go out, but I am broke’. If you play it right, you will be heading out 10 minutes later, with a pocket of cash.
I'd be mad that he broke his word. If he does this a lot and rather spends time with his friends more than yeah I definitely be annoyed. You're not be clingy or anything. He just promised to do something with you, but then twenty minutes later would rather play with his friends.
You should understand that your boyfriend needs time to play video games with his friends from time to time.
However, your boyfriend did say that he was going to watch the movie with you and then left after 20 minutes, so yes, you have a right to be annoyed at him breaking his word.
the shit is unreasonable, but so was his leaving. it's not wrong to be a little pissed off about it if it's how you feel. if you make a commitment, no matter how small, you should stick to it. then again both sides need to communicate, so he should've talked to you about it if he didn't. it's a little thing but the shit builds up if you don't let out how you felt about it
Omg my boyfriend used to do that ish. I set his ass straight about blindsiding me for video games when he knew we had plans. It took like 6 months to fix him on that 🙈 ik ridiculously long time. Anyways now the new prob is him blindsiding me by not following through with our plans because his family are the ultimate cockblockers
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