If you found your boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s diary, would you read it?

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Assume that you found it by chance, would you read it?

youngmix · Accepted Answer

My brother taught me that reading your boyfriend's journal is a very bad idea. He used to keep a fake journal, and write a bunch of terrible things in it: plans to leave his current girlfriend, plans to date her friends, how much and the many ways he hated her, how he couldn't stand her, etc.

Then he would plant it out in the open to tempt her to read it. It got to the point where he would bet my cousins or his friends whether or not a girl would actually do it. Most of them did, and the results were terrible. He would tell them to read the last page, which said something like, "This is a fake journal, dumb ass. You got what you deserved."

They couldn't say anything back, except for "Fuck you!" and "You're fucking sick!"

Then he would say something like, "I'm leaving more of these out for you, read them all if you want." He usually lost a bunch of respect for those girls/women, no longer thought of them as long term material, and he didn't treat those relationships with much value after that point. He basically cheated on them, then replaced them.

But my brother is a sociopath when it comes to women, and he plays mind games on a totally different level.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I kept diaries when I was in highschool. They had a little title flap attached with a keyhole and a key to open it. One day I came home from school and noticed my mom had taken her scissors to them and cut them open for her reading pleasure. To be honest, I never felt the same about her after she invaded my privacy like that. I was really mad at her for doing that.
Privacy is something sacred. After mom broke my trust for her, I made a promise to myself that when the time came for me to have my own children that I would never invade their privacy or snoop around in their room or rearrange anything in it. Their room is their domain, and for some people, privacy is most important to them.

crossdressingrihno · Accepted Answer

Depends on how the relationship is. If we are in a healthy relationship and we are very open about things then it’s a maybe otherwise no.

If I have a good reason to be suspicious enough to dig through your diary then I have a good enough of a reason to break up and in which I will.

Off the top of my head there’s only one reason I would even want to dig through someone’s diary and that is pure boredom. I’m really really good at shopping for gifts I don’t know why but I am so I wouldn’t need to dig through a diary to shop for a gift. If we are in a relationship where I Need to dig through your diary to know/understand you then I am not in a relationship where I should be digging through your diary.

Blueeyes81 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't go looking for it but if I just saw it laying on the bed I think temptation would be a sumabitch. Years ago I dated a girl who used her blog as a diary. She kept the diary part on private. One day I see she posted a new blog which I'd always read. Well I could tell instantly that this one was meant to be private. She was bearing her soul and I was conflicted as to keep reading as I knew she made a mistake by making it public. Ultimately I kept reading and it made me love her that much more. She was very guarded and I rarely got to see that side of her. Was it wrong, probably. Do I regret it, not really.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I would not read it without permission but I might ask him to share parts he is comfortable sharing with me if he wants to.

Anonymous · Answer

I will definitely read it, to know if he really loves me or is acting that he loves me. And I also like to know his past situations so that I can understand him better. But a major drawback with reading is I may love him even more or else I will completely stop loving him if he mentions interest on another girl in his diary. No, I won't feel disrespectful to read it but obviously I'm curious to read. With or without his permission. This is a honest opinion and I believe in being open about anything in a relationship as it creates more intimacy if both understands each other

Anonymous · Answer

No I would’t
We have opinions and reactions differently according to who’s the person:
When we are alone we act differently , same goes for parents , sister, brother , cousin , wife daughter , etc
When you write in the diary it’s you and yourself. So obviously you are going to be yourself in writing things over there.
Therefore it’s not my problem or worry to read it.

Assuming I’m married I’ll be treated as a wife. And I might not resonate with his notes in the diary; and that way you will cause troubles and debates for nothing nonsense stupid things you read.. and broke the trust.

That’s why you don’t break the trust the line whatever that is called because you role is being a wife ~ take your ticket as a wife and leave.

grapefruit11 · Answer

No, I wouldn’t. There could be really personal things from his past that he hasn’t chosen to share with me and I would respect his privacy. I don’t believe I need to know the entire history of the person I’m with. I just need to know who he is NOW. And if I love who he is now, I won’t violate his privacy.

Seinna · Answer

Haha it would be cute if I indeed found it, though I'm pretty sure he doesn't have one.

I'd tease him but never ever fail his (or anyone elses') trust like that! It's private :)

But it would be cool if he recorded some previous events and ask if he could read it for us, those parts he's comfortable with.

lilyanony1 · Answer

No...
Maybe a page.
Or Try and find my name.
If I. See my name I'm reading it.
I'm sorry but I just won't be able to resist.
If it's. Mean I'm. Reading on.
If it's sweet ill probably be too over the moon to care about anything else.

TransAm85 · Answer

I used to write in a diary in my 20's, then one day my husband found it about 2 years after we got married and he burned them! He has this thing about "the past is the past, move on to the future" .. he's a great forgiver, but it seems like there's things in his past that really bother him and he just didn't wna know my further past - even tho he met me as a hooker! I wish I could still have those old diaries and read them again!

davner · Answer

we share one diary, we write to each other on it and its sweet sad and a bunch of other things. we write things we are too afraid or shy to speak of to our partner. and its a great idea. and great for some suprises too, although not all the time for suprises.

Daniela1982 · Answer

No, because you might not like what you see.

bennies_819 · Answer

Why would you do that, that can show insecurity and that's innovation of someone's privacy you sure want to trust your partner cuz that shows that you have trust issues.

BHooper · Answer

No I wouldn't because I wouldn't want anyone to read mine. I would eventually let my girlfriend read through mine as it shows who I truly am and all the experiences I've had. I journal daily and write about how I'm feeling and what I did that day so I can look back at almost any day of my life and know what I was doing.

