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He treated you like garbage. Accept that. Its not debatable. When you make plans with someone if you respect them you keep them. He does not respect you. Not debatable. Fact.
The only way this would be reasonable is if he asked you to join him. You can modify plans, sure. But by CANCELLING plans with you in favor of people he reapects more, likes better, and a more fun activity, what he said is that YOU are less of a priority then what ever he feels like doing, his friends and his hobbies. You are a person he has sex with. You are not his girlfriend. Don't kid yourself. Sorry for the tough love.
Ps. When he finds a girl he finds prettier then you or more fun then you he will dump you in a heart beat. Because he's already told you you have little worth. You decide if you are cool with that.
I agree with her.
It’s hard to say based on this one thing. While I understand the frustration if you feel like you shouldn’t be mad I’d kind of guess you shouldn’t be.
It really depends on whether the two of you are getting enough time together. Sometimes wanting time together doesn’t mean it’s needed.
Only you have the bigger picture here. You feel
Like you shouldn’t be mad. Don’t be, tell him you were disappointed that you were trying to do something for him so the two of you could spend time together but you understand. And then set something else up. And see what happens from there.
just go call up some of your girlfriends or sister or mom or whoever you like to hangout with or even go out by yourself and do some stuff that makes you happy like library or old book sales. He has his right to make himself happy and later just remember you have your right to cancel on him if there's something else that makes you more happy that you've been talking about for a while too.
He made plans with you, then immediately bailed for someone else.
I'd be pissed and tell him he better stay over there.
Does it make a difference if i live with him?
it's much worse
Was what he did pretty shitty?
Yes.
Should you be miffed?
Yeah.
Really, truly mad and hurt?
No.
Look, I have no doubt you have dropped plans with him because something came up with a friend... and if you haven't yet, you will someday, with him or someone else.
Friends still exist. Family still exists. A need to be with those people still exists. Interests in things outside of our relationships, especially in things that our partner might not share an interest in, still exist.
The way he did it was shitty, but you and he can watch a movie any time. He wanted to see his buddy. He should have been more decent about your feelings, but this isn't the end of the world. Make him make it up to you later.
the hobbit or monster hunter? yeah i can see why he bailed on that disaster of a movie and chose to play video games instead.
im honestly so happy that im single right now because i do what i want when i want without someone on my back about it. ALL my mates get bitched at by wives/GF's etc when they spend a few hours online playing videogames.
In fact me and one of my buddies had this exact conversation about 5 hours ago. we were playing GTA when his wife came into the room and told him it was dinner time... he said he would speak to me in about 20 mins and I heard his Mrs say "no, you'll speak to him next week" like he's fucking 10 years old or some shit.
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Don't show him that you freaked out, especially if it only happened once.
I know this may be inappropriate but you should give me his number so I can send a random text saying, "Hello Dingleberry. Your girlfriend is more important than a bullshit video game". Then I'll find a pic of a micro-penis online and send it to him with it captioned "This is you right now".
A wild White Knight has appeared.
@TheUglyMonk A wild Dingleberry has appeared.
A wild girl has appeared. Go Fetch
@TheUglyMonk A wild boy has appeared. Go Fetch
I think you're right to be annoyed. Talk to him calmly and make it clear that he should not do this sort of thing- he could have told his friend that he could do it some other time- maybe after the movie, if it was OK with you.
It's bad form in general to flake on someone when you've made plans, even if you don't think a girlfriend takes priority over a male friend.
Does he make plans and then break them very often? If so, then yeah, you should be mad. Otherwise, there's no reason to be mad at a guy who wants to do something with his friend for a change, you've got to understand that you are not the center of his universe and he shouldn't be the center of your universe either, that's just unhealthy. It's perfectly acceptable and healthy for couples to do things separately every once in a while.
P. S. Any sensible person would pick Monster Hunter over The Hobbit, those movies are just bad.
He scheduled a date with you and then bailed when another opportunity arose. Flake.
If it was a serious date night, I’d be pissed. I don't know about you though, but I love video games, and if he didn’t think to invite me knowing that I’d be pissed.
I see all these people saying bros before hos.. that applies to cheap girls at a bar, not wifey material. Calm down.
chill out... he has likely seen it several times... sure it is annoying when plans change, but if it was something exciting you were into vs something you had done often... well... it seems like a simple choice... don't make an issue of the little things, or they will likely become more frequent...
I would be annoyed. if you made plans to do something he should honor it. He can play the game after. I'd you are upfront and said you wanted to watch it and spend time then that's not too much to ask for and he can play later.
I can understand your being upset, but if u step back and look at it objectively I don't think he deserves any slck from it. Really, be happy that he got invited to do something really exciting, and be happy gir your boyfriend. If it happened all the time I would be upset.
