Finding someone attractive vs. Being attracted to someone?

[Miss_Behave]

Random question just for fun.

Thoughts?

[akadatank44]

Finding someone attractive is like looking at a shiny new car. Being attracted like that car that's shiny and new has all the features you want.

Finding someone attractive is all visual. Being attracted to someone is all visual and all other things like personality and mutual interests.

[Miss_Behave]

I agree. That's a good analogy!

[akadatank44]

I'm glad you agree! Thanks!

[ASEXY]

It's sad that people these days can't tell the difference between the two... It depends on what kind of attractive you are describing and what kind of attraction you are describing.

[Miss_Behave]

ROFL... of course I can tell the difference.
I just wanna know what the difference is to people. I like hearing people's thoughts and opinions.

[ASEXY]

I know, I was just referring to people in general. I know that a lot of people think it's the same thing.

[IsabelGuimaraes]

Both are the same for me. People tend to call good-looking people attractive but they're only attractive if you're attracted to them. Not everyone that looks good is attractive at all.

[Miss_Behave]

I do agree with you in a way, tho I still think it's possible to find people attractive (i. e. they have a nice face/body) and still not be attracted to them (i. e. maybe their personality sucks).

Thank you for responding. I like hearing people's opinions on stuff :)

[Miss_Behave]

Oh, but I also think that if you're attracted to someone, you automatically find them attractive.

[IsabelGuimaraes]

Yes, haha, but they only have an attractive physical appearance, so I don't call good-looking people attractive. For example, ugly people can be attractive (even sexually attractive). I've been in love with a guy that had an ugly face, he was attractive for me. :)

[Miss_Behave]

Different strokes for different folks, I guess :P

I don't mean it in a mean way but I kinda laughed when you said about a guy with an ugly face. I don't know why but that sounded funny to me :P

[IsabelGuimaraes]

Lol, it's ok, he was everyday less and less ugly for me, but I always knew it was just my "heart" doing this to me, so yeah, he was ugly

[spencify]

Let's say you were good looking. I would find you attractive, but I would not be attracted to you because you are 34.

Difference is desire to be with them I guess

[Miss_Behave]

Yes, that's true.

On a side note: Trust me, it wouldn't even cross your mind that I'm even 30 if you were to see me in person ;)

[spencify]

Yeah, I'm sure you look 40+ :- D

Side note: does your name mean you behave or misbehave? i wonder each time i see your name

[Miss_Behave]

Ha, Behave or Misbehave... I shall leave that up to the individual's imagination!

[Yumix]

the first one is only about looks
the second one is caused by a mix of looks, personality, etc.

[Miss_Behave]

I agree. That's what I think as well.

[Qwertsy]

Finding someone attractive is a visual preference.

Being attracted to someone is a personality preference.

That's how I see it anyways.

[dolemite68]

ya i can think someone is objectively attractive but maybe they're not my type so i'm not attracted to them. like a lot of blonde girls for example, they're cute but i'm not a fan of blondes in general.

[AlwaysBelieving]

What @Yumix said. Add to it of "I want to get to know her better."

[angela_GA]

I think that's pretty much the same thing tbh lol

[reptocarl]

I think it's the same

[soosooboo2]

both for me loool