Is being attracted to someone and finding someone attractive the same?

[Anonymous]

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I find 3 women to be very attractive. I get chills when they post a new beautiful picture but the very idea of touching them sexually grosses me out. I could never do that.
I hope this will help you answer correctly. 😂

[AviatorTom]

No, they're not the same.

Being attracted to a woman means that I want to get her know her better, be in a relationship with her, and ultimately have sex with her. I was attracted to my SO on our first date.

Finding someone attractive means that they are pretty but there's no real desire to know them better or have sex with them. I find Gal Gadot attractive, but I have no intention of even meeting her.

[MCheetah]

The former is actually having romantic feelings/emotions for them, and the latter is more of a unbiased neutral stance. Like "Scarlett Johannson is considered a very attractive woman" even if you aren't personally attracted to her. Or, "Kim Kardashian has a very attractive body, even though I find her to be very annoying and I'd never date her."

[Pistolpete90]

It's like different states of hunger.

When you're attracted to someone, it's like your starving and they're the bowl of icecream - you crave to devour them all.

Finding someone attractive is like when you're full, look over and notice that yes, the icecream looks delicious, but you don't want to eat it.

[MelonSoda]

Nope. If you're attracted to someone, then you'll wanna be around them, take the effort to get to know them, actually want to date them, etc. If you find someone attractive, that's great, but it doesn't necessarily mean you want to date them or be with them or anything like that. So no, they are not the same thing.

[Greedier]

Finding someone attractive anyone can, even the commited couples.
It just means u looked at someone and found them attractive but no desire.

Now, being attracted involves loads of more feelings and similar...
Like, you'd like to date that person if possible.

That's what I think at least Lol😂

[Finchie40]

That’s not the same , just cuz you think someone looks attractive doesn’t mean you are attracted to them , Being attracted to someone means you want them in your arms etc. I am not gay what so ever but I see other guys at times and think he is a good looking guy that he probably gets tons of girls lol in no way shape or form do I want him in my arms lol

[20yearsolder]

No, Just because someone is attracted doesn't mean that you are attracted to them

[20yearsolder]

Yes, you find them attractive, they are gorgeous But you don't want to be sucking on boobies and touching coochie. Lol

[Asker]

Correct

[loveslongnails]

You answered the question for your own point of view. Does that apply to men as well? I think they're two separate things. I can certainly find a woman to be attractive in the abstract, and not "feel" attracted to or stimulated by her. Something to do with "not being my type".

[Asker]

I won't get aroused unless I view him as a potential husband.

[loveslongnails]

So if you view him as a potential husband, which are you - attracted to him, or you find him attractive? I presume it's the former?

[Asker]

Both. I can't be attracted to him if he is not attractive.

[loveslongnails]

So, can you find a man attractive and NOT be attracted to him, i. e., see him as a potential hubby?

[Asker]

If I see him as a potential husband then it means I am both attracted to him and I find him attractive.
But if he is attractive in a sense that he is a little above average then I feel no attraction.
I can still see good features but I won't feel the urge for thinking about him.

[Jamie05rhs]

@marish01 I know what you're saying.

[Fireguy17]

I do not think so.
Just because someone looks nice, that does not guarantee that they are a nice person that you would enjoy being around them.
Like judge judy says, beauty fades, dumb is forever.
For me personality is far more important than someone that just looks pretty.

[awkward_author]

It is not. Being attracted to someone means you desire some form of non-platonic relationship with them, even if it's just for the night. Finding someone attractive, on the other hand, is when you look at someone and acknowledge that they're attractive.

[Mavie123]

Being attracted to someone it means you like them in many levels.
You feel something for them.
, but finding someone attractive means you think someone is hot or good looking.
You can find many hot people it doesn't mean you will date them all

[Jamie05rhs]

Hmm. Technically, no. Because I think "being attracted to" means you're attracted to their whole person. You actually want THEM. Whereas just finding someone attractive just means you think they're hot in an objective way but not in a personal way. I hope that makes sense.

[Shy_Steve]

Being attracted to someone is when you usually think about them when they are not with you and finding someone attractive is just when you see someone and you find them attractive so that's the difference.

But it might be completely different for you Women so I don't know.

[thatonearies]

Yes. I feel like being attracted to someone is less superficial than finding someone attractive, which sounds like attraction simply based on looks and the perception of how you see them without really knowing them.

[TwinkleLily5]

No, I’ve dated an attractive (fine) guy that I just wasn’t attracted to. I also became attracted to an unattractive (look wise) guy because of his personality.

[WalterBlack]

It's not the same thing. Many times I have seen women that I found visually appealing, aka "attractive", but did not have any interest in pursuing her romantically or sexually.

[DaveJord]

No I would say not at all, I have been physically attracted to women. I have found many women pretty and very sexy, but I was not in least attracted to them personally. But I would of banged them any.

[FreyaRed]

There are different types of attraction. Finding another girl elegant and appealing isn't sexual attraction, you just want to identificate with her.

[Asker]

Plus, It is just eye candy

[jshm2]

What are you? Some mentally underdeveloped tween?

You should know the difference between infatuation and attraction by the time you finish high school.

[jahaims]

Nope. I can tell when a male is attractive but I am not attracted to males.

[Interstate]

You have to be attracted to them to find them attractive.

[TacosRAwesome]

Not the same. Finding someone attractive for me means they look aesthetically pleasing, whereas being attracted means you want to sex them up.

[exitseven]

No, somebody might be considered attractive but they are not attractive to me for one reason as another.

[Subarugirl]

Let put it this way, just because you like the way something looks doesn't meant you would want to wear it. That make sense?