Losalt · Answer

Not without permission.
But I'm into BDSM and I like making a girl write a digital diary/(something else) that I have full access to.
I really, really like that.
I can give good advice and feel closer to her.
As well as other things.

DirkCoenen · Answer

There is a thing called trust. Without it, there is no relationship. I trust her enough so that I don't care to read it, and I want her to trust me so that she feels safe to just let the thing lay there unguarded.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Oh god no way, I write things down just to burn them. Not meant to be read ever again, I can only imagine if someone else did that and I read it.

I might be casting a evil spell and destroying the world.

MrOracle · Answer

If a girl found my diary, she could read it all she liked. In fact, you can read it too. The only words are right there on the first page.

"Who has time for this diary shit? I have better things to do."

LOL.

sheikalana · Answer

Nah that’s too personal. I had many chances to check my husband’s phone but never did because I feel like I’m violating his privacy and if he did the same to me I obviously would not appreciate it either.

YollyM · Answer

Absolutely not, I'm not too curious because I feel like I know most of the significant events of his life since he tells me. What I don't know he will tell me eventually, if not then it has nothing to do with me🤷.

DermalPunch · Answer

No, I'm to possesive, paranoid and distrustful for that. I would go nuts. But above all, that's a major violation of privacy and super disrespectful.

AviatorTom · Answer

No I would not... you might get the wrong idea...

KatherineJ · Answer

Not without permission, I wouldn’t. Everyone is entitled to something private. I have a diary, and my husband is NOT allowed to read it. Not that there is anything bad about him in it, but those are my deepest thoughts and they are mine.

melanieeeB · Answer

Never! That's way to private and none of my business... i would break up, if my future partner would dare to read my diary

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

Me and my boyfriend are both dyslexic so it be a bloody nightmare to read. We can barely text each other 🤣

20yearsolder · Answer

Nah, My wife writes in a journal everyday, I've never picked it up and it's just sitting on her side table beside her chair.

DoctorSex · Answer

If I found it, yes. I would t go looking for it. Kind regards, DoctorSex

Ironic_Method · Answer

No. My wife writes in one everyday, don't know what she's written. I'm sure one day she'll let me read it when we're old.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yes. I'd let her read mine too, but I don't have one.  Couple's shouldn't have secrets.

Sour-rose · Answer

Yup. Out of curiousity until I realize that this is no ordinary book... oh shi

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

Nah. I respect peoples privacy. If he wanted to tell me something he would🤷🏻‍♀️

Marshymallow · Answer

No I don’t go searching for new problems myself. and that’s invasion of privacy.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I have, and she busted my balls about it pretty good. So i probably would not again.

dustybiker · Answer

No. If I wanted to know something I would ask them. Give trust get trust.

Guy13 · Answer

Nope... not a chance. Especially, if I am happy.

kao118 · Answer

Probably a little bit or maybe skim but I wouldn’t like obsess over it and I’d probably feel really bad about it afterwards

FreyaFey · Answer

No because that is an evasivion of someone elses privacy its no different then opening someone elses mail and reading it without asking. Simple answer dont fucking do it. Want to lose all trust then go right ahead

Kabluie · Answer

Respect your partner's boundaries. Only if you are given permission.

Wubs3000 · Answer

Nah I would not but I might ask them about it if I'm curious

Zeus_66 · Answer

No. I respect privacy. And I would expect people to respect mine as well.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, I would read it to see what she wrote about me.

TheVigilantOne · Answer

No I wouldn’t, it’s not mine it’s theirs so I wouldn’t even open it.

Riley1 · Answer

Yes I would, and have! I read her thots even tho she couldn't/wouldn't say them. Never told her tho... reading her diary is wrong!

call_me_scar · Answer

Only if she gave me permission like my high school best friend

bolverk · Answer

No, that is their private thoughts, in some cases part of therapy they are going through.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Yes. I'll also take pics coz I need evidence.

Waldoe · Answer

NO... she may have said things about me I wouldn't like... people say things in anger that they don't really mean, besides, it's PRIVATE

thorboy · Answer

I would take a peak because the book would accidentally open. What ever pops in my view is not my fault.

monkeynutts · Answer

No, that's what Facebook is for, not many people use diaries anymore.

Luopio27 · Answer

No. That is hardcore invasion of privacy, which is a basic human right.

Anonymous · Answer

No, that's not cool. A diary is extremely personal. I don't keep a diary but if I did I wouldn't want anyone else reading it.

EnglishEuropean · Answer

Yes, I'm nosy and I like to read. I'd feel bad about it though.

EaterPeter · Answer

No. It was always in plane sight and I would not care.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

If I know for sure it's her diary then no. I respect people's private stuff.

Xyliana · Answer

No, that's an invasion of privacy and honestly speaking... somethings are better left unread lol.

Anonymous · Answer

Keep my diary in one of these so good luck

Sabretooth · Answer

no. she'll tell me her thoughts on her own... unless, I have a reason to be concerned.

Anonymous · Answer

No I wouldn't read it's not my place nor my right to read it. It's only okay to read it should they say it's okay.

IssaSummerDay · Answer

No. Privacy is a thing and it needs to be respected:)

tanderson6767 · Answer

Well now if I trusted her I wouldn't, now if I didn't trust her I'm not so sure

Anonymous · Answer

I would definitely want to, but I respect other people’s privacy.

bubblegunnn · Answer

If he allowed me, i would def read it

ethanallen · Answer

Absolutely not. This is about respect.

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