What should I do if I am a self hater?

[Anonymous]

I am indian and i don't like being indian i wish i was Latina middle Eastern white or half indian and half white. I have extreme self hate issue there is this beautiful Lebanese girl in my class i wish that i looked like her i hate looking indian and i also don't have attractive body unlike my Lebanese friend. also indian have worst stereotype like smelling like curry etc.

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I hate my life.

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Honestly if could change my race i would have loved to be a Turkish or Lebanese they look amazing and charming and i love their culture maybe i will continue being a self hater.

[N192K001]

You are what you are, so don't make it a burden.

You can change your citizenship, you can change your name, you can surgically change your face, but you cannot change your genetics, your true family-ties, and your bloodlines. Why hate what you cannot change?

Sure, love other cultures! (I do! I love Japan, Russia, Israel, and China. I've spent countless hours studying their languages, reading their literary works, watching their media, singing their songs, participating in their culture, and eating/cooking their foods, etc.) But don't hate what the achievements of your parents, forefathers, and other compatriots before you. (Even with all the many³, mindlessly-stupid problems of the my birth-country Philippines & naturalized-nation U. S., I still love them.) Gandhi's proclaimed concepts of अहिंसा ("ahimsa"; 「not to injure」/「compassion」) and सत्याग्रह ("satyagraha"; 「holding firmly to truth」/「truth force」) were fundamental to Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.'s Civil Rights movement in the U. S. Without കളരിപയറ്റ് ("Kalaripayattu"), Chinese martial arts wouldn't have existed. Heck, without शिद्धत्थ गोतम ("Siddhattha Gotama"), there'd be no Buddhism. What would China, Japan, Korea, Thailand, etc. look like? Beyond curry, from Chinese chopsticks that would spread across East Asia to Okinawan Karate to everyday-used loanwords in Filipino, many³ things are derived directly or indirectly from India. India's contribution to the world is immense!

If your self-hate is due to aesthetics, why judge yourself by foreign ideals of beauty? In East & Southeast Asia, white skin is considered beautiful, regardless of natural skin tones from birth. So dark-skinned foreigners (like African Americans) are considered hideous. Meanwhile, large posteriors are considered beautiful in the U. S., but is a foreign concept back in Asia. Standards vary across globe…!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RT9FmDBrewAhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D3c0HmhsQ1A

even across history!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xrp0zJZu0a4

And girls' feet were broken/bound in old China. European girls strangled themselves with corsets that suffocated them into fainting. In the U. S., Black people used x-rays to lighten their skin… only to get skin cancer.
These days, White people tan themselves to get a darker shade, while darker-skinned people back in the Southeast Asia purchase & lather on themselves skin-whitening creams. All of these people are trying to be something they're not, when they would be considered BEAUTIFUL AS THEY ALREADY ARE…in another side of the globe!

Isn't this ridiculous‽ So, go ahead: Love Turkey, the Middle East, and Latin Americas. But, also learn to love yourself, India, your heritage, and your people's achievements.

I'm a Filipino-American born in the Philippines. You still have your culture (mostly) intact. The Philippines lost it from the 1500's onward and now has the most diluted culture in the region. You have a proud history. Ours starts with the Spanish invasion. All the great achievements of our pre-invasion forefathers have been lost. We struggle to find their writings and, even if we find it, even professionals can't read without significant doubts & multiple alternate interpretations. We need foreign ancient records (with their own biases, blind-spots, and misunderstandings) to learn of our pre-Castillian history. And post-invasion history*? Our Revolutionary War was doomed to failure from the very beginning! The U. S. invasion was a "friendly"-fire back-stab that (apparently) inadvertently laid the groundwork for the 許寰哥 (Min Nan Pe̍h-ōe-jī: "Khó͘-hoân-ko"; 「Cojuangco」) clan's domination of the nation. We were invaded by the Japanese and, then, again by the Americans who declared us independent… while still a smoldering rubble from WWⅡ. We are an ever-conquered people.

Your curry, isn't to be demeaned. At least, Indian food/restaurants are popular! Ramayana & Kama Sutra are well-known. How about PH literature? Be proud!

