Why are people more tolerant of female pedophiles?

Whenever I read about cases of female pedophilia I often see comments that say the boy was lucky or he definitely enjoyed it. However, when genders are switched people are enraged. Why does this happen? Whether a teenage boy would fantasize about an older woman or not he still isn't old enough to give consent.

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  • It's a serious double standard.
    I applied to many things not just pedophilla.
    If a woman violates a guy , the media couldn't care less
    Swap the genders now it's some serious news.

    Shop is selling joke dog bowl as a gift for your male friend.
    No one cares.
    Female joke dog bowl, everyone starts to boycott it.

    Woman assaults man, media: sleeps
    Man hits woman in self defense,
    Media: WhY aRe AlL mEn sO ViOlEnT nOwAdAyS?

    People are tolerant because the media doesn't show both sides properly.

    And the media doesn't show both sides as it is people react more when women are the victims.

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  • TL;DR: people can be stupid and shortsighted.

    First, boys and girls are raised differently, with different sets of expectations from sex. Boys are raised to want sex, and lots of it, and perceive it as a mostly low-risk activity. For Girls, sex - while on the one hand pleasurable - is something darker, more dangerous. Risks range from pregnancy to rape and even murder. Most men can easily physically overpower most women and girls, and this is something that girls are HYPER AWARE of. This is part of why women are so discriminating with who they have sex with - a sexual partner must meet the basic requirement of "doesn't seem like the kind of guy who would harm or threaten me". Even Prostitutes make this calculation. While men occasionally worry about being robbed by girls they bring home, women worry about being raped, assaulted or murdered. Men in bars drink to work up "Dutch courage" to flirt with a woman. Girls drink to drown their fears of being raped and murdered by some suave fuckboy. Hence, male rapists are vilified by women and girls (as well as the men who support them), because they're considered a threat to the welfare of all women and girls. This is also why MeToo is such a powerful and effective campaign, and people have zero tolerance of men who sleep with underage girls.

    For men (i. e. ex boys), the idea of an older women having sex with an underage male does not recall a fear of violence and coercion. It rather recalls an image of a particularly attractive female educator whose breasts they lusted after during a particularly boring class in secondary school. The idea of sleeping with a secondary school teacher seems as harmless as eating an ice-cream. You've probably been told that the high fat and sugar content of ice-cream is bad for your health, but you never paid much heed to it. The same goes for sleeping with an older woman.

    And hence ehebophilia and even paedophilia by women doesn't get the same social condemnation. Most people don't have the time or inclination to research the damage it can inflict on a boy's mental and sexual health. They don't think about the subtle ways an older woman can emotionally manipulate and abuse a teenage boy (and while women occasionally physically abuse the boys that they rape, they more often rely on emotional and psychological manipulation). This harm is far more abstract and therefore difficult to understand and empathise with than the often visible scars of a girl who was raped.

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    • This is really well thought out. Hope people actually take the time to read this. It's deserving of MHO.

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    • @Highsxhoolstudent15 Oh definitely, and it's something men also fear more than rape by a woman. Look at how differently Kevin Spacey and Asia Argento got treated, while being accused of basically the same category of crime. The rational part of my brain is capable of accepting that if the accusation made by Jimmy Bennett is true, then he definitely suffered at the hands (and emotional manipulation) of Asia Argento. And this suffering isn't any lesser than that of any of Kevin Spacey's victims. However, she doesn't trigger the same disgust and primal terror that Kevin Spacey does, even accounting for the fact that he is a serial creep.

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  • Because people have been conditioned to believe that all guys want is sex, so there is no sympathy for male victims, young or old.

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  • Female Pedo: Hey kid, you want some candy? ͡° ͜ʖ ͡ –
    Society: *sleeps*

    Male Pedo: Hey kid, you want some candy? ͡° ͜ʖ ͡ –
    Society: S KK RHEOWIEJSIAOO3U4E9AKBFKSMSBS THIS IS BAD SOMEBODY CALL THE POPO

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  • First, pedophile means "attracted to PREpubescent children". The vast majority of these stories are referring to post-pubescent teens.

    And most men recall their own teen years, when from the age of around 11-13, they found themselves obsessed with women and sex, and fantasized about the hot young mom down the street along with the hot girls his age at school. For most men, they know damn well that they'd have been willing and eager participants in having sex with an attractive older (20s or early 30s} woman. She wouldn't have needed to trick or manipulate him in any way.

    That's far less likely to be true with similar-aged girls and older men (but there definitely are cases when young girls know exactly what they are doing and initiate it). It's much more common that the young girl had to be persuaded or manipulated, and perhaps more importantly, a young teen girl is far less able to deal with a pregnancy than a middle aged woman having sex with a young man.

    You can't ever discount biology, and biology isn't interested in "being fair".

