What do you think that you missed out on and cannot ever go back and experience it?

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MelissaMarie9614 · Accepted Answer

1. Dating in high school. I used to be this shy kid and there were times when I thought "what guy would love a girl like me?" I was somewhat heavier at the time and I also grew up with aspergers. I felt odd sometimes, almost like I wasn't "normal". And it made me overthink, and let it get the best of me. But who says those with aspergers can't live a normal life? Well we can! We're so much smarter than anyone thinks. Now here I am in my 20s looking for my future husband, get married one day, and start a family. And I have more courage than ever to find him and hope he'll love me for who I am.

2. Getting my drivers license at an earlier age. I just got my license last year at 23 (I'm now 24). I wish had the courage back then at 16 or 17 or even 18 to get my license.

3. I missed out on my dad and step moms wedding and I so regret not going😢 At the time I didn't know which parent to listen to because they fought about a lot things years ago. Part of me wanted to go, but knowing how my mom was back then I used to be afraid what she would think then I believe she probably ended up talking me down to not go all because of how she felt, not what I felt. I think I only did that because of her and I felt scared of her. And that ended up getting the best of me too and it controlled me for a while. Now we all get along very well, I still visit my dad and step mom and have a good relationship with them (although I feel like I could do better), there's no more fighting, and I don't let the past control me. I'm an adult, I make my own decisions. I'm happy for my dad and step mom that they have each other and they set a good example of how a couple should love each other for who they are. My dad says it's not what's on the outside (your body), it's what's on the inside (your heart). I just wish I never missed their wedding. I wish I could've been there.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

Living near family and spending time with them. I moved 18 hours away from family when I was 19 years old so I never had that experience of getting to come over and see my parents on their birthdays or the holidays like all my siblings do. And i will most likely never live close to them cause of my husband being in the military. It sucks but it's something I have gotten use to over the years.

moviedude714 · Accepted Answer

Teen romance or teenage love, young love and young sex,. I feel I didn't grow up having a normal youth in terms of dating and relationships, no single long-term relationship at all in my teens and early 20s, barely any sex in my 20s, I feel my 20s were a waste, as well as my teens.

It does kind of make me upset expressing and admitting this because I feel guys or men deserve to feel upset if they feel they missed out on this because it feels like the male gender is expected to take or accept responsibility for their lives or situation more than women are, probably because men are basically for the most part on their own if they want to have any results in their dating/sex lives, when it comes to attracting a partner.

Reminds me of this long statement I read somewhere and I already knew the meaning of it, I've already known that this is quite obvious but when people say it, it hurts because it's like they are basically rubbing it in.

"The fact is you can't go back in time. There's essentially two options. Resign yourself to being alone and living a solitary life, or become open to the idea of having these "firsts" at a later than average age."

That's why I'll be honest and admit that I sometimes get depressed and bitter and resentful when I see couples out there younger than me, primarily teen couples and early 20s couples, like high school and college age couples.

Novacane · Accepted Answer

I would for sure say that true college experience. The school that I went to was a big commuter school so not a lot of people would stay on campus. Most people were just concern with going to class and as soon as that is over, getting back home. There were some activities to do but it really depended on who you knew as a lot of the organizations were not as welcoming as you would think. I never liked joining a frat because it was always cringing to me, and I have an attitude that I won't let someone belittle me (especially growing up in the hood) so if anyone tried to haze there would be a fight. So I kind of also got caught up on just doing my work and going home, I would do my best to stay after school and do activities but didn't really meet people. In my last year I got more involved and got to meet so many people that year, the most I've met in all my years combined, so that's what I regret not making those connections, and going to school where I would get that real college experience.

Jazquee · Answer

My 20s... lol
Young mom... who lost her mom at age of 21. It was a decade of sadness and confusion just trying to keep the will to keep going. Was a mom at 24.
And had to work 2 jobs from when she was 9 months old because her "father" decided the world was cruel and he wasn going to work... or do anything
Anyway... lol my 20s was full of stress and trying to cope... instead of having fun and living...
(Before anyone chimes in...) I have absolutely no regrets I adore my children and would do it all again... I just wish I had experienced carefree 20s.

artsygirl457 · Answer

going through the end of high school, proms, dances, being with peers, i left school at 14 to care for a sick parent while the other worked, even my 20s dating, going out etc. im so far ahead in so many ways but so far behind in the normal growing up stuff. but i dont think i would change it either i have had a very unique life so far

hannahjo022 · Answer

Be involved in social activities on campus. The university I went to was a commute and the social activities was not the best on campus. There are frats and sororities, but all they do is raise money for charities which is nice. They don't do any socials. Maybe if I did not go to a commute university, I could be involved in social activities and sororities. My commute school made it hard to make friends because people weren't social and inviting. I only made some friends in college, but don't stay in touch.