[N192K001]

*Note: And during the Spanish occupation, we were invaded by the Brits and were under them for a brief 20 months (1762-1764). Then, the Spaniards returned. Since the British occupation was so short, it's rarely mentioned, unless you search for it specifically. Did I mention that we're an ever-conquered people?

[Asker]

Well my self hate is mainly because of looks and because people hate indians. I know india have achieved many things.

[N192K001]

Maybe, your just in the wrong side of the world. Where are you? In metropolitan areas, the racism shouldn't be too big an issue. Even in my side of North Carolina in the U. S., Indians are a significant segment of the market. They are generally wealthy from high, respected positions and/or thriving businesses. Are you in a more isolated area?

[Asker]

I live in Dubai.

[N192K001]

Yeah, things get tough for foreigners in the Middle East. Even my own father encountered… unpleasant treatments during his years in the region ("Saudi Arabia", in his case). I do not fault you for wanting to be a local Middle Easterner.

[Asker]

Well maybe because i was born in Dubai but i think middle eastern look better than indians.

[N192K001]

Understandable. Dubai has been a major part of your life.

The good news is that you can change if you really want to. Lebanese is actually the easiest nationality to acquire from the others you've mentioned. You just need to marry and stay married to a Lebanese for 1 year. That's it. No language test. No residency requirements, No nothing.
www.lebanonconsulate-uae.com/.../services_personal

Becoming a Turk requires either marriage for 3 years or residence in Turkey for 5 years.
https://www.konsolosluk.gov.tr/Procedure#7

For Latin America, the requirements may be tougher, requiring residency of 3-5 years and/or investments of $50k-100k.

India, unfortunately doesn't allow for dual-citizenship due to constitutional restrictions, so "totally not" citizenship "Overseas Citizen of India" can be acquired easily to maintain family-ties and easy-travel, etc. after acquiring your desired nationality.
https://ociservices.gov.in/
www.mea.gov.in/...-citizenship-of-india-scheme.htm

So, you CAN become Middle Eastern, in a technical sense if you really want to. My father wanted us to become Americans (technically) and he succeeded. I desired to re-activate my PH citizenship & go dual and succeeded. You can probably do the same if you want to, if that will cure your self-hatred.

[Evo6TommiMakinen]

Firstly dude you are not indian, you are a lebanase troll who act like a indian.
Secondly As a Turk myself please dont associate me with lebanase arab sand gyspies. They are ugly backwards arab desert people.
We Turks are not arab and have nothing to do with arabs. Dont associate us with them.
And Third Indians are much better than lebanase shitskin camel piss drinking sand gypsies.
I prefer a indian over a arab every single day.
Lebanase arabs should wish they have a stereotype like smelling curry because their stereotype is actually
this hahahahahaha

[Asker]

I am a indian honesty i like both Lebanese and Turkish people nothing wrong in it you shouldn't be racist to Lebanese.

[Evo6TommiMakinen]

Thanks as a Turk but you are not a Indıan
You are a lebanase

[Asker]

Common even you would accept it that Lebanese look better than indians.

[Asker]

I am indian.

[Evo6TommiMakinen]

No, Lebanase are arabs.
Arabs are ugliest people on earth.
Dark skin, huge nose, short height , hairy bodies. I didn't even mentioned their backwards culture yet.

On the other hand, India is a multicultural and diverse country. If we are gonna talk about looks of Indıans, we should decide first which ethnicity that lives in india , are we gonna talk about?
Aryans? Dradivanians? Turko-İranians? Mongoloids? etc. etc they all look different from each other..
I cannot say Indıans are best looking people on earth but still much better than arabs.

[Asker]

Who are best people on earth? Turkish?

[Evo6TommiMakinen]

Yes we Turks are best but not the Turkish (Turks in Turkey) ones
, Kazakh, Krygiz, Uzbeks and Mongolians are much better than us.
I am accepting it as a Turkish Turk.
They are pure blooded on the other hand we Turks in turkey is so much mixed.

