Why does abuse make people needy?

[jennifer_bloom]

I know a woman who was abused by her family as a child and she is the ultimate attention hog, anytime she is in the room, over 80% of the conversation has to be about her and she is always trying to compete with other people and prove she is better and more valuable than them. I know another guy who was abused and he is also an attention hog, if there is a group of 10, he has to do 25% of the talking.

[watercolor_lions]

I see it as compensating for what you didn't receive as a child. They need to be validated that they are important.

It also depends on how the person is abused though. You're talking about neglect. A person who was physically abused might be different.

[TheVigilantOne]

I was abused my whole life but I’m not needy I’m the opposite I won’t even ask for help as I feel like a burden.

[FilmGuy93]

It creates an unhealthy emotional feedback loop.

[BigOleMatt]

I see the needy as in trying to make up for what you did wrong to them or trying to be a "better in their eyes" person.

[Zolly99999]

She feels the need to prove her worth because she probably blames her abuse on herself and thinks it was her fault.

[Sixgunsound]

Compensation for past trauma.

[Anonymous]

i been abused myself and still being abused