Why are people more tolerant of female pedophiles?

Whenever I read about cases of female pedophilia I often see comments that say the boy was lucky or he definitely enjoyed it. However, when genders are switched people are enraged. Why does this happen? Whether a teenage boy would fantasize about an older woman or not he still isn't old enough to give consent.

https://youtu.be/dMwtASguRU0

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  • TL;DR: people can be stupid and shortsighted.

    First, boys and girls are raised differently, with different sets of expectations from sex. Boys are raised to want sex, and lots of it, and perceive it as a mostly low-risk activity. For Girls, sex - while on the one hand pleasurable - is something darker, more dangerous. Risks range from pregnancy to rape and even murder. Most men can easily physically overpower most women and girls, and this is something that girls are HYPER AWARE of. This is part of why women are so discriminating with who they have sex with - a sexual partner must meet the basic requirement of "doesn't seem like the kind of guy who would harm or threaten me". Even Prostitutes make this calculation. While men occasionally worry about being robbed by girls they bring home, women worry about being raped, assaulted or murdered. Men in bars drink to work up "Dutch courage" to flirt with a woman. Girls drink to drown their fears of being raped and murdered by some suave fuckboy. Hence, male rapists are vilified by women and girls (as well as the men who support them), because they're considered a threat to the welfare of all women and girls. This is also why MeToo is such a powerful and effective campaign, and people have zero tolerance of men who sleep with underage girls.

    For men (i. e. ex boys), the idea of an older women having sex with an underage male does not recall a fear of violence and coercion. It rather recalls an image of a particularly attractive female educator whose breasts they lusted after during a particularly boring class in secondary school. The idea of sleeping with a secondary school teacher seems as harmless as eating an ice-cream. You've probably been told that the high fat and sugar content of ice-cream is bad for your health, but you never paid much heed to it. The same goes for sleeping with an older woman.

    And hence ehebophilia and even paedophilia by women doesn't get the same social condemnation. Most people don't have the time or inclination to research the damage it can inflict on a boy's mental and sexual health. They don't think about the subtle ways an older woman can emotionally manipulate and abuse a teenage boy (and while women occasionally physically abuse the boys that they rape, they more often rely on emotional and psychological manipulation). This harm is far more abstract and therefore difficult to understand and empathise with than the often visible scars of a girl who was raped.

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    • This is really well thought out. Hope people actually take the time to read this. It's deserving of MHO.

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      @Phanta I'm not your son.
      I'm also not talking about sexual differences, I'm talking about how society treats child sexual abuse.
      Please read before critiquing.

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      I've read it and understand what you're talking about. But you destroy any good from your message with the LIE that some women rape boys. They do not. And you say *nothing* about biological differences (outside of the physical power difference) and only talk about their being raised differently. These things create an extreme distortion of reality.

  • It's a serious double standard.
    I applied to many things not just pedophilla.
    If a woman violates a guy , the media couldn't care less
    Swap the genders now it's some serious news.

    Shop is selling joke dog bowl as a gift for your male friend.
    No one cares.
    Female joke dog bowl, everyone starts to boycott it.

    Woman assaults man, media: sleeps
    Man hits woman in self defense,
    Media: WhY aRe AlL mEn sO ViOlEnT nOwAdAyS?

    People are tolerant because the media doesn't show both sides properly.

    And the media doesn't show both sides as it is people react more when women are the victims.

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  • Female Pedo: Hey kid, you want some candy? ͡° ͜ʖ ͡ –
    Society: *sleeps*

    Male Pedo: Hey kid, you want some candy? ͡° ͜ʖ ͡ –
    Society: S KK RHEOWIEJSIAOO3U4E9AKBFKSMSBS THIS IS BAD SOMEBODY CALL THE POPO

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  • Because people have been conditioned to believe that all guys want is sex, so there is no sympathy for male victims, young or old.

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  • First, pedophile means "attracted to PREpubescent children". The vast majority of these stories are referring to post-pubescent teens.

    And most men recall their own teen years, when from the age of around 11-13, they found themselves obsessed with women and sex, and fantasized about the hot young mom down the street along with the hot girls his age at school. For most men, they know damn well that they'd have been willing and eager participants in having sex with an attractive older (20s or early 30s} woman. She wouldn't have needed to trick or manipulate him in any way.

    That's far less likely to be true with similar-aged girls and older men (but there definitely are cases when young girls know exactly what they are doing and initiate it). It's much more common that the young girl had to be persuaded or manipulated, and perhaps more importantly, a young teen girl is far less able to deal with a pregnancy than a middle aged woman having sex with a young man.

    You can't ever discount biology, and biology isn't interested in "being fair".

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    • You are prejudiced. Its not much much common for girls to be manipulated by older men. I wonder where you got your info from but most girls approach older men and are fine with it. Its kept in secret. Its usually those who are forced that end up with issues

      Sure boys are hornier but that doesn't mean an adult doesn't have power over them. All adults have power over a child and the women usually take advantage of him if they approach him. Its the reason why its ILLEGAL.