Anonymous · Answer

I missed out on being a young average sized person. All my teenage years and 20s I was obese, which resulted in me just staying at home coping with my depression and never experiencing anything fun young people do.
Add to that the fact that my parents only had enough money to get food and a roof over our heads I never had enough money to have fun experiences like traveling or nice clothes. My mom used to make my clothes because that way it was cheaper and a lot less embarrassing when nothing good would fit.
The only good thing that came out of the situation was that I stayed in school trying to compensate for my looks with my academic achievements. That's why today I have a PhD and a nice job and as a result I have finally lost all the weight.

Anonymous · Answer

1. I regret not dating sooner. Am 22 and never had a boyfriend, mainly because i struggled with my weight for almost all my life. I wished i had focused on losing weight more when i was around 16 or 17, so i could have at least 1 relationship in high school. I really want to have 3 babies, and sometimes i worry that i won't find a guy in time to have them all before i turn 35.

2. being more social in university. again, i was so damn paranoid my gpa would slip below a 3.8 that i would study 8-10 hours a day. i had made up my mind to go to one school dance, but i suppose the pandemic put those plans aside.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Not sure about something specific. Can't think of anything.
But in general, probably wasted too much time being timid when I was young. All the thinking/worrying wasn't worth it. Waste of emotional energy.

P. S. I don't understand people who claim to regret nothing. They justify it, blah blah blah, but I think self-reflection and regret are perfectly natural - and healthy. It's almost as if they are trying to deny imperfection or mistakes.

proNutro · Answer

Having my dad around and having a great father figure. Instead my dad left and when he was around he was physically and mentally abusive.

Missed out on growing up with my mom and stepdad and brother. I’ve only seen them once since 2017. Been nearly three years since I’ve seen them. Missed all those birthday celebrations and things to experience together.

Missed out on growing up with a family.

I’ll only experience family is if I have my own someday

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I made a lot of stupid choices when I was growing up but I don't think my life could have been lived any other way - I wasn't ready for those things I regret not doing like getting married and having kids and moving to the states to do graduate studies - all things I wish I had done but I was not ready when I was younger.

muscularbumblebee · Answer

My late childhood/ teens

Spent a lot of it stressed trying to pay bills working for my late teens and As for early childhood worrying about my weight and constant restricting food due to eating distorder for 5 years.

I couldnt control that but it meant I missed out on a lot of stuff

Anonymous · Answer

It happened in the past and it belongs there, I live in present and past do not bother me here.

Yes, you have to learn from past mistakes and even better, if those mistakes done by somebody else, but sitting every day and 'think what would be, if you done that' often end up in mental illness, as people afraid to do anything as in a future will think, that this decisions was bad.

It is same when some low IQ person, gets in the fight, loses it and blames, that person who he attacked for unfairly using steroids and kicking his back side...

I do not regret my past as it was best decisions I could have done, then.

NathanDavis · Answer

a whole LOT of concerts, bands playing live at their prime... especially from the times in which a trillion phones and cameras in a concert/live show were not even a thing... *sobs*

MTC29 · Answer

The year 2020, which, thanks to COVID, was a total write off. I can't get that year back, and I'm not getting any younger!  "Okay, Boomer."

loves2learn · Answer

Fuck. That is a deep question. Lemme think.  . I quit swim team to foster my relationship and have sex every other weekend. I don’t regret it. Hubs was more important to me than swimming.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I unfortunately missed my chance at American Idol. I went to the audition, but my voice was shot because I didn't get enough sleep the night before. But that was because I was working the night shift as a caregiver taking care of an elderly person. I don't regret it, though. I know I did the right thing. It hurt me personally, but at least it was morally right.

Anonymous · Answer

I really regret not having the college experience and not being more outgoing. I’m almost 30 and have never had a girlfriend and am still a virgin because I was always too scared. I’m average looking but have had a handful of girls like me throughout high school and in my adult life. They pursued me hardcore but I never had the balls to reciprocate anything. I was always too shy. Now here I am almost 30 with no dating experience, no sexual experience, and no memories of my “wild” years. How do I even begin to date with no experience as an adult. How do I even touch a woman. It’s embarrassing really.

Subarugirl · Answer

A normal highschool and college experience and dating

libsaretards · Answer

My younger cousins growing up. The oldest is only 7 years younger than me. Mom joined the Army when I was 10. Between mom's time in the Army and mine in the Navy I missed one's entire childhood and the other two were already in high school before we reconnected.

Wiredone · Answer

I didn't go to my sr. Prom. I didn't have a wedding or honeymoon.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Having kids at 23-25. Other than that, i didn't miss much and did most of everything I’ve wanted.

poneglyphs · Answer

Teenage love and being young dumb and stupid. Now I'm just an adult that's never been with anyone and that makes me sad 😥

Also, just date, find myself sexually and make dumb mistakes in college. I graduated but never dorm or went to any parties.

Anonymous · Answer

I am 30 now I miss my school and college days  I never had money in my pocket to do anything for fun So I would love to go back in the past and give myself some money to have a bit of fun.

Flower7 · Answer

Going to college at the same age as my peers. I started later due to having to move a lot during my late teens and early 20’s.

