Did you ever Find Out that You may have Been Used?

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**Can be in ANY AREA of "USED."xx

Sirenboobzilla · Accepted Answer

Oh of course. One guy I was dating a few years ago was taking full advantage of me in order to live for free. He told me that he would need a place to stay for a little while as he saved money for a new apartment. I begrudgingly said yes to him staying with me; we'd been together for like 3 weeks. I have a savings account that I have hidden from my own view (have it so it doesn't show up on my online banking, and I fully ignore the e-statements, basically my emergency emergency account). Any who, I had left my computer on with my bank account open and went to the bathroom. He snooped on my computer and looked through my account statements. The account in question at the time had 30k. He transferred, without my knowing, 10k to himself via zelle. Mind you, I have ALL of my accounts set to alert me when anything about 1k leaves, regardless of purchase or transfer, etc. I got a ring while I was in the bathroom from the banking app...

Ending? His face had a very hand shapped bruise on the side (I've played volleyball since high-school, I slap hard), a trip to the bank (we have the same bank) and he got slapped with fraud and had his account forcefully closed.

douride2 · Accepted Answer

Sadly @paris13 yes it happened.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

in the context of relationships? nope, not really...

even if one of my ex-girlfriends came out with an announcement (which I absolutely know is just not the case) and told me, " Nathan you know what? I just used you for this or that... convenience and taking advantage of you "

even then, I would be like "really? well damn!!, thank you for making me so goddamned happy for all those years lol, now I kind of wish everyone used me just like you did" lol

clampfan101 · Accepted Answer

Girls online asking for money after pretending to like me…

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Yes, and I chastised myself for allowing it to happen. I looked back on the history of the relationship to determine what clues I ignored and then told myself to pay more attention to similar clues if they happen again in future relationhips.

Lynx122 · Answer

It doesn't happen too often because I have different priorities than most people and I'm aware when people treat me badly. But I mean someone wants something at all times. The ones I hate the most are the people who use a positive principal/ideal to try and convince me of doing something because they know I care about these things. Then later I see them acting in a way completely contrary to what they said we were doing this for in the first place. They can never keep it up they forget about it or think I won't notice, that just pisses me off.

Or when people suddenly treat you super well and cater to you when they need something, and you realize wait you could have treated me like this all along but you never gave a fuck and now that you need something you're paying attention lol.

menina · Answer

Yes, but only realized it 10 years later. There was a girl who made me believe that she was my friend and I was so desperate to have friends that I believed her. I was also going through a difficult moment so I was down. Now when I look back I'm able to understand that she never cared about me, she just wanted someone to keep her company and write papers for her.

Titanic1912 · Answer

I was used by someone. It was my high school sweetheart. She and I started dating before my senior prom and that night, I kissed her and she kissed me back. Then three months later, I found out she cheated on me by telling me that she was pregnant and the baby wasn’t mine. I knew the baby wasn’t mine because I never had sex with her. And, I’m still a virgin to this day.

Ehjoh1 · Answer

Yes it happened and even though I wish I never experienced such shit people in my life, I learnt very much from it and don't really regret it as a "waste of time". Sometimes we need to experience sour things to progress into much better people and find out who fits us the best.

itsmegrave · Answer

Oh noooo, nooo way! That would hurt so much! But yes, sometimes things happen that could look bad, but really isn't. People who use others usually don't mean any harm by it. It's actually the opposite; They are using you because they care about you and want to help you out

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Yah my ex she used me to get another guy then dumped me

DaveJord · Answer

22 years of marriage I never saw myself as the victim... then divorce came and with life after divorce, I realized in the end the only person I was fooling was myself.

DermalPunch · Answer

Yes of course. The ugly truth is that everyone is using someone for something. The key is being upfront and negotiating your position and getting your part out of the deal.

Makeushiver · Answer

A couple of times but it was closer to each of us using each other. Times when I've been with a woman with who both of us had felt platonic to each other and then something would come up and all of a sudden we were 69ing each other

humanearth · Answer

Yep, I have been used before

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

When I started feeling like a "sugar mommy" to this lazy boyfriend, I sent him packing.

SunnyCaliGirl · Answer

Yes I have very much hand it’s probably one of the most gut wrenching feelings that makes one feel sick physically

Anonymous · Answer

ghosted, used, same thing.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Yes, she actually TOLD ME! "I was only using you to make him jealous."

Havthrills · Answer

By so many people. That's why people suck. Almost everyone but my family.

Shark_61695 · Answer

Yeah, my "friends" at school were only the beginning.

Likes2drive · Answer

I felt like that with my ex wife

jimmy2 · Answer

We are not knowledgeable but we get used all the time

Philyouup · Answer

You heard the story. wife fucked my “old friend”. for about a year before i woke the fuck up

exitseven · Answer

yes, it has happened, Everyone wonders why I have trust issues.

macjets007 · Answer

100% A lot of time it is kind of obvious, but I will say as a guy being used is not as bad compared to a women's experience.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Nope not yet thank God

Googlemyahoo · Answer

Yea years ago this girls online dating profile said she was 38 turned out she was 68

RavVid · Answer

We all get used. Unsurprising result.

Jennz6 · Answer

Guys love ❤️ to use me, abuse me

Talksik6 · Answer

I was used for sex and money for 7 years by my ex

msc545 · Answer

Not really.

EaterPeter · Answer

Yes and I wish 😉

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