Have You Ever Read Someone's Personal Diary?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

[Apope16]

Yes. After a breakup my ex girlfriend left her diary out on the bed (we were living together). She left it wide open.

Because my ex girlfriend had gone into my drawer, read my diary, and ripped out the page that said I was in love with her. I felt that it was fair for me to read her diary as well to understand what she was thinking.

Well.. she was Croatian. Everything written was in Croatian. She appeared to have made a "pros and cons" list about our relationship. So I just took out my phone and snapped a picture of it. Then I started using google translate to understand what she wrote.

In the end, I wasn't surprised about the Cons. All of the cons were flaws I knew about myself. I was surprised about the Pros. She had been screaming at me, throwing dishes at me, breaking the apartment window... but here in her private journal she had written in croatian the reasons why she loved me. she said things like I was: well mannered, romantic, she knew I loved her.

What did hurt me was that she said I was boring. It still haunts me to this day. I am afraid of being in relationships now because I know that after the honeymoon stage of sex and everything we all become normal to our partners. Will I become boring?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Not if both people work at making the relationship interesting... But people forget relationships take effort... Nowadays too easy to just bail and... NEXT... Ridiculous really

[Apope16]

totally agree. i think when you live with someone things become more normalized. people aren't partying an exciting 24 hours a day 365 days a year. and when you are with someone all the time for so many years what do you talk about? what do you talk about when you know pretty much everything about a person? so you see these old couples going out to eat and eating in silence. are they happy or bored? who knows.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Or just enjoying their food 🤷🏼‍♀️🤣

[sweet87]

Hell no, respect their privacy, anyone invaded my privacy like that I'd stick an encyclopedia up their ass.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣🤣🤣 encyclopedia up their ass 🤣

[laurieluvsit]

My sisters, and I, know that if you leave anything laying around then it is FAIR GAME! ... lol

But I have talked to girlfriends that have talked about things that they had put in their diaries.

I am always around others with big mouths too and we just tell each other everything - equals attract I guess! ... lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's true 🤣🤣 is that why we get along 🤣🤣🤣

[laurieluvsit]

... lol

[Beckity]

No and I don't snoop through my man's shit either. I know his combo and he knows mine. We are the same. We work as one. But are separate people. He has his life and I have mine. Kind of like the two streams that flow together but separate to meet together into the great lake.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's as it should be

[Anonymous]

yeah. My now ex-wife. That;s how I discovered she was plotting to leave me. Allowed me to track her moves and counter prepare. She is at a loss as to how I found out. She discovered when she had her attorney try to file divorce papers-she moved out after I left for work and had me served at work. My lawyer called him within an hour, informed him we had already filed a few weeks earlier and his suit would be consolidated into mine. But this way we chose the location, took her sense of control away. I had my ducks lined up and ready being warned in advance. Funny, I felt guilty snooping but that went away completely once I found out what she was planning. Thank GOD I did snoop!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Well, in that case, I'd have to agree

[ArrowheadSW]

No I have not. Seems like I'd be diving too far into what they would consider to be private information.

The one time I *felt* like I was looking at someone's diary, I found some online information on my former girlfriend from over 20 years ago. It turns out she had switched and gone for women and was married to a woman. I did a lot of searching for various things about her life. After awhile I had the feeling that I was diving too far into it.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

But if it was online, sheer kinda put it out there, so you didn't really do anything wrong there

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

*she

[ArrowheadSW]

LOL Yes that is true. One thing though was that she wrote an essay of sorts to the church where she and her wife got married, and I guess the church put it up on their website. (All this showed up in internet searches that I was doing.) I'm not sure she meant for that to be public.. LOL At that point I felt weird probing so much. But yeah, it is all out there.

[RunawayGirl]

I've read multiple diaries, (Girlfriend, best friend, sisters of friends...) but I don't leak any info from them, I don't see the need to spread pointless crap. by the way my diary -aka phone calendar- has been read by most of the people I've read the diaries of.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Oh okay

[Lliam]

Kind of. I don't know if a diary is the same as a journal. Several years ago I ran across a journal that my wife was recording things in. I think it had to do with some classes she was taking about self reflection or (nonreligious) spiritual exploration or personal growth something. I read some parts of it. Sadly, there were no juicy revelations (Lol), but I did learn some things about where she was coming from.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Did she know you read it?

