Emotional women , who overreact to several situations due to real feelings, and superstitious ones, (ones that come out from a sudden trigger in their minds, being twice as upset because now they suddenly think you are gonna break up.)
Stoic doesn't mean masculine, but void of emotional responses, even when it's okay or even necessary - ie, showing sympathy for your partners sadness due to work.
My friend and I, have total opposite personas.
She argues constantly with her boyfriend, who is very good to her, over strange emotional triggers - like feeling he "hates" her, due to raising his voice, after she starts yelling. She internalizes it so weird; all emotional people do, this burst of emotions, by misinterpreting what people are saying or doing.
In contrast, I can see people are upset, but I don't feel the need or understand the importance of consoling them. Stoics think more on permanently eliminating the problem, not being upset over it. It makes us come off cold and uncaring, which was the issue in my old relationship. He would keep making all these odd emotional accusations, and literally say, "DONT FIX IT. BE HERE FOR ME." Which I would awkwardly let him snuggle into me. Its pointless to ignore solving the issue. I would take matters into my own hands, fix the issue for him, then bam, he's happier than before. But... why waste a whole hour, days, weeks, months, years, hell a fucking lifetime, crying over issues instead of fixing them? It urks me so much to play this walking on glass game with emotional people, or maybe I'm just too cold? I worry guys assume we aren't girlie or nurturing. Stoics are sincere. We just dont cry with joy or expect you to, over basic shit. Even extravagant shit. We cook because everyone needs good food. Clean because that's a healthy environment. We love because that's just what happens. No biggie.
Outside of him, guys enjoy my calm company, so friction is rare. But I stop myself from dating, due to this. Your opinion?
Stoic doesn't mean masculine, but void of emotional responses, even when it's okay or even necessary - ie, showing sympathy for your partners sadness due to work.
My friend and I, have total opposite personas.
She argues constantly with her boyfriend, who is very good to her, over strange emotional triggers - like feeling he "hates" her, due to raising his voice, after she starts yelling. She internalizes it so weird; all emotional people do, this burst of emotions, by misinterpreting what people are saying or doing.
In contrast, I can see people are upset, but I don't feel the need or understand the importance of consoling them. Stoics think more on permanently eliminating the problem, not being upset over it. It makes us come off cold and uncaring, which was the issue in my old relationship. He would keep making all these odd emotional accusations, and literally say, "DONT FIX IT. BE HERE FOR ME." Which I would awkwardly let him snuggle into me. Its pointless to ignore solving the issue. I would take matters into my own hands, fix the issue for him, then bam, he's happier than before. But... why waste a whole hour, days, weeks, months, years, hell a fucking lifetime, crying over issues instead of fixing them? It urks me so much to play this walking on glass game with emotional people, or maybe I'm just too cold? I worry guys assume we aren't girlie or nurturing. Stoics are sincere. We just dont cry with joy or expect you to, over basic shit. Even extravagant shit. We cook because everyone needs good food. Clean because that's a healthy environment. We love because that's just what happens. No biggie.
Outside of him, guys enjoy my calm company, so friction is rare. But I stop myself from dating, due to this. Your opinion?
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