[sheikalana]

Nope. Otherwise we would be attracted to a bunch of people at the same time.

[Smartman5]

No, these are different things. I am attracted to many famous men, but I do not find them sexually attractive.

[Guardian45]

No, being attracted to someone is magnetism. Finding someone attractive does NOT mean I want them!

[Anonymous]

you're sexually aroused by them. One study showed 90% of women being sexually aroused by pics of women

[Asker]

No, I'm not. I have never been aroused by their pictures

[Opinion Owner]

Denial

[Asker]

I'm being serious. I have never felt arousal when looking at a woman. Never

[Opinion Owner]

1. I dont really care. 2. Ill never care. 3. If I said "I like looking at mens bodies" what would you say

[Asker]

I like looking at several women's body because it shows the outfit well.

[Opinion Owner]

Listen bitch the reason you posted this is for attention. you're playing into the lesbian fetish thing. While being holier than thou while you're at it. If this is how you act, you're genetic garbage. Extremely unaware and fake

[Asker]

How can I have lesbo fetish if I have never gotten wet from seeing women kiss?

[Subarugirl]

Let put it this way, just because you like the way something looks doesn't meant you would want to wear it. That make sense?

[Opinion Owner]

@Subarugirl so you two are one if the 10% who love looking at women but dont get aroused. Fuck off. Borderline autistics

[Subarugirl]

well according to a study I found. 93% of men engage in intimate activity with another man at some point in his life.. so you're one to talk.

[Asker]

@Subarugirl he is one of the boys who is obsessed with the idea that all women are bi. He can't understand that I am 100% straight. I have never once got ticklish feelings down there from looking at a woman or women

[Opinion Owner]

@Subarugirl LOL

[Opinion Owner]

Im just purturbed at this bitch asking a useless question to get attention

[Subarugirl]

I know... 2 can play the game of made up statistics and confirmation bias... LOL

[Subarugirl]

@marish01 in all fairness attraction and arousal are a lot more complicated than a "ticklish" feeling. If you're straight, just say that, you don have to justify it. Also, no one really has the right to question it.

[Opinion Owner]

@Subarugirl Those stats werent made up. They came from an actual psychologist who found women are visual meaning they do get aroused by pics. Usually by pics of women, hence why lesbian is BY FAR the most popular genre for women

[Subarugirl]

Which psychologist? Which study? Was it previewed by other scientist in the same field? Were the findings able to be repeated?

[Asker]

@Subarugirl but if I am not aroused, not turned on by seeing the most beautiful women then is this itself not evidence that I am 100% straight?

[Subarugirl]

No it's not, because attraction, sexual orientation, and arousal are not that simple, and are not all the same thing. I am not questioning your sexual orientation, I'm just saying it's not quite so black and white.

[Opinion Owner]

It's simple, you just have to make t complex because you're a faggot in denial

[Subarugirl]

My bad for thinking you were old enough to posses at least a little intelligence. But hey if you want to continue this conversation, pull up that study you biased you entire stance one... unless you can't. In that case don't feel bad, lots of people make things up to make them selves better.

[Asker]

@Subarugirl so if I show 0 sign of arousal and 0 urge for being with a woman then how is this not evidence that I have 0% bisexuality?

[Subarugirl]

Because it’s not that black and white. I would recommend reading up on sexuality and sexual orientation

[Asker]

@Subarugirl
😂😂😂
Then answer my question.
What kind of feeling or behavior could I have that would mean I feel sexual attraction towards women when I feel 0 arousal when seeing any woman or lesbian act and feel 0 attraction from seeing the woman I find to be the most beautiful?

[Opinion Owner]

@Subarugirl Why isn't it black and white? Why can't it be easy and simple? Why do you need it to be too complex to make a judgement about? Why are you afraid of being judged? Why are you a sensitive pussy? Do you have low testosterone? Why dont you shut the fuck up then and stop posing?

[Subarugirl]

@marish01because human sexuality is complicated. These are questions you have to ask for your self.

[Asker]

@Subarugirl Answer my question. You disagreed with my statement that my lack of arousal for womdn and lack of urge for sex with women are not evidence of me being straight. So then what could mean I am sexually attracted to women if I feel 0 sexual arousal and 0 sexual attraction for them?
Nothing is complicated here. My sexual orientation is simple.
0 sexual desire for women and 0 sexual arousal towards women=0 bisexuality or homosexuality.

If I am physically disgusted by the idea of me performing oral sex on women how would this not mean I feel 0 sexual desire for women?

[Subarugirl]

I can’t answer that for you because sexual orientation and attraction is specific to the person.. I can however tell you that it is possible to not be aroused by someone you are sexually attracted to the same way it’s possible to be sexually aroused by someone you aren’t attracted to

[Asker]

@Subarugirl okay that is true when it comes to attraction to an imdividual but I am talking about one whole gender.
No one representing the female gender could make me feel sexual arousal or attraction.

[Subarugirl]

Exactly!

[Opinion Owner]

Its not complex. If you wanna hump or get humped by a girl then you are gay. My god. Just imagine a guy told you this about guys and you might finally comprehend that you're gay

[Asker]

@Subarugirl which means I am 100% straight.

[Subarugirl]

I’m not saying that you aren’t 100% straight

[007kingifrit]

no. you can recognize the looks of another without being into them

[bananathunder]

i would guess so... something about them has to be attractive to you

[fireforeffect]

I would say no, they are not the same.

[Hangry06]

Yeah

[Wise4myage]

It is in my opinion.

[ND4SPD31]

I think so yes.

[Anonymous]

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