[Lliam]

I can't remember. It was many years ago. It's not like I go around snooping through her stuff. That journal just happened to be sitting on a table between our chairs and I picked it up and thumbed through a bit. And it didn't contain any deep, dark secrets. Just insights.
She likes those topics, has taken various classes and seminars, and we have discussed that kind of thing before where she shared her insights with me. Not long ago, she was taking a Bhagavad Gita class and still goes on an occasional retreat. It's not my thing but she likes it and I love her for it.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Aww that's sweet and I know you weren't snooping. I wasn't either. I was actually doing as my daughter shed and was looking for something to see if she left it here and it was in notebook and only read the part she mentioned her dad dying, wanted to make sure she was ok, you know? Well and saw a description she wrote of me that was very flattering. I did let her know I came across it

[Lliam]

Was she okay with you reading it? Did it lead to a good discussion? Poor kid. It must have been devastating for her to lose her dad and for you to lose your husband. It's lovely that she had nice things to say about you.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Well kinda of... It was more describing physical, like my skin the color of pale sand glistening in the sun, my eyes the color of the sky-but when get mad they the color of dark storm clouds kinda thing 🤣

[Lliam]

Ah, she's a poet at heart. :-)

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Lol maybe 🙂

[Gedaria]

Yes , second daughter, she normally locked it away but she left it out , rushing to get out.
I looked at it for about half hour , should I look. Sadly I did some of things I found out about her , her first kiss her first sex. Even a fling with a girl at rugby.
One big question i kept asking my self, why put these things to paper.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Some people feel better writing things down, one way to release pent up feelings

[Gedaria]

True, I chat about things I have got up in the past.
But a diary were nosy dad's can read them , I find that too problematical.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Well don't be nosy then, dad 🤣🤣

[Gedaria]

I know but it was so tempting. You just have to look , it's like see a couple making out. You know you should leave them to it but you cannot. Im sure you have been in that position?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I did accidently see my daughter's journal but it was in notebook, didn't know what it was, and only read the entry not her dad's death but that was out of concern , then stopped..

[SpiderManFan2002]

No, that's just wrong. I'd only ever do that, if someone gave me permission to and I think once my best friend gave me permission to read something in hers, so I did. But otherwise, no, that's messed up.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Agree

[JackSmy]

Only when she purposely shows me parts!!
Even if she had one, and left it open, I would never read it, and invade her privacy!!
I BELIEVE IN TRUST, in a relationship, and she should have her 'private things' and I have mine.
Personal journals and diaries can be very moment-focused, and feelings about that moment, and personal thoughts!! Those are for the one writing them, not for anyone else!

[The_little_gay_robin]

I purposely never kept a diary because I couldn't trust my parents to mind their own business. I really wish I'd been able too though, might have helped me deal with a lot of stress

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

You could start one now

[TheFartSaver]

No, I will never do that. I caught my mom and sister reading mine and laughing and I never wrote one again. It's a huge invasion of privacy.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Agree, and yeah that was wrong of them

[KingdomForAKiss]

Accidentally, yes. And it led to cementing the end of the relationship with no possibility of reparations.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That sucks

[Apope16]

reperations? what do you mean? sex/ Money?

[KingdomForAKiss]

No amends, no reconnection.

[KingdomForAKiss]

And yes, while it did suck immensely, it was an easy break because I knew I wouldn't be going back to him after what I had learned.

[BeachBabe96]

Yeah... wasn't too impressed with the lack of details 8-12 year old me wrote down. Very dry. Could've used more drama.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣 lol less drama is better 🙂

[GlitterFairy16]

My sister showed be her old one so i guess so. There a lot of calling me a bitch init and unflattering drawings of people she disliked at school

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

How old were you when she wrote it? And when read it?

[GlitterFairy16]

I think i was probably 12/13 and she was 15. She showed it to be recently when we were moving house. We just laughed it off

[GlitterFairy16]

One entry was funny. She was calling a evil bitch for eating the pizza she saved from pizza hut by accident. I remember her crying over pizza 😂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣🤣

[Jjpayne]

Nope, although it would be fun to tease while I was pelted pillow missiles 😂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣🤣

[Jjpayne]

"Oooo who's Mark... He's apparently dreamy with and oh how his muscles glisten in the sun" 😂 😂
I would get hurt bad 😂 I think a female chokehold would be in order 😂

[TCredo]

Eons ago... tried to get my younger sister's but she was on to me and out foxed me enough that I gave up :)

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Lol too funny

[Desconhecida]

Only mine from when I was 7. Deep shit about barbie dolls

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣🤣🤣 that's funny lol

[Desconhecida]

It's interesting how our worries change with age. At 7, my biggest concern was to never let my mom notice I cut my barbie's bangs 😂😂😂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣🤣🤣 omg my mom was such a neat freak, while we were at school, if we left any Barbies without clothes, she had to dress them...🤣

[Desconhecida]

Really? Why? The Ken doll was staring too much? 😂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣🤣

[Debbie29]

No but i get on my sons phone and read his messages and check his pictures out when he's sleeping

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Does he know? And how old is your son?

