Am I in the wrong or is my mom not understanding?

[Anonymous]

My dad passed away last January and its hard without him in my life. I have been trying to spend time with my boyfriend on my own time and also on other days spend time with just my mom. I have 2 older siblings but they rarely visit my mom which becomes unfair since my mom expects me to be by her side 24/7 as of im an only child. She was always strict on me going out and this year she has been more at ease with me. I just got a 2nd job to pay my bills and this whole week when I come home my mom keeps saying she wants to go dancing to find a man. I told her today I dont want to talk or hear about it since the topic makes me uncomfortable and hurts me. She kept laughing and talking about wanting to find someone else and saying my sister supposedly says she supports. I feel she never loved my dad to be wanting to find someone so quick after being married for 35 years. She also cheated on my dad 9 years ago when he had cancer but she doesn't know I know so thats why I have resentment towards her

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry for your loss. A year isn't a long time but I'm sure your dad would want your mom to be happy and to move on with her life. As far as you being the main caretaker why not work out a plan with your siblings and if they can give you a break from your mom?

[Asker]

The reason my siblings don't really see her much is because my mom has pushed them away so much by being negative even before my dad passed away. I really try my best to take her mind off but almost always she's negative or puts me down and its so exhausting. Then she wonders why I want to be with my boyfriend more often. Its like they all expect me to do so much and I'm tired I just want to cry

[In_Trance]

both of you

[Asker]

🖕 I'm grieving