Whose really the worst at communicating?

[Justneedtokno]

As a woman of 28 year. I’ve realized that we as women demand good communication but we really don’t know how to do it ourselves.

Think about it men will tell you what they are and what they are about and it’s up to us to take it for what it is. We choose to try to change them or their mindset.

Example: A guy states I’m not really looking for a relationship. And we go in and try to get him to love us. The bad boy player or the person that’s been hurt so many times and we wanna be the ones to change that

[Sixgunsound]

Most guys are easy to understand; they say what they mean and mean what they say. It really comes down to two sticking points that need to be taken care of and a lot of the rest is negotiable: keep the stomach full and the balls empty, and that’s a pretty good chunk of the inroads you need to make as well as the preventative maintenance. Having a kind, loving, fun personality and willing to be part of a greater whole without struggling for dominance are also important. There are a lot of bad b*tches with corner offices and partner status who have a cat collection because that isn’t the energy that men want. If cats are your thing you do you, but if a human partner is the goal a different approach is required.

This communication breakdown leads to a lot of resentment among women who have spent their adult lives trying to out-man men. Even if he isn’t top dog letting him think he is will get you further than showing him he isn’t. If you take one thing away from my post I hope that is it. Emasculating your partner will not get you quality men, and the ones that will passively accept it are not quality men.

Just like women want to see day to day effort, so do men. Men will NEVER be as good at communicating because that is not how we evolved as a survival strategy. our society creates a lot of communication difficulties for both genders on a regular basis, and tossing away socially popular notions or stereotypes and treating each potential partner as an individual not a nameless faceless interchangeable token in the dialectic of men versus women will allow you to see what your potentially effective strategies could be rather than trying to plan for men as a whole.

[Anonymous]

Anyone who doesn't want to show vulnerability. Be it because they've been hurt before for being honest and straight forward. Or if they're just naturally a liar and it's intentional deception.

I consider myself an honest person and I want to to be completely honest with everyone I meet. But I pay for it everytime I'm honest with a woman. So many women want a preferred lie or an unpalatable truth. Anymore my attitude is if she can't handle my honesty then I conclude we're just not right for each other and I move on.

[Alex8736]

People are set in their ways depending on whatever the situation might be but at the very beginning if they say certain things then the best approach moving forward would be to not try and change them where you might scare them off. Sometimes people just want a non judgmental friend and from there they will change when they are ready by nature 😀

[Philyouup]

I have found that the state of education in America is so horrible that both men and women are horrible at communicating. And the reliance on texting as a form of communication is minimally Like riding with crayons.

[Agape93]

In my experience, men.

[Justneedtokno]

Can you please share an example

[Agape93]

Sure. My best friend and I talk a lot. I'm a lot more open with things than he is by default, but getting him to say what he means can be like pulling teeth. Ergo he is less communicative than i am

[Justneedtokno]

Oh ok I understand. We all know a person like that

[Light909090]

We do?

[Sixgunsound]

@Agape93 It’s that stoic masculinity stereotype that you aren’t a real man if you show too much emotion or talk too much. Just another example of how life is hard for both genders.

[Agape93]

Agreed. Men have emotions and are free to express it as anyone else in this world. No need to criticize people for it

[Light909090]

Sure they have emotions but The world
criticizes those that Express there feelings and emotions and are seen as weak and treated as such.
Doesn’t matter that they have emotions that doesn’t Change the fact that people don’t like people who express there emotions because expressing oneself is seen as a weakness.
That’s why an employee is given the Job of manager because that Employee Doesn’t express emotions or feelings on the Job they do that’s work without showing emotions.
If you have a cop that goes to work expressing human emotions they wouldn’t be able to work together because they’d have some cop crying 😭 over every little thing

[Light909090]

It’s not about your Race it’s about What you’ve learned and developed

[Guy13]

Men suck at it

[Guy13]

Men communicate either: 1. Physical contact equates to love and trust behind. 2. Respect from her is a know element of relationship.
If there is both then there is puppy dog and likely very committed man.

[legalboxers]

People who have been burned badly