During an argument, do you have to get the last word?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

I rarely lose an argument, but I don't have to get in the last word per se. Nor am I afraid to hear the other person's side - just the opposite; I'm happy to shut up and let them say what they want to say, and I'll listen and pay attention - I just ask that they agree to do the same with me afterwards. Then I have my say, and often, I get them to see things my way. Sometimes I can't, and we agree to disagree. And sometimes, they can't handle it, and they storm off, maybe calling me names or threatening me. All that means to me is that they know they lost, and are trying to distract everyone from that fact.

But, here's the thing: I want to hear their side first, because OCCASIONALLY I'll learn something from them that I didn't know, that changes MY mind - and on those occasions, I'll say so, and I'll graciously give them their win. If I was wrong, I have no trouble admitting it - I just care that I was right AT THE END, even if I had to change my mind to get there.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

it usually happens... but not because I have to get it, they just run out of arguments, realize they were not right after all... or get tired of throwing insults because they cannot longer sustain their point, lol

once they lose focus and start throwing crap... they're just tiring themselves out, lol

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Nah.

What I hate is being constantly interrupted and the other person refusing to listen and trying to dominate the conversation. Or someone who's so ADHD that they just don't stop talking or ranting.

But I don't care who has the last word.

I am big on closure, though. Not resolving anything, and repeating the same stupid conversations or conflicts over and over, feels like a colossal waste of time with that person.

AddylynnNightingale · Accepted Answer

No, I just have to have it 'resolved' in my eyes. Imagine we both disagree on something, no matter what I say, you're going to disagree with it, so whether or not I get the last word, I don't mind agreeing to disagree and leave it at that. I already said what I wanted to say, I'll move on from the argument.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

Yeah, I’m pretty stubborn lol  I've gotten better at just letting things go and letting others have the last word though

Sour-rose · Answer

I honestly don't. Many times, i want to because it feels good but nah. If i kept arguing with my mom, i'd come in like auntie beth and be like "AND ANOTHER THING!" shakin' my cane and shi after this shi was like 3 weeks ago. xD

Rosexøxø · Answer

Yes I do.

And it’s a necessity.

So don’t argue with me-

Don’t @. Me

*trigger warning*

🚨 🚨 🚨

🤣 jk but yeah it’s not the last word it’s the last line of reasonnn

Anybody who knows me can see that… hopefully!

Sixgunsound · Answer

I can tell when someone has reached the end of their supply of prepackaged talking points when the shrillness or overall volume of their voice increases or the hurling of insults begins in earnest because they have nothing left. At that point I feel comfortable claiming victory because they would have made any points they had left to make before then.

Emiliamazing · Answer

The last word when having an argument should be I'm sorry, or let's figure this out. it drives me nuts when people try to throw another jab in at the end before stomping