LOL @ the username.
I will just answer by saying that if that scenario came up, my wife would say "Oh you HAVE to go play "monster hunter" with Johnny. That is WAY cooler than a silly movie". And I would say "are you sure? I feel bad because we had plans to watch The Hobbit". And she would say..."absolutely, we can watch the Hobbit any time". And I would say..."OK, thanks baby... you are the best".
And, of course, I would do (and have done) the same for her. That's how love works. Going the other route breeds resentment.
Now, if this is the kind of thing he does on a regular basis, that's a different story...
Cheers
I just read through the female responses here and I can easily tell which ones are good girlfriends and which are not, which are insecure and which are confident, whose boyfriend feels lucky and whose boyfriend resents his girlfriend. Just sayin...
@VaIiant I married my high school sweetheart 2 years ago. We knew we were "the ones" for each other for a long time, so why put off the inevitable? Best choice I ever made.
@VaIiant hahahaha hahahah I’m dead why are they married? Lol
@Anon , that’s really sweet, I personally would think waiting is the best choice till you’re more financially stable, but who knows maybe you are. But I don’t think bailing on her is cool, (despite monster hunter being pretty great). He could’ve invited her or something. We don’t really know the situation, but what if they both worked a ton and never got to see each other and she was super excited for s night off to spend with him?
@VaIiant What if... she decided to be unselfish instead. Unselfishness begets more unselfishness, and of course the reverse is also true. This type of behavior underlies many relationship problems, and yet is so easy to avoid. That's all I'm gonna say on this.
@VaIiant bruhhh just fuck hella hoes , that’s the mistake you made , sticking to you “high school sweetheart” who cares? These bitches will all turn and burn you. I learned the hard way. We are young don’t commit to these hoes. Just live life and get pussy
@VaIiant And by the way, we are in great shape financially. Both college grads and both have good, well-paying jobs. Thanks for the concern though.
That was for anon my bad
@dothejohnwall97 Yeah, I get what you're saying. I see that sort of thing all around me, all the time. But there ARE some good women in this world, and those women are worth committing to, if you are one if the lucky few who finds one.
Tru I hope I can find a good girl, I have been through a lot so if you think you did find the right 1 keep her
@dothejohnwall97 Sorry to hear it bro. That sucks. I hope you have better luck.
For me personally, I would not get mad if it's once in a while. But if it became regular that he rather blow me off for friends. I will blow him off and do not come back if even after a talk he still overdid it.
Jeez, we are all adults, why do I have to tell a grown man if he ever was overdoing it.
I think a mature man, would know better. But I do not have time for men who will not consider my feelings or be understanding or know when to prioritize friends and when to prioritize me.
@Wollu No one should sacrifice what makes them happy. No one needs to be clingy.
But if you are someone's partner, why would you feel the need to choose everyone else over her?
Men should hang out with their friends, and so should she have friends. No one should put their partner on a pedestal and spend almost all their time.
But let's say after work, family, friends, hobbies. Shouldn't your partner know you enjoy their company and want to spend time with them. Not running away like a child, and showing her that everyone else is more fun to be around?
In the asker's situation, we do not know much to give her a real answer. But if she expects him to be connected to her hip even though he spends enough time with her and she is looking at this once in a while time, she needs to mature some more
@Just Asking_1991 No one should, but all have to.
Why is there the notion of "choosing someone else OVER her"? You see that the wording itself already unveils the core problem. I am not sure why a partner must be remembered about the fact, that e. g. I myself enjoy ther company? It it something she will forget about? And if so, why? Men do not understand, why women have to "refresh" their memory about their relationship. Men do not need that. They are in a relationship. They stand up in the morning, they know they have a wife, they don't need to check if she's still here. Women seem to forget about their marriage every day. Men and women are incompatible. So you better accept that men don't need to refresh their memory. If women need to do something about it, they might have an idea how to cope with it. It's not men's problem that they need constant reassurance to be in a relationship. This is annoying for men.
@Wollu Umm funny enough. I find most men to be insecure and clingy. Now let me tell you something its not that men and women are so very different. So do not speak for all males.
I believe nothing needs to be forced, and I should not have to beg for anything. I think we need to stop babying our partners or putting them on a pedestal. I have witnessed and met men who are total sweethearts, mature and wanting to be around their wives and gfs. They do not need to be worried about reassurance because, it is natural for them in their way, that their wives or gfs never have to ask for anything.
I think I touched a nerve with you.
I don't speak in anyone's name than mine. As the title suggests, this is an OPINION. Pls look at it for what it is.