[tempolocus]

you need to realize there’s absolutely nothing you can do to change your race. hating yourself for being indian is just unfair, so is wishing that you looked like this lebanese girl in your class. also, there are races w a lot worse stereotypes than “smelling like curry”. your body has nothing to do w your race as well.

[Asker]

Indian have worst body genetic middle eastern and latinas have best body.

[Asker]

Well Asian women body is worse than indian through.

[Giggletr0n]

Wow that is a whole lot of self loathing, sounds like your have a lot more going on then just wishing for the impossible! You should consult a medical professional, subtler things have been the root cause of a breakdown and yours is anything but subtle!

[Asker]

Well honestly hate is rational when you are indian.

[Giggletr0n]

It is? Why? I am white and so many people assume that I should hate my race but I don't!

[Asker]

Well you don't need to hate your race things are different with me.

[Giggletr0n]

But why do YOU feel like you need to hate your race? Surely it's not just because a girl of another race is prettier than you?

[Asker]

She is prettier than me because i look indian

[Giggletr0n]

That makes literally no sense as an argument also that isn't you hating your race that is you hating you specifically and for a variety of reasons. We both know no matter what anybody says on here you are just gonna deflect with the same answers, what exactly did you hope to gain from here? Even people with similar experiences will tell you to seek help!

[Asker]

I hate myself because i look indian

[Giggletr0n]

Yeah, you hate you being the race you are, not your race as a whole. That could literally be a dozen different issues that REQUIRE medical intervention in order for you to not have a later in life breakdown.

[Asker]

I don't hate indians i hate the fact that I am indian.

[Giggletr0n]

Yes I know, that's what I have been saying. To want to be something you're not is nothing new but to hate yourself so deeply is not a thing a person with a correctly functioning mind does over such a simple thing as jealously

[Saracast3200]

That's pretty awesome... I've been to India once and quite frankly I really find Indians to be amazing... The girls in india are usually so beautiful... You should really be proud for belonging to such an amazing country

[Asker]

Common be are not attractive

[Saracast3200]

What do u mean?

[Asker]

I don't consider indians attractive.

[Saracast3200]

But ur a girl

[Asker]

I am a girl but i have eye's.

[Anonymous]

Embrace who you are. I lived in Indonesia for five years and visited India over 15 times. I loved India, the cultures, the food, the history, the architecture, the people — you are beautiful and full of potential.

[Asker]

I am not beautiful and don't have any potential i am indian.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry you are in so much pain. Not to sound too trite, only you have the power to overcome your suffering; but you need to work hard at it. Please find a good therapist who can help you embrace who you are.

[Anonymous]

ok, but your body you can change, self hating your own race isn't something you can beat only accept but you can do things to change the way you look, new hair styles, getting fit

[boggboss]

Meh not much u can do but learn to love who you are no one can do it for u

[boggboss]

Well you can't and u probebly will continue but only are are the one effected by your actions

[WalmartFlipFlop]

Dude I know how you feel I wish I was white instead of Asian.

[Asker]

Honestly i would prefer to be Lebanese or Turkish or latina over white i don't like white women body and culture that much but honestly not gonna lie i would have hated to be Asian.

[Nachowedgie]

Well at least you're showing your racist colours troll

[WalmartFlipFlop]

Lol what, I am Asian tho

[WalmartFlipFlop]

I mean I’m not saying that I want to be white because I think their better I’m just sick of the jokes mostly

[Nachowedgie]

I wasn't talking to you, I was talking to the troll

[WalmartFlipFlop]

Oh ok

[louai_ehab]

What about have sex with a boy from middle east

[Asker]

I think i am not good enough for it because of inferiority complex.

[Nachowedgie]

Go to a psychiatrist

[Asker]

You probably hate indian.

[Nachowedgie]

Eh no I don't

[Asker]

Just accept it you are racist.

[angry_llama]

@asker wtf how is he racist when he literally said he doesn't hate Indians?

[Nachowedgie]

@angry_llama Lol don't worry, she's a well known troll

[angry_llama]

@Nachowedgie ah ok thx👀🙌