Men always complain about women being hypergamous but I don’t see many men falling in love with ugly short broke women either. We all want someone who is good looking and who is financially comfortable. Men care more about look and women care more about money, that’s it. This situation is even more unfair with women because a woman have no control over her facial beauty, unless she have enough money to get cosmetic surgery and even if she does she will be labeled as a fake beauty, but at least you can have a chance to get rich and successful, which is the reason why we see many ugly rich dudes with pretty young girls. If you claim that look and status doesn’t play a role in making someone attractive to you then you’re either a liar or a monk
Why are women always bashed for being hypergamous?
, I just wanted to say, that this calculated exchange, the young beautiful woman who is with the rich ugly dude. But, really she is little more than a whore. And the ugly rich man, in my opinion is even more pathetic. I never understood how anyone would enter into such an "arrangement" farce-of-a-marriage.
So, to me this whole thing seems like it's essentially an argument in favor of being shallow.
You say men care about looks more, and women care about money more. I don't think that's at all true. I agree that looks play a role, but they play a role for women as well... UNLESS you decide to 'sell yourself in marriage' to a guy who you wouldn't be with, except for his money (the short ugly rich guy).
So it's not that looks aren't just as important to women,... in fact your argument suggests that they, in fact, are important to women. You simply argue that money IS SO MUCH MORE IMPOORTANT to women, that you are willing to "lower your standards for the right price.'
There's nothing admirable in that. Sorry, nothing personal..., but to me this whole thing seems like a twisted position.
It makes it really hard to build and maintain a working society around you.
Female hypergamy is great for living in the jungle, don't get me wrong.
But for living in a modern society with social contracts and shit? Why should the majority of men agree to be civilized and show up for work in the morning when their only reward is to be totally ignored and treated like shit by women?
Women are going to have to start working 40 hours a day to make up for all the men dropping out of the labor force.
I also agree that hypergamy should not be shamed. But personally, I don’t see how another person can participate in that behavior. It would make me feel like a fuck doll if all I had to return was good looks in exchange for wealth. And honey, I’m fine as hell but that is not my defining characteristic.
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Anonymous
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I'm not hypergamous and I highly dislike that every woman gets grouped together as a homogeneous group
In that sort of exchange you are referencing the is just a joke... It's no trusting, healthy, or meaningful relationship if you are solely with someone for their looks or for their money... Sure people do it, a lot of people are self destructive when it comes to relationships, it doesn't mean that's what everyone strives for. You talked about old guys but if you speak to young guys, they are not going to marry a woman and bring them to their family just because they are pretty. In a long lasting parter sure you want physical attraction, but you want heavy moral and ethical qualities. If it's just for looks and infatuation you don't marry the girl you just have fun with her that's it...
Then you're either blind, stupid or just lying. Choose one of the three. Even women who are mentally and physically disabled are getting married nowadays. There are thousands of thirsty desperate men who will compromise for any woman no matter how abusive or ugly she is. I've seen men marrying bitches who were abusing them on a daily basis. Lazy bitches with no job and no life with the only goal in life to make the man's life miserable and then complain and bitch that he doesn't do enough for her. So cut the bullshit ok?
I agree with the meme I dont mind hypergamy, in a monogamous society which values marriages I think it becomes a problem when all the people have been taught to have loose sexual relationships in their youth.
Men aren't even mad your hypergamous. Your just hypergamous to the wrong men. Imagine dumping your true love to get with that rich guy whos gonna be beating you everyday when u dont cook for him. Then the girl is running back making all sorts of assumptions on men. They dont hate the hypergamy, they hate who u use it towards.
What a simplistic and trivial view of humanity. Not everyone is as shallow as you believe it or not. "but I don't see many men falling in love with short ugly broke women either". That's probably because it's impossible for you to see and know every single man on the planet
Because it's hypocritical and evidence of lack of true love and respect for self and others; in other words, being a thot. Ultimately, individuals like this lose the respect of their partners because the partner realises their true motive (s). Result: contempt, dispute, and unhappiness all round, and the gulf between the sexes is widened as more men avoid women and prefer sex dolls and sexbots which in the men's minds are cheaper and less stressful to deal with.
Obviously a lot of men dislike it, so the bottom line is that it is an unattractive personality trait. It doesn’t matter if you like it or not, if you possess it, it decreases your value in many cultures..
So your saying a woman's love is not only transactional but also conditional? interesting. I think many a LADY might wish to have a word with you about the the term "shallow".
I for one am glad that you do not speak for all women.
It's called hypocrisy. Nearly all humans are hypergamous in some fashion.
Do you think a average guy who a rich pretty woman shows interest him for whatever reason won't leave behind a 4 or 5 look wise he is with? Please. In a heart beat.
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Anonymous
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Because most women get mean when an average looking guy wants to approach her and always seek for a way to find more attention. Whereas most guys I know out there would fancy any approach from any female. Also most average looking girls have higher standards, which makes them ridiculous while some guys tend to handle such situations more mature.
That isn't true. Surgery is not supported. Women do it thinking man will like it but they don't. And no it isn't all about money for women and looks for men
"Women do it thinking man will like it but they don't." Someone did a poll recently whether it's better to have a natural B cup or to have C cup implants, & half the man responded it's better to have C cup implants.
@mistixs. I don't know about that poll. I've always been a A-AA cup guy. They look great when they're 18, and they still look great when they're 68. And I know from experience. I guess there can be really good plastic surgery, but nobody wants a girl that looks like Nancy Pelosi.
It is curious that hyperglomourmus still have sway I today's society. Happily there are way more women who are not hyperglomourmus.
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Anonymous
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Hypergamy is only bashed by boys who can't compete with men. We also have our own version of it, which is vilified in much the same manner by women who can't compete.
Pretty bald claims. Especially about status. Even calling people to be stuff to justify your claims.
Do you consider yourself as open minded?
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Anonymous
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Because it’s true and yet women still complain
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Lol. First of all I have seen a lot of women who dated jobeless guys with no car. I just find it incredible how a guy with no car expect a supermodel look like woman to love him for his personality while he loved her for her look. Which mean that he is as superficial as her
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