Should I forgive someone I have know since 1st grade even though she made a rude joke about my sister dyng while she was sick in the hospital?

[Ananymus]

forgive her

not forgive her

[DaySpring]

1st - You don't forgive her for her; you forgive her for YOU

Matthew 6:15 "But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive yours."

I'm going to explain that verse so you understand what I am actually saying. 1st father, lord, god meaning Law. Divine Law. If you don't forgive someone all you are doing is attacking yourself. Literally. You are holding on to the hurt, bitterness, and transgressions against the law. But once you forgive her then all that goes away.

When I say forgive I mean this - Let Go Of
Obviously you don't agree with what she did nor do you make excuses for her actions.
But you and I both know if she really thought it was a bad thing to do she would not have done it. She's just ignorant. Unless this person isn't really your friend. I assume it is a friend. And yes some people are that ignorant. Why do you think only 3% of the population makes like 96% of all the money.

Forgiving is asking you to just mentally let go of what she did. Just let it go. Stop thinking about it and move on. Let her know how it made you feel and then move on. Don't keep punishing your friend because you're also punishing yourself in the process. Punishing yourself way more than I could ever explain in a simple manner.

That is a simple way of explaining it without defining what Law means.

You can grow from all of this or you can go right back to agreeing with the way average people look at it. And you know what average gets you in life.

[crossdressingrihno]

Forgive or do not forgive it really doesn't matter in the long run

If you don't forgive them then that means they weren't worth forgiving in your eyes and if that's the case then whatever feelings of friendship they once had were never really there to begin with

If you do forgive them then you basically just move on as if nothing happened



Either way even if you follow someone else's advice you will learn that if you had better emotions towards that person you're not just going to be able to brush them away and they will come back up again unless you legitimately erase them with true forgiveness

[DaisyM23]

I mean it depends on how sick your sister was - if it was something where the risk of death was small, then you could forgive her, but if it was something like cancer, then it's up to you but nah

[Daniela1982]

When was it when the joke was made? When you were in 1st grade or more recently? Kids don't know the meaning of death.

[Prettygurl12]

No. There are a great many topics that are appropriate to joke about. And I have a dark sense of humor, but I draw the line at joking about the death of a friend's loved one.

[Waldoe]

some people (like me) try to deal with high levels of STRESS by making a Joke... often a BAD joke... When I don't know what to say, I often say the wrong thing... and I'm 72... you'd think I'd learn... but Stress overcomes common sense...

[exitseven]

Sometimes people say stupid things when they do not know what else to say. Sometimes people need to be forgiven.

[Avicenna]

If you’ve known her that long, you should forgive her

[skyeee_]

it's all up to you. if u get peace with urself and her after forgiving her, then go for it, or else dont

[GrantArmstrong]

You will feel better if you can forgive her. Have you talked to her about it? Has she asked you to forgive her? Apologized?

[boobliker]

it's your sister forgive her she may mean more too you than a sister as you chose her

[jshm2]

Talk to her. May be she feels bad about it too.

[genericname85]

forgive yes. forget no.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Hell no and I'll beat that ass too

[In_Trance]

Whatever you want

[jimmy2]

Yes please do