[Debbie29]

he's young still but i check a anyways

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Oh ok

[Sleezy_V]

Why do you check his phone?

[Debbie29]

Im curious what he has on it

[Liam_Hayden]

No. I mind my business. I'm the type that didn't even shake my own presents under the tree to try to figure out they were.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Ha I had a sister that would do that but not just with her gifts, she'd do it with everybody's (have 4 sisters)

[LEADFOOTboi]

nope, but i would... i like knowing all the grimy details... even if i forget them and never tell anyone

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

So don't leave a diary where you can find it then 🤣🤣

[LEADFOOTboi]

absolutely not

[Trooper205]

Only the Wimpy Kid Greg.
My brother has read mine, but only because He LOVED the pictures.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

So you weren't mad at him?

[Trooper205]

Oh sure! It was Annoying! I eventually burned that thing.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

The diary, not your brother, right 🤣🤣🤣

[Trooper205]

OH! Of course! I love My Brother!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I know... Was just a joke lol

[douride2]

I came across my sisters open diary once. I never read it though.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's good

[_no_one_]

Read that once of my roommate as a revenge cuz he read mine.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Revenge reading lol

[worldscolide]

I have not.. Thats crossing a line i dont want to ever think of crossing.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's a good thing

[call_me_scar]

More or less but she allowed it, I wouldn't have read it if she wasn't ok with it

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Well that's different then

[HonestWeirdo]

if I have then it would be when I was a boy but I doubt I have cos I was never a fan of reading back then

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's good

[msc545]

No, but I've done the equivalent - hacked their computer when I thought they were cheating on me. Which they were.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

So you a hacker 🤔 might need your skills some day 🙂🙂

[msc545]

um...

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Lol 🤣

[GreenGold1992]

I wish

https://www.youtube.com/embed/C5AGaY4Gqnc

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

😅😅😅

[1Sophisticatedme]

Nope. Just my own. I got tempted to read someones but i didn't bc i didn't want to know what they wrote about me...

[TonyMetal___86]

I don't have a diary and nope i won't read someone's diary because i respect people's privacy...

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's good!

[TonyMetal___86]

Thanks lady brains 🙂

[ask4any]

No. That's almost as bad as going through the purse

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

You can go through mine.. Oh wait.. Don't carry one 🤣

[ask4any]

Well, back in the day, they used to carry with them decorated bags often called purses.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Oh lots of women still do.. I'm just not one of em

[CharlieDMX]

Nope, but I'd wish to have read some of my girl friends's diaries, just out of curiosity

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Or not... Curiosity killed the cat 😂😂

[CharlieDMX]

True... 🤣

[Kezzz]

I don't think I can bring myself to invade someone's privacy like that. It's personal for a reason. I wouldn't read it even if that person begged me to.

[yenofed840]

never, if you read , you will feel sad because it is cheating with someone's life personal

[dublin_sexyeyes0]

Yes, once and im glad i did. What i read is the reason she's now my ex.

[Cryptic-Game]

Yes. I read my sister's diary when I was younger. It didn't turn out so good for me.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Lol did she kick your butt 🤣

[Cryptic-Game]

Got kicked in the nuts. I was 9 and she was 12. I couldn't get up for over 10 minutes. I also wasn't allowed to hit her so she really showed me how serious her diary was to her. So worse than a butt kicking.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Bet you didn't read again tho 🤣

[Cryptic-Game]

You're right. Why wouldn't my dad let me slap her?

[Cryptic-Game]

Be honest. If the roles were reversed and I was 12 and she was 9 and I kicked my sister in the vagina for touching my baseball cards, would you laugh and tell her that I bet you wouldn't touch them again?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I told you I'm done with your false assumptions.. So for the last time if I was the mom... She would of got disciplines for her actions same as you if you did the same... Now,... Will you stop? I'm not YOUR DAD... I wouldn't a handled it way he did... Take that up with him

[Cryptic-Game]

I said that before you said I was done.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

And this was about reading a diary not gender issues, find another post for that please... Thank you 🙂

[Cryptic-Game]

I'm sorry. Please forgive me. I know you didn't mean any harm by it. You were only glad I learnt not to invade people's privacy. Do you forgive me?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Sure 🙂

[cute_short_nerd]

I’d be in deep trouble if they found my dream journal, that’s classified business material.

