Can older men like older women?

[Anonymous]

Like can a 40 year old man be attracted to a 40 year old woman or older than that? I always hear about how men prefer younger women and its like the same thing all the time..

And no mean or sexist answers.. Thanks..

[MrOracle]

It's definitely possible - but the reality is that women are so used to "dating up" that in order to find a guy their own age attractive, that guy is going to need to have a higher SMV than she does (which isn't difficult), BUT, even though his SMV is higher, most 40-year-old women want and expect a even higher SMV, and she's not likely to be happy with average, or even above average men her age.

Let me explain:

The average 40 year old man in the USA - the guy right on the 50% mark - makes about $65K a year (plus benefits) - it will vary somewhat based on location, being higher in major cities and lower in more rural areas, but that's the number. The average 40 year old woman in the USA sees that man as "low value" and "poor", even if she makes less, and even though SHE is also average. But you know who doesn't think that way about this same man? Many women who are 28-35, who want to get married and have kids. Those same women think that men who are 28-35, and are making $45K a year, have less value than the 40-year-old, so they're much more accepting of the 40-year-old than the men her age.

And let's face it: if you're a man who is 40 years old and average, and couldn't get a woman earlier in life, who would you rather have: the 28-35-year old, or the 40-year-old? Certainly there are exceptions - there always are - but there are reasons that it's uncommon.

Another thing women need to realize - and women HATE to hear this, but it's the truth: when men earn more money (compared to his prior earnings), his desirability to women increases. When women earn more money (compared to her prior earnings), her desirability AT BEST stays the same, and it often DEcreases, because she's likely to believe that her higher earnings earns her a better partner in the same way it often does for men - but men and women value very different things in a partner. Both sexes value looks/fitness, but beyond that, women value security and resources, while men value youth and fertility.

At 40, you can't offer youth and fertility, so you'd have to offer men the other things they value, and hope that's enough to lock him down. What are those things? Being fit (or, at least, not significantly overweight), friendly, feminine, cooperative, and submissive. You need to bring PEACE to his life, not conflict. Some women can do that, but a lot of women today can't - they've spent their entire lives "competing" and they've become masculine, loud, and combative, and most men today will forego even sex to get away from that.

[Turtlewax1994]

Yes they most certainly can

Can you answer mine please?
Doesn’t seem to be as interested as I thought? ↗

[notwoke]

A man will pick the most eligible woman that he thinks will stay with him. the most eligible (and confident) 40 yr old men will be with a much younger, thin woman. Some other 40 yr old man might be with an overweight or "curvy" 50 yr old and be thrilled to have her

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

What if someday younger women keep sticking by younger men?

It’s just too shallow, to limit the range of women just because she was born around the same time as you.

That’s unfair.

[notwoke]

@LaFemmeFatale_1 Life's not fair, When you or someone else is picking a mate, being "fair to the world" is not your main purpose. If you keep waiting for things to be fair, your going to be sorely disappointed your whole life, this is true in everything. Think how fair it was to the cow you ate for dinner last night.

A man will go with a younger woman if he is capable of getting her because she is prettier and will remain prettier for more of his life and looks are a main component of why a man is with a woman, and the younger woman is more fertile which is instinctively part of attraction. A 40 yr old woman can likely not bear a child

[Asker]

@notwoke what about a 40 year old man who doesn't want a child? I'm a 30 year old woman myself who know who doesn't want kids for the rest of her life. I'm a average pretty woman.

[notwoke]

a woman without a child, who doesn't want a child should be very desireable for a 40 yr old man who does not want to raise another mans child. Once this becomes known your eligibility goes way up

[Anonymous]

Yes it’s possible. I’d say her chances are slimmer as opposed to a younger female. A lot of men want someone who still has good looks, healthy as far as being able to have a child. Someone who is more energetic, maybe not so scorned because she’s had bad luck w men as opposed to a lot of older women who are like that.

[Surely]

Your question seems like men keep trading their women for younger models as they grow older.
if you marry your sweetheart when you are both eighteen. Should the woman expect for their husband to get rid of them at 40?
Women are in their prime in their 30’s and 40’s.

[Anonymous]

She has to be on par with me. I’m 40 and I still got a full head of hair, visible abs, own a house, make a good salary, etc. Also she has to have a GOOD attitude. Some of the worst dates I have ever been on are with women close to my age. It’s counterintuitive because you think they would understand men better. But some actually get worse.

[abc3643]

My wife had just turned 42 when I met her. I was about to turn 37. We got 3 weeks after she turned 44.

[Anonymous]

I dunno?

Do you think that people can drink water?

Because I always hear about people going to coffee shops and drinking coffee so like is that the only thing that is possible or?

[Fireguy17]

Yes, not uncommon at you.
You have both had the same life experiences being the same or close in age.

[AviatorTom]

Of course, my SO is the same age as me, and I like her.

[Anonymous]

Well don't you know a woman's life is OVER after 30? (rolling eyes) lol Don't believe everything you hear. Of course we are.

[Anonymous]

So you want an honest answer. But you don't want it to sound mean... you're kind of tying our hands.
Sometimes the answer is one you don't want to hear.

[Anonymous]

A small percentage. But I wouldn't date a older woman.
What for? She can't do nothing for me

[In_Trance]

For sure