Talking of which: Women want to be put above everything by their guys. True or False?
IMHO it is like that. And this is why I think so:
A women stands up in the morning and must check if she's in a relationship. Every day, over and over again. Nothing stays in her head as it is, because everything is different every day.
A man stands up in the morning and doesn't ask himself about a relationship. He already knows that he has it. There's no need for scrutiny.
He goes after whatever he likes to do. The less he finds himself guilt-tripped by her for having fun with someone or something else, the more he will value his relationship. The more she is seeking his attention and disturning his happiness, the less he will value her.
This isn't nice but you have to ask yourself if this has been "normalised" in your relationship. In other words have you done this same thing or have either of you done this to others? If so there needs to be a long talk about expectations and agreements.
He can't keep his word so that's something you need to talk to him about. Relationships are based on trust and communication, if they don't work then it's over.
Side note, Monster Hunter is an awesome game. If things get sorted out, I recommend you play it ✌️
I really don't see a reason to be mad. I can see why you were annoyed but is it really that big of a deal to get into an argument over. Best thing would be to let him know how it mad you feel but don't do it accusing him, only mention how you felt because of it.
Nope you should not be mad.
1. You do not own him, even if you're married.
2. Men NEED!!! "Bro" and/or "solo" time away from women on a regular basis.
I have met very very few women who are able to understand this, most become emotional and bitchy nags instead of understanding, sad but true.
I agree with men needing solo time, chicks need it too. Like I can’t stand being around a SO 24/7. But nah, if we’ve got prior arrangements I’d be pretty pissed if he ditched me. Especially if it was for video games, cause I love video games, and he should invite me if he’s bailing on plans. But I’d probs tell him to do it and eat some ice cream alone, to not make him feel obligated and bored.
Still a dick move on his part. If it had been serious plans it’d be worth a fight.
I always think a guy should try at least twice to get his girlfriend into a game. I grew up on video games cause of my dad, and personally love them and think men stereotypically tgink most women don’t. He should’ve asked if she wanted to come.
But we don’t know the situation, what if they both work and she was super excited because it’s her night off and she wanted to spend it with him? Overall he pulled a jerk move. I feel bad for the asker.
@VaIiant Your comment about girl gamer's is interesting. My younger sister has complained to me so many times about wishing guys would just admit they love video games because she does too and wants to play them together with a guy she likes. She said it's super frustrating when they say they don't play video games when she knows damn well that they do.. lol
Hmm, I’ve never seen a guy who plays say he doesn’t, but I can see them doing that to avoid looking foolish. It just annoys me because if I’m hanging out with my friends , who are guys, they leave me in the dust conversation-wise about games without realizing I could run circles around them in PvP.
Just say to him: "It's not a big deal, but earlier we plan to watch a movie together and I wanted to spend time with you. However you went to see your friends. Can we do something together?"
Maybe he did not realise what he did and was excited to play that game. So this gives him a second chance for him to make it up to you by spending time. Sometimes guys don't realise. If he does it again, then you can get mad lol
Darling... you missed your opportunity! As he is heading out the door, you say ‘sweetheart.. you are leaving me home alone? ( give him sad face) ... I wish to could go out, but I am broke’. If you play it right, you will be heading out 10 minutes later, with a pocket of cash.
I'd be mad that he broke his word. If he does this a lot and rather spends time with his friends more than yeah I definitely be annoyed. You're not be clingy or anything. He just promised to do something with you, but then twenty minutes later would rather play with his friends.
You should understand that your boyfriend needs time to play video games with his friends from time to time.
However, your boyfriend did say that he was going to watch the movie with you and then left after 20 minutes, so yes, you have a right to be annoyed at him breaking his word.
the shit is unreasonable, but so was his leaving. it's not wrong to be a little pissed off about it if it's how you feel. if you make a commitment, no matter how small, you should stick to it. then again both sides need to communicate, so he should've talked to you about it if he didn't. it's a little thing but the shit builds up if you don't let out how you felt about it
Omg my boyfriend used to do that ish. I set his ass straight about blindsiding me for video games when he knew we had plans. It took like 6 months to fix him on that 🙈 ik ridiculously long time. Anyways now the new prob is him blindsiding me by not following through with our plans because his family are the ultimate cockblockers
How often does he do this sort of thing? One time is not a big deal. Plus, the plan you made wasn't set a long time ago. You only made it this morning and then something came up 20 minutes later. It would've been a bigger deal if you set this plan a week in advance and then he ditched.
it's is a little unreasonable to be mad, you have every right to be a little annoyed but you both will at any given point will run off to hang with your friends because you both need time away from each other. I assume you wouldn't want your boyfriend to hang around you 24/7 you would feel trapped, annoyed, or pressured.