      You are basing your judgement and argument from sex but that is not enough to justify a perverse adult going after a child. There is much more to it and the law and people know that.

    • @Pufffgirl thankyou puff, thus guy makes no sense

  • It's a society norm not to say it's right but is visually acceptable since it was more exposed and justified how it is and everything associated with it. There are pros and cons. Depends on which side you're in or what you believe or perceive to be acceptable for you.

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  • I don’t think people are more tolerant of female pedophiles. Maybe the difference is when ignorant people say things like, “oh he obviously wanted it”. I think we all have a pretty different initial reaction when that sentence says “oh she obviously wanted it.” I don’t know. That was just something that occurred to me.

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  • I was raped by a female they laughed at me and she didn't do any jail time nanda slap on the wrist and called her sick till this day she still rapes little kids and gets away with it

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  • There isn't a good reason.
    Mostly because our society doesn't value men and boys at all. Antiquated notions about sexuality is up there too. This is proof that "feminists fight for equality" is an outright lie. Feminists are standing up for boys and men sexually assaulted by women. In their minds women can do no wrong.

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    • "Feminists AREN'T standing up for men and boys..."

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    • I'll gladly wait from now until the end of time, but I can save you some time blubbering bullshit and excuses... IT HAS NEVER HAPPENED. It never will either. You may have a point about most of the neanderthals who hold antiquated views of sexuality also likely being anti-feminist. However, absolutely no prominent feminist or feminist organization has ever fought the rights of men and boys, period. I'm exceptionally well-read on this matter and I absolutely defy you to produce evidence to the contrary. Take your time; you'll need plenty of it.

    • That's what I thought. Just another ignorant clown. Given the opportunity to provide proof of your claims, you produce NOTHING but more rhetoric. Go drink a gallon of bleach you useless twat.

  • Well a man gets a 12 year old pregnant and he's a monster. A 12 year old get a woman pregnant and he needs to pay child support.

    I guess people see men as the responsible ones regardless of age. Very infantalising.

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    • This is one of the many examples of how a patriarchal culture can be harmful to men as well

    • I live in a place that has more of an issue with class to be fair. It's not about being a man or woman it's about how much cash you have.

  • Men are never really looked at as real victims. No one really gives a shit about the stuff we go through. If you express it, you're perceived as being weak and people who you think were friends will judge and abandon you.

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  • Its the what I call the porn fantasy seeping into reality where it distorts it plus also a little bit of numbers (I have no facts and figures) but I presume that in cases reported/investigated the older person is a man plus a thought just struck me a post pubescent girl can get pregnant - None of above are offered as excuses just thoughts of the top of my head

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  • Cause that's not pedophilia, it's ephebophilia, which people care much less about for both genders. However fathers are still more protective of daughters, and feminists think women have no agency and are victims of the world.

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  • It seems the general attitude is that only women can be victims. Therefore, any sexual crime committed against a male is simply laughed off.

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  • Because women get societal protection, men are protectors and therefore expected to protect themselves, men who can't are weak and not worthy of life as they can't fulfill their purpose. If he didn't want to be married at 12 he should have done things differently. Another example is how no one cares how many men die at war (and women will shame men into enlisting under certain condition, as shown by the white feather girls), men who get raped are often laughed at by police. Men are disposable, it's why we're sent off to war and expected to work in jobs that can kill us.

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  • I think it's because of the comparable rarity, the view that women are the submissive sex, and that women are the ones who are being entered, not men.

    Let put things in a way that might make this whole mess a bit less surprising: my father, a 65 year old man, just learned this month, that forcing someone to give you oral is rape. A fully grown man needed to have that explained...

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  • What's more disturbing is the people reacting to the older husband with anger and aggressive behavior while none of that to the woman.

    There's a natural urge to protect women and it's more acceptable to be violent towards men.

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  • because people (generally men) feel like any sex for a boy with a woman is a gift or something like that. there is a notion by some that men cannot be victims of abuse, rape, etc.

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  • Nobody gives a crap about guys and their feelings... oh that's right, we don't have any! (rolling eyes).

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  • I don't know. Also I don't know why but I think the kid in the video looks kinda like the kid who plays as young Michael Myers

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  • People are more tolerant of many things when it is a woman doing wrong.

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  • Because of female chauvinism. I personally think they should get double the sentences that men would get, because of the way they operate (i. e. psychologically and emotionally, instead of physically).

    Simples...

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  • Not in my country...
    Here there are laws and most people dont cross it.
    If anyone does, the people help out the kids and not simply talk double standards!
    Dont attack me you animal disguised creature!😂😂

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  • There is some physical factors. But what makes it worse is that a rape against a male might be prosecuted with a less harsh punishment than consensual sexual activity with a girl of age 15+.