[scooogy]

The only ones likely available to me in the past weren't of any interest to me.

[Anonymous]

Yes they left it open on the table. As soon as I realized what I was reading I put it down

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's good

[weasley8]

No. That would be mean.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I agree

[DanaeAdam5]

Nope.

Have you?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Accidentally found my daughter's journal looking for something she slept me to. Once realized what it was wasn't going to read but there were things in there shot her dad dying and so I did read that cuz I guess I wanted to know if she needed grief counseling. Felt horrible tho, cuz I respect people's privacy

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

*asked not slept lol

[DanaeAdam5]

Aw did she need grief counseling?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

She's just very closed off with her feelings. She's that way with everything

[sheikalana]

No I wouldn't do such thing.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's good

[humanearth]

Yes, Richard M. Nixon's it was a class project

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣 lol I meant someone you personally know 🤣

[humanearth]

I never knew anyone that kept one, wait my great grandma did. But that in the family archives at my uncle house. And I never read it.

I do know it contains her story of the great depression and who knows maybe the great pandemic of 1918. Lived though both of them

[pleasestopthis]

Yes, with her permission.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Well that's ok then

[Grond21]

Never. I don't have one myself

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I haven't had one since I was a teenager

[Grond21]

I have heard it's good for you though

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

At least now, noone here to read it

[Grond21]

You are single then?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Since hubby died, yes. Cuz people these days...🤷🏼‍♀️🤮 lol

[Grond21]

I'm sorry for your loss.
And yes. There are a great many people who fit that description well

[Theclownn]

Yes and I found out my friend hates me

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Well then she's not really a friend

[blondfrog]

No actually I never have.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's good

[Tunasub]

No! Some things are just off limits.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I agree although accidently saw my daughter's journal but it wasn't marked and was in a notebook.

[Tunasub]

Understandable. I'm working 3rd shift overnights for a few weeks ugh! Sucks ass... how have you been? Hour and a half to go for me... and it's dragging... can't wait to hit my pillow. Ttyl sweets.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Oh I hear you... I hate 3rd shift... Hard for me to sleep during day... Hope you get good sleep

[Meatboy02]

Nope. Completely invasion of privacy

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Agree

[Meatboy02]

Hope you have a good day 🙂

[Iron_Man]

my girlfriend’s diary

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

With or without permission?

[Iron_Man]

Without but I told her about it when she got home

[Iron_Man]

It is basically written down on notebook paper

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Was she mad?

[Iron_Man]

Not really I was cleaning up the bedroom I saw a few words here and there on notebook paper and I explain to her she wasn’t mad really

[Agem123]

No. But my mom read mine and it was awful

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah that's not cool

[bananathunder]

Yes... My sister's lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Oohh... Lol... Did she find out?

[bananathunder]

I don't think so. I read it many times though. I was a bad little brother

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Ha ha yes you were lol

[michael1469]

I "read" my dad's porn stash...

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Lol that's not a diary..

[michael1469]

... penthouse letters... it was someones diary...

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Okay 🙂🙂

[RunawayGirl]

@michael1469 Who else but Quagmire?

[michael1469]

Giggidy giggidy

[Daniel_Dano]

No , I respect their privacy

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's good 👍👍

[tjbyrd39]

Never cared to know people's privacy that much

[tjbyrd39]

Also brainsb4beauty I think change name to brains=2beauty but just one guys opinion I guess

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Thanks 🙂

[mrgspoter]

No. only one time I was asked to.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's good

[mrgspoter]

Maybe.

[CubaPirate]

No because that's just wrong

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I agree.. I did accidently find a journal my daughter wrote and read but that's cuz it was about her dad dying and I was worried about if she was okay... But felt horrible for doing so

[CubaPirate]

Does she know

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah I busted myself out... That was years ago.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Maybe

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Well that sounds like a yes lol

[Gwenhwyfar]

It is lol

[geri_]

Yes once but I never told anyone what I found out

[Ivanhunter]

Nope. I respect people’s privacy

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's good

[Anonymous]

No. That's just really bad. I won't do that

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's a good thing

[Agape93]

Yeah with consent

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Well that's different... Permission is different than doing it without

[Agape93]

Agreed