Why does my mom thinks she knows what’s best for me when she doesn’t?

[Anonymous]

Like she such a control freak she controls what my major is, where I go to College. I try to tell her she says I’m crazy. She doesn’t let me speak when I tell her where I want to go for graduate school and about where I want to live. She ignores me. She has other plans for me bc she thinks she knows me better than I know myself. I’m just frustrated like she the reason why I get sad. I start question things like why am I really here then if I’m such a pain. She like never says anything nice, I’m not her favorite. She loves my sister my sister got to pick her major, her dream School, she lives where she wants to live and she gets a boyfriend. But me that’s a whole another story. I wasn’t even the really bad kid growing up unlike my brother. I’m the youngest but I don’t know why my parents treat me different I’m not a kid. I’m freaking 20! It sucks I can’t really do anything about it.

[NopeWhatTime]

What do you mean you can't do anything about it? You're an adult, you can make those decisions yourself and if your family doesn't like it, too bad. It may be too late for your undergrad college, but you can go to whatever grad school you want. If your family can't respect the fact that you're an adult, then get away from them. Take control of the situation

[mynameisjohn4422]

If your 20 get some money together even if its shitty school loans and leave. It might be scary but that way it's what you want. They can't control you in any real way anymore. If you stay and do what ever she says are you even really you? I'd go find myself. I make it with a roommate at a 10 dollar an hour job and im 19. Its not always easy but its better then being controlled!

[Asker]

I don’t have college loans and I do work Im almost done with College.

[Asker]

My parents won’t let me leave plus I’m not home I’m in a college town I go to school still

[mynameisjohn4422]

When you say the won't let you leave what do you mean? Is it money or something else? Whats stopping you from not listening to them when they tell you what to do?

[Asker]

I talked about moving out and they told me I couldn’t get my own place until I finish college and get a good Job.

[mynameisjohn4422]

Just leave anyways

[mynameisjohn4422]

They can't really stop you only tell you. If you don't its on you for not going but its on them for making you have to

[Anonymous]

Are you Asian? I'm Asian and this reminds me of how it is in my culture.

[Asker]

Nope

[Opinion Owner]

Ok, then thats beyond my understanding. I'm Indian and as the youngest its like my words have no weightage. I told them once i make enough, I'm out of here. I also told my parents that they should have never given birth to me if i was meant to be a puppet in the house and just take orders. Its frustrating i get you.

[Asker]

I’m the youngest too my dad said once I finish college and get a actual good paying job he will Back off.