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    • You are prejudiced. Its not much much common for girls to be manipulated by older men. I wonder where you got your info from but most girls approach older men and are fine with it. Its kept in secret. Its usually those who are forced that end up with issues

      Sure boys are hornier but that doesn't mean an adult doesn't have power over them. All adults have power over a child and the women usually take advantage of him if they approach him. Its the reason why its ILLEGAL.

      You are basing your judgement and argument from sex but that is not enough to justify a perverse adult going after a child. There is much more to it and the law and people know that.

    • @Pufffgirl thankyou puff, thus guy makes no sense

  • I don’t think people are more tolerant of female pedophiles. Maybe the difference is when ignorant people say things like, “oh he obviously wanted it”. I think we all have a pretty different initial reaction when that sentence says “oh she obviously wanted it.” I don’t know. That was just something that occurred to me.

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  • I was raped by a female they laughed at me and she didn't do any jail time nanda slap on the wrist and called her sick till this day she still rapes little kids and gets away with it

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  • There isn't a good reason.
    Mostly because our society doesn't value men and boys at all. Antiquated notions about sexuality is up there too. This is proof that "feminists fight for equality" is an outright lie. Feminists are standing up for boys and men sexually assaulted by women. In their minds women can do no wrong.

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    • "Feminists AREN'T standing up for men and boys..."

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    • I'll gladly wait from now until the end of time, but I can save you some time blubbering bullshit and excuses... IT HAS NEVER HAPPENED. It never will either. You may have a point about most of the neanderthals who hold antiquated views of sexuality also likely being anti-feminist. However, absolutely no prominent feminist or feminist organization has ever fought the rights of men and boys, period. I'm exceptionally well-read on this matter and I absolutely defy you to produce evidence to the contrary. Take your time; you'll need plenty of it.

    • That's what I thought. Just another ignorant clown. Given the opportunity to provide proof of your claims, you produce NOTHING but more rhetoric. Go drink a gallon of bleach you useless twat.

  • Well a man gets a 12 year old pregnant and he's a monster. A 12 year old get a woman pregnant and he needs to pay child support.

    I guess people see men as the responsible ones regardless of age. Very infantalising.

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    • This is one of the many examples of how a patriarchal culture can be harmful to men as well

    • I live in a place that has more of an issue with class to be fair. It's not about being a man or woman it's about how much cash you have.

  • Its the what I call the porn fantasy seeping into reality where it distorts it plus also a little bit of numbers (I have no facts and figures) but I presume that in cases reported/investigated the older person is a man plus a thought just struck me a post pubescent girl can get pregnant - None of above are offered as excuses just thoughts of the top of my head

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  • Men are never really looked at as real victims. No one really gives a shit about the stuff we go through. If you express it, you're perceived as being weak and people who you think were friends will judge and abandon you.

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  • Cause that's not pedophilia, it's ephebophilia, which people care much less about for both genders. However fathers are still more protective of daughters, and feminists think women have no agency and are victims of the world.

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  • It seems the general attitude is that only women can be victims. Therefore, any sexual crime committed against a male is simply laughed off.

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  • Because women get societal protection, men are protectors and therefore expected to protect themselves, men who can't are weak and not worthy of life as they can't fulfill their purpose. If he didn't want to be married at 12 he should have done things differently. Another example is how no one cares how many men die at war (and women will shame men into enlisting under certain condition, as shown by the white feather girls), men who get raped are often laughed at by police. Men are disposable, it's why we're sent off to war and expected to work in jobs that can kill us.

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  • Actually 2 days a go a 26 year old girl on here said she finds 12-16 year old boys attractive and she want to know why she does like guys her own age. The whole comment section was people calling her a Pedophiles. So I don't think anyone is more tolerant of female than males.

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  • It’s because society sees women as weak and unable to take advantage of or overpower men physically or mentally. Society sees men as strong and as the aggressors, always willing a ready for sex.
    This is one of the many examples of how a patriarchal culture can be harmful and backfire on boys and men

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  • Because it goes under the radar owing to the titles of nurturer given to women. Our generalization is that we earnt our trust by sticking it out courageously and patiently.
    There are free riders on this grand title who mis use it for such endeavors.

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  • I am pissed off you don't ever do that.. that ain't right.
    Let the child have a childhood not some kinda of shit like they did.
    This needs to stop noe and right here right now.
    No exuses.

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  • Most of the public are against female pedophilles just as they are against males. Its just that we put importance on minority of perverted men who promote it. They don't represent the majority.

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    • LOL they made the guy look pld and creepy and made the woman attractive. There is also a lot of stigma and horrible history attached to girls being slaves and married to old men unwillingly. This is coming from third world countries as you can see most people who stood up for her were from those lands. There is no such thing for boys so people take it as a joke.

      I saw a more fair experiment on what would you do that portrayed evetyday life more and it used teachers instead.

    • It looks like hoax too. That must be illegal

  • People care less about male victims. Its just how society operates.

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  • I would make a men are perverts joke but I wouldn't
    want this to happen to my son.

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  • Because we live in a freaking weird world.

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  • Because most guys don’t care

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  • Its because of sexism and stupidity.

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