Are You Good At small talk?

Question

I am not I’m kinda awkward.

MemeSupreme · Accepted Answer

no  i  hate it

BrookeS · Accepted Answer

No way

Apple1996 · Answer

Yeah I love small talk

Anonymous · Answer

Not really. I don’t like meaningless chatter. But I know it’s important especially when getting to know an acquaintance.

Also I know women generally like silly banter especially in dating. Laughing and acting goofy releases feel good brain chemicals. Even Marilyn Monroe once famously quoted “if you can get a woman to laugh you can make her do anything”

I have to be in the right state of mind to act that way. It just doesn’t come naturally to me. I literally have to manually force my brain to tease, kid and laugh when conversing with a woman I like. Once I am in the mindset I can comfortably keep doing it. But again it’s not usually my initial thought process.

yepdonethat · Answer

FORD method. Talk about Family, Occupation, Recreation, or Dreams. Gets people talking all of the time. However if someone is shy or just a loner, you won't get them talking. So maybe you are not bad at small talk you have just run into people who don't want to talk. LOL. But if someone is willing to talk, use FORD and then reciprocate your own stories, you will have conversations for hours. But if you run into someone like me, who is very private, it's not going to work. I am very careful about who I talk to and what I talk about.

Account · Answer

I am terrible unless I rehearse it in my head prior to it happening, which is impossible in many cases since small talk sometimes occurs in unexpected scenarios.

I am not good at all, but somehow people either don't seem to mind it or they ignore my awkwardness.

I get better and better socially the more time I spend around people I don't know that well though.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Not really. I tend to talk too much.

sawno · Answer

I hate small talk, I prefer my conversations deep and meaningful. Could I carry a small talk conversation long enough for it to escalate into a deep one? Yeah absolutely, but if the other person isn't allowing it to escalate into an interesting conversation and we only just met its probably the only conversation we will ever have.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I was terrible when younger, very good now.  Christ changing my heart opened me up and gave me a reason to care about others rather than being in fear. ones perspective changes everything.

Saiesh30 · Answer

Oh I'm a pro at that lol.
Smalls talks are my forte haha
But as soon as the talk turns to the opposite I become a listener than a speaker. All I do is nod and give expressions saying yeah I'm here haha

HawkPerception · Answer

I'm extremely awkward with small talk and prefer avoiding it altogether. I prefer getting right into deep stuff.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Pretty good at the small talk, I prefer longer conversations that allows me to get to know someone though.

fuddly · Answer

What I've discovered about small talk
And "putting your foot in it"
Which i have done numerous times!

Is that it's more important where your heart is, than thinking up the next funny thing to say

In other words if you are well meaning in the broadest sense, you don't need to fear saying the wrong thing.

Maybe I'm going off topic🙂

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I am good.  My social skills are far better in real life.

Cody2004 · Answer

When I talk to people I feel out the type of person they are when we talk and then I just go along with maybe that's messed up I'm not too sure. I like avoiding conflict if possible

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I've gotten better, id say the best advice would be have a few go to topics already and whenever you meet people you gonna small talk with, you use these topics, just make them valid tho, weather talk boring 😆

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I think I could be good at it. But I have no intentions to waste my time; or that of others.

Kpersaud2 · Answer

Honestly no, that’s why I try to pick dates where we are actively doing things so small talk is kept to a minimum.  At least until we sit to eat or drink

FreyaRed · Answer

I have some trained phrases for patients but generally I use language as rhetoric or suggestion

Drew-1990 · Answer

I would say no, I think if I was I would attract more girls but I pretty sure I come off as awkward during the small talk.

Dargil · Answer

With friends and people I know and like. Storytelling. Let me tell you about when I was approached by the bear in my campsite... ***yawn***

82lynx · Answer

Heck no. I hate it, especially when someone brings up the weather. Anyone who complains to me about snow will have me wanting to kick a field goal with their behind.

Minahh · Answer

I hate them. Just as Mia said.

ManOnFire · Answer

It's a pretty easy, standard thing to do. Just don't take yourself too seriously.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm very good at it but it doesn't come naturally or easily. It takes a lot of effort. I've just had years and years of practice. Because it takes such effort I still don't like it.

Nahid1707 · Answer

Always a surprise to me you 2005 babies are 18 now.

SweetDripp · Answer

No. I struggle to keep a conversation going most of the time.

Massageman · Answer

I would be HAPPY to be "kinda awkward". It would be a big improvement for me. I get down to brass tacks and people get stuck!

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I actually hate it. I try to be bad on purpose to just stop it asap.

serious_miss419 · Answer

Yes and no. It’s very circumstantial. However I always chew gum when I’m not home and it helps not get into talks with people.

clampfan101 · Answer

I’m terrible at starting conversations, but a really good listener and sometimes okay at keeping a conversation going.

Anonymous · Answer

i can talk for days if i need to and i can keep quiet for days if i need to

Paris13 · Answer

And Longer. xxoo

DJB72 · Answer

It's a life skill. Nobody starts out good at it

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Yea. Because Im usually on the go

Rangers · Answer

No, I don't really like people and I'm quiet

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Depends on the chemistry

Anonymous · Answer

Small talk is for people that are intellectually stupid and have no social skills

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Nah I hate trying to do small talk.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I am but I sometimes find it awkward too.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

I can do it but I dread it.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

I kick ass at small talk.

MrZameer · Answer

Small talk mean? 🤔🤔🤔

sheikalana · Answer

I detest small talk.

HotLentilzzz · Answer

No. NO. Not at ALLL.

lildkman1010 · Answer

I’m good if the chemistry is there

DreamLife7 · Answer

It's pointless and I'm not interested in it

serenalovesramen · Answer

im good at talking

Slapmynuts · Answer

I like to think I am! 😁

dolemite58 · Answer

When I need to be, I don’t like it tho

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Heck no.

darkforcebooty · Answer

not really

kareka · Answer

Yea i am i think

OtterMan68 · Answer

no, I HATE it!

ClauseJansen · Answer

let's try

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Im sick of it

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No. I hate it.

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