I choose to start a family in my late 20s or right at 30-31 and i believe that's still young but really why is society making it sound like it's the end of the world if they dont have what everyone else has right away like a marriage and a family and they look at you like "oh no aww thats sad" look in public at work or in general. It's just rude how they make it sound like you're in a race.
Plenty of women will give you bad advice that if you take it, YOU will be the one to deal with the consequences.
Biology has never changed. Women past 35 have a SIGNIFICANTLY less chance of having a healthy kid. Their chance of pregnancy at all goes down a lot, but when they do get pregnant when older there is a high chance of birth defects, mostly mental/learning disabilities. That is a major contributing factor why there are more kids in school now with learning disabilities and more with severe learning disabilities that will never be a fully functioning adult.
The reason why 30 is seen as "the wall" for women is because you don't meet someone and then have a kid that first month. Normally you would date for a year, then live together for a year, then start trying to have a kid. So the whole process from the first day you met takes about 3 years for the first kid. Using those average times, if you met someone right at 30, you could have two healthy kids by 35. AND that is only if you were healthy and didn't have a past of doing drugs or heavy alcohol drinking because that damages a woman's eggs regardless of her age. Even if the woman was 20, but she did drugs in her teens it could badly affect her future kids.
Men lose fertility for healthy kids too, but it starts at 55 instead of 35. Regardless of some people's wishful thinking or denial of biology and statistics, those are the numbers. So if someone wants a good chance of having healthy kids, don't start a NEW relationship with a woman past 30 or a man past 50, and don't be with anyone with a past of drug use (including marijuana.)
by the way, I have worked in schools for 12 years and the two most common circumstances when the kids have learning disabilities are past drug use and the mother's age.
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Paula, you just have to ignore most of the bullshit you hear from society at large, because it is just that, bullshit, from people that throw out that kind of 'group think" because that is the way THEY FEEL about themselves.
Here is a classic example: I went for a job interview, when returning from military at TWENTY-SEVEN! Talked to some ignorant asshole in an agency and he wanted to know if I had any "Social Problems"? Because I was not married at 27. I said: Social Problems!!! What the fuck are you talking about! He asked if I belonged to any "Gay liberation movements" ! I went to the owner of the Agency and made a formal complaint. Not married at 27, I must be gay? RIGHT? ?
Later at 33, I was at the University of Akron, and was competing in 10K's and went to the University to take a Treadmill Fitness' Test. The Bozo that ran the fitness area said:
"Oh no, we don't test any "Middle Aged" men!!! I had to get an EKG for this asshole to test me, and when I tested, I was "off the scale" for a 19 year old for oxygen uptake and cardio fitness.
That is what we are up against in this society when it comes to not being 15 years old!!!
I understand why you feel the way you do. Forget it and get on with your life, sweet pea.
Bruce
Hmmm I guess because I’m your age, I see what you are saying. I think it’s just the fact that back then a lot of people were married and had kids by the age of 25 but I think the issue is in todays world , there’s so much more obstacles when it comes to getting to a point of being successful and comfortably living , that the stresses of comfortability living are affecting the quality of peoples relationships and also not allowing people to actually comfortably live while having a family at the early age.
I’ve never noticed society doing this 🤔 maybe 50
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Depending on how we were brought up and when we leave our parents house which I was 16 and 1/2 the life is weird I don't think that I'm an adult now LOL it's because I have grown up but I haven't grown up I am who I am on the inside that's all the couch but for a lot of people life doesn't start until you're 30 that's when you've gotten everything out of your system and you start to settle down I know that sounds kind of late but that's how it was for me and no matter my age inside my body and what I feel like I still feel like I'm 25 years old just because we have 25 or 30 birthday cakes that doesn't mean that's how old we are it's how you feel on the inside and at my age right now I don't feel it at all like like I said I still feel like I'm 25
Women do not hit a wall at 30.
Most 30 year olds look like they did at 20, many 30 year old men are more than willing to date and marry 30 year old women and stay married to them. And thats actually part of your problem (and my problem). By 30, most people are married, so your value doesn't shrink, but the pool of single people does.
As for having children, there is a MINOR increase in birth defects for MOST women around their early 30s, but as I've said before, it is easily mitigated in a clinic for anyone who wants to have kids at that age with almost no risk. but even without the clinic, its like an 80% to 90% chance of no birth defect issues naturally.
Anxiety is understandable, But it's still a barrier you have to break through.I didn't notice. I really just be me and don't care what "main stream media" or "the masses" push because it either is a lie or just people following one person. Kind of why I quit church. Just be yourself. You sound like an awesome woman. So be you like only you can.
Its not society but your social circle. My family for example dont mind when or if I dont even marry at all. Important is not to force it and let it happen naturally when you're ready.
Marriage at 18 is damn early though. Here very early marriage and teen pregnancy are a "lower class issue". The more up to date people dont see the reason why even marry
I don't know they used to say life begins at 30, or was it 40., Anyway I was watching TV and some balloon chested teenager was calling a guy who looked maybe 35, old. By that yard stock I must be antique😉
If you think 24 is old imagine me I am hitting 30 and people always think I am 19 .
If u focus on what u read online no life choice is a good one simply ignore people lol
Mainly because of social life when it comes to youth and dating.
At age of 25 we start to feel our body aging and our prime degrading.
At 30 dating someone who is 18-20 starts looking creepy and pedo looking to many people (even though they are both consenting adults).
At age 40 though middle aged adult you are considered old and only datable by those around your age.
Simply put people want to maintain their youth but reality hits hard.You should be having kids now, at 30 no guy will look at you.
As they say once women hit 30 they basically have nothing to offer.
Ignorant society. Im nearly 40. Im old enough to know better, but young enough to do it again.
I don't even have grey hair. TF! LOL
Life is short sometimes, people are impatient but 30 is fine, I started a family at 31
Hey age is a number if you take care of yourself 62 and very fit, people think I in my 40, s
wow I don't know... crazy
no one is just this dumb fucking site is
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