I used to struggle so much with it since I had so little interest in talking about things like food, music, felt indifferent about the weather ("yeah it's really hot today, so what?"), etc. But I tried to pay attention to people who could do it well and I noticed they could express such enthusiasm about these topics like, "Hell yeah, I it's awesome!!! Have you tried [...]?" and could become so animated in a way I thought was infectious and fun.
So I tried to copy that kind of thing a bit and it felt fake at first to assert myself and try to show greater enthusiasm over such insignificant things, but it started to become second nature. After that I really started to enjoy small talk, and getting better at it (still not great) was so helpful in making friends and just having a more pleasant time interacting with people throughout the day.
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People often hate it more so now than back in the day because of them being used to texting. It becomes awkward. When texting you can take your time to think of what to say & delete what might sound too much or weird. When it comes to having small talk you have to hold your own & keep the conversation going before those awkward silences hit. I'm personally fine with it but I see so many people struggle with it.
To me, it gets very awkward... No-one really has a full blown conversation with me at all. Teachers ask, "How's your summer break? Did you have fun?" I simply nodded and no-one said anything else.
Maybe because I'm not a talking and always keep my mind to myself.
It can be difficult depending on the amount of anxiety I'm feeling.. Hair cuts are usually okay. Its more like small talk at gatherings, family functions, or with people I just met that are difficult.
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You need small talks to make a connection and make yourself familiar to the other person. Then you can move on to the big talks. Otherwise you'd be labeled a creep if you started asking weird or personal questions to a stranger.
I hate it. there's only few times you talk about the weather.
It's fine I guess, but the only starter I have is "How was your day?" And that doesn't really work so well in the morning...
I feel appriciated and connected, when I smalltalk with some one. My dream guy is a man, who can small and deep talk for ages.
Sometimes I’m great at it, other times I feel like an alien
I don't mind it. You can always progress from small talk into other conversations, or just say have a good day and keep it moving.
Most times I am amazing at small talk then sometimes I'm constantly saying oops because I've offended several people several times within several seconds.
A sign u ain't got anything to talk about but don't want to sit in quiet
Sometimes interesting, sometimes reaaaallly awkward
Hate it. Don't talk to me unless you have something important to say.
Most of the time Pointless... but when its a person that i like or really want to know more in that case i enjoy it...
It's amazing! It's sloppy and funny at the same time... The thing is that most of the people don't see it that way. Its also really uncomfortable but that's what makes it amazing hahaha
Its fine. But it create some awkwardness when both are out of words..
Is the same when you are at airport and ask for information to a land worker and he/she wishes a nice flight and your answer is "I WISH YOU TOO"
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You have to maintain social skills so it's good to have all kinds of conversation
I don't know too much about small talk but I do love Pillow Talk
I'm neutral on it
like yeah I know the weather's fine big dealI find it vapid and bothersome
I get why it is a thing but I do not appreciate itPointless, and unnecessary
I am really bad at small talk, it's pointless and makes things awkward.
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