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  • Because basically a woman cannot rape a man. It phisically cannot happen, because the boy is the one that realise sperms.
    Also to be honest most teen boys wouldn't mind it.

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    • Exactly. No rape involved

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    • @Puffgirl this kid doesn’t even get it.

    • @Nadim171 While I admit that chronological snobbery is by no means a successful method of persuasion, you must also admit that your "Sorry but this is science." statement does not stand. The sources I cited are peer-reviewed academic journal articles, statistics & documented facts from actual crimes on record, and information from experts in the field. Review my sources and critique them as needed. Simply ignoring information that contradicts your position does not help you support and improve your position.

      On your statement about problems identifying Muslim pedophiles, I would have to agree. Europe is reeling with a wave of absolutely brutal, documented crimes by "rapefugees" perpetrators, but still in denial.

  • Because if I was 12 and it happened with a hot woman it would make all my dreams come true if she was ugly though she definitely would need to face charges though

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  • I definitely didn't care about this consent nonsense when I was a teenager. We either turn back some of the sexual revolution, or we have to live with this reality.

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  • In my eyes, a pedophile is genderless... i don't care if he's a man or a woman...

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  • because people are full of shit that's why. However, all this is changing. You're getting one right wing lunatic being put in office after another all over the world specifically because of shit like this.

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  • You have touched upon a wide societal double standard. For any crime except perhaps killing her own children, women fair better in the legal system. And it goes beyond this. Women make up about 25% of the homeless and studies show that men are the victims of domestic violence at the hands of women about as often as the reverse, yet there are literally over 1000 times as many shelters for women as there are for men. A really good example of the prevalence of this double standard is the repeated tests of women hitting men in public vs. men being aggressive with women. In almost all case, the woman hitting the man is ignored. In some cases bystanders join in. In every case of a man being aggressive with a woman, bystanders intervene.

    The bottom line is that society treats men, except for the very wealthy and powerful ones, as disposable utilities.

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  • Because men are men and spciety doesn't think the same way they do about girls and boys. I can assure you i wouldve happily been fucked by a 28 hottie at 14

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  • It's probably true but why not sure. Women are usually affected mentally. Its hard not to. Men probably less so but still I'm sure there are times when they are.

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  • I never hear of any. I hear about tons of female teachers having sex with their males students but none of those are pedophiles. Pedophiles go after PRE PUBERTY youth, not semi-adult high schoolers who often worked and got married at 15-16 in years past. Those tough, rugged people would probably roll laughing at many of today's citizen's staying on their parent's healthcare until 25 and living with their mommies and daddies until age 25. They'd been working for a decade and probably had two or three kids already and today's youth still live at home whining about the government not giving them enough free stuff and bitching about how unfair and hard life is.

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  • Most likely because young males aren't traumatized by the experience of being molested by an older woman.

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  • Actually 2 days a go a 26 year old girl on here said she finds 12-16 year old boys attractive and she want to know why she does like guys her own age. The whole comment section was people calling her a Pedophiles. So I don't think anyone is more tolerant of female than males.

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  • It’s because society sees women as weak and unable to take advantage of or overpower men physically or mentally. Society sees men as strong and as the aggressors, always willing a ready for sex.
    This is one of the many examples of how a patriarchal culture can be harmful and backfire on boys and men

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  • Because it goes under the radar owing to the titles of nurturer given to women. Our generalization is that we earnt our trust by sticking it out courageously and patiently.
    There are free riders on this grand title who mis use it for such endeavors.

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  • I am pissed off you don't ever do that.. that ain't right.
    Let the child have a childhood not some kinda of shit like they did.
    This needs to stop noe and right here right now.
    No exuses.

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  • Most of the public are against female pedophilles just as they are against males. Its just that we put importance on minority of perverted men who promote it. They don't represent the majority.

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    • LOL they made the guy look pld and creepy and made the woman attractive. There is also a lot of stigma and horrible history attached to girls being slaves and married to old men unwillingly. This is coming from third world countries as you can see most people who stood up for her were from those lands. There is no such thing for boys so people take it as a joke.

      I saw a more fair experiment on what would you do that portrayed evetyday life more and it used teachers instead.

    • It looks like hoax too. That must be illegal

  • People care less about male victims. Its just how society operates.

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  • I would make a men are perverts joke but I wouldn't
    want this to happen to my son.

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  • Because we live in a freaking weird world.

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  • Because most guys don’t care

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  • Its because of sexism and stupidity.

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  • It’s really just double standards

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  • I think you mean why are *men* more tolerant of female pedophiles. Fucks sake, that man even gave him a high-five! Men are T R A S H... poor boy!

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  • Personally, I think it's just as gross. But I guess it has sort of become a thing of where women "arent as disgustingly sexual as men" (not true obviously) I hate it though. I remember having a teacher that was so weird she would flirt with all the guys it was gross.

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  • Because double standards

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    • For some reason, women are looked at as more innocent

  • Because of double standard

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