ProCoffeeAntiSleep · Answer

Winning Wimbledon. I don’t watch it or care about tennis, but I released one that I was too old to ever win Wimbledon, even if I practised everyday I would never be able to catch up. This was the moment I became an adult

Jena-Min · Answer

Probably I should have went out more and studied less!
I've always had top grades, but I missed out on a lot of things - parties, friendly gatherings, fun outings in the nature, and all that.
Oh, if I could just go back!

Alyssa11 · Answer

Having a boyfriend at school :( lol. I wanted one so badly back then but didn't get my first boyfriend until I was 18.

whatsupbri · Answer

The military I wanted to join the US Air Force so bad at 18 and I’m 26. I know my age doesn’t disqualify me, but my health is shaky now.

Question_091 · Answer

Missed out dating during my teens. But oh well, life moves on, optimistic about the future, Cheers ☕

Inthecraphole · Answer

My biggest regret I would say is not experiencing young love and having a girlfriend when I was younger. I am 27 and still have not had a real girlfriend yet. When I meet a woman, I cannot say we knew each other when we were young. To me, that is heartbreaking.

Anonymous · Answer

I would have loved to have gone to university, but I did not have the money and there were no grants or loans available, if I had the money I'd go now just to throw a spanner in the works around The Intersectional/Identitarian Mob and hang them form their own ideology,

HawkPerception · Answer

Partying in high school and college. Didn't do much of that, although I probably wouldn't have cared for it anyways. There's not a lot of people I resonate with out there.

CasaNorba · Answer

Teen days. I never got to enjoy my youth to the fullest because my father past away from cancer when I was 16 and started suffering from depression after that

TrueConfection · Answer

Joining the USAF. I wanted to be in the AF and I have always regretted not joining.

Gomezaddam51 · Answer

Lots of sex. I was stupid and brainwashed by my mother and church that sex before marriage was bad. Man looking back now, I really screwed up and missed out on a lot of opportunities.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

In my early and mid 20s I was behind the bar a lot and not in front partying. I don't think I can go back and be in front of the bar to enjoy it on that level.

Anonymous · Answer

I didn't go to my high school prom. Even all these years later, I still wish I had gone.

JustAnj · Answer

Traveling and hanging out with friends before kids. That's basically it. :)

front2back · Answer

Should have spent the time learning a 2nd language while in school, even if down as a hobby.  I still plan to do it as an adult but obviously it's harder now.

dragoblack · Answer

Actually making relationships and connections in highschool, but didn't because of mental, emotional, & physical trauma from being constantly bullied 8 years by students, Teachers, & kids in the apt complex i was living in at the time.

humanearth · Answer

Being swingers/Group sex/Orgies Wife thinks we are too old to live that lifestyle again. But 30 years ago it was okay for us

Anonymous · Answer

I spent my teenage years doing everything "right". As a result I had and have no friends, have no precious memories. All I have is a metric shit-ton of debt, a crappy job, and a pile of bills.

HOAAH · Answer

This is almost like do i regret anything in life?  No because i am who i am bc of my past.

ChubbyKing · Answer

Pretty much my entire childhood and adolescence, my depression was so terrible my senior year that I skipped prom and didn't walk for graduation.

RasberrySlushPuppy · Answer

Going on holidays before this pandemic occurred. i was instead at university and working for a solid 6yrs.

LonewolfMeme · Answer

I am going to miss out on college I don’t plan on college at all either

Anonymous · Answer

I just wanna go back to high school and relive it..

Smegskull · Answer

Young love. I became cynical and way too self aware as a young child (between 8 & 10) and have since been unable to care about people and develop relationships.

John_Doesnt · Answer

I missed out on completing a giant tooth ship to return to tooth planet.

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

not losing my virginity in my teenage years or very early 20s, not girlfriend at all during those years, i always hated being the hunter

LinkxPeach · Answer

Playing Pokémon, and Yu-Gi-Oh! TCG games, and collecting Pokémon, and Yu-Gi-Oh! cards. And watching Bleach, and some other anime shows.

Relux47 · Answer

Being on my high school basketball team, high school prom, without a doubt I could’ve had my first girlfriend in middle school but I ruined it

InferiorElegy · Answer

Dating, I tried, I only ever got rejected, I gave up and vowed never again.

NightHawk99 · Answer

Public high school.  I was social distancing before it was cool. Blame parents lol

Better_off_here · Answer

i missed out on being single and not enjoying life when i was younger. i missed out on also a traditional high school expereince.

Anonymous · Answer

Having a girlfriend in high school, it never happened for me and I never went to college so I missed out on a lot

red_knight · Answer

Marriage, love, family, trust..  I'm going to end up alone, forgotten and probably graveless..

elduderinosupreme · Answer

Nothing. What's the point in wanting something I can't have.

themythos · Answer

The "highschool lover" phase. My senior year everyone was hooking up and dating like crazy

emilym12345 · Answer

Not beating the shit out of my 15 year old bully!

Anonymous · Answer

Can’t find anybody who wants to start a family with me

veronicagirl973 · Answer

my childhood most definitaly

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