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I mean the hobbit is old and stuff so ya lol
I can see why monster hunter seems more fun with buds
as long as it's not like aalllll the time - let him have fun,,... don't be so selfish
keep busy lol
Guys sometimes like to spend time with their buddies than girlfriend. May be this gaming time he got was something that doesn't happen often. So if this episode was just a one-time thing then please dont be mad at him. Instead, ask him how it went. I'm sure you will see that twinkle in his eyes which will also make you happy!
Yup. He screwed up there. Sit him down and calmly clue him in. Avoid "I" statements and let him know it's ok to go with his friends, just not when you've gone and set aside some couple time.
Boys will be boys. That's what you get for dating a boy. He'd rather be playing with his friends. You should just accept that they have the stronger pull over him.
Tbh what would I do in that situation is be like fine you wanna play games with your friend that’s cool I’ll just go in my room and play games myself or with my friends or I’ll csll them up and ask my girls if they wanna chill of something and do something I enjoy
Was it the entire Hobbit?
... An Unexpected Journey,
... The desolation of Smaug,
... The Battle of the Five Armies,
But, I would be mad myself if that happened to me. Talk to him about it. let him know that it bothered you.
You shouldn't be mad, unless it's happened on more than one occasion. Find something else to do to occupy your time. While you may be a couple, you are still two different people with two different lives. Just brush it off and make plans to watch the movie another day.
To unilaterally decide to break his previous commitment to you, is a dick move. He owes you.
Monster Hunter is an awesome game. lol
I wouldn't be upset unless its was a recurring thing and he don't reschedule the date with me.
It's normal to be upset if he switched plans on you. However, if he does this often, you have every right to get annoyed. Communication is the key here. Speak to him about it.
Yeah I'd be upset about it. That's immature, he can go play monster hunter after the movie is over
If you were into playing video games or at least give it a try you might just impress him and ask him if you can play together with him the next time around.
If its a one time thing you shouldn't be mad, but if its every week you should talk to him and make it clear that it anoy's you.
I have seen boys ditch their girls to watch football 😂😂
But that's just bad
Oi that's me
Lolz me too 😂
Tell him how you feel, don't hold back. Always stay communicating with him
You need to tell him like it is , tell him you don't appreciate being
ditched for him to go play video games. Let him know he hurt
your feelings , don't be afraid to speak what's on your mind.
sounds like he cannot stick to his word, he had plans and for a guy to don’t follow what he promises that’s not a guy i would be with.
Cmon he's just playing with his friend.
Just talk to him and make plans for later
what would being mad help? he as his priorities and you need to respect that. i'm not saying that the priorities he has are "good" but that's a different topic. he wasn't ready for a relationship.
That's a shitty thing to do to you, but if he's a good boyfriend overall then i think you should forgive him. If he does this a lot you should talk to him about it.
If he doesn't want the pussy, then find a guy who does.
That’s your biggest worry? Lmao come back when he ditched you to smash another girl. Then you should be worried
I think it's ok to be upset about that, but I don't play video games. I'd much rather be rubbing your feet, but that's just me.
A-Tell him your gonna go hangout with a cryptominer.
B- You also get into Monster whatever too.
yes be mad. Grab his Puny Punky Ass and Spank it hard!!! LOL
Yep, you definitely should be. If he chooses an inanimate object that can do things on a tv over you, a human being called his “significant other”, that’s pure ignorance and stupidity on his part
Nah, something unusual came up. Let him enjoy buddy time. Enjoy watching a total you movie and don’t make yourself upset.
i would honestly be mad about it to. he promised u first and he he ditched his GIRLFRIEND for a stupid video game. he could have waited to do that
Com mon, there are thousands of other things to take interest in. Why u just getting annoyed, disturb them.
you shouldn't be mad. he's with you all the time and he wanted to go hang out with one of his boys. hell be back. you two should definitely talk about it tho so that it doesn't happen again
Lame move you don't say yes then just ditch someone... shows he is immature for sure! I am so sorry girl!
Yes, next time ditch him a play video games with your girls.
Wow, yeah you should be mad. He made a commitment to watch a movie with you and then ditched you. It's inconsiderate, disrespectful and immature
You should be playing the gamr with him because monster hunter is a cool game
Haha i told my girlfriend once monster hunter came out we wouldn't see each other for a week
He needs his time with his bros.
And a video game release is something you can't overlook.
he does but to ditch her isn't good either, that's being immature
sounds like a immature asshole
Wolverine wouldn't say that
It’s not that’s serious, write back when he cheated with a girl lol , you are a funny ass 1
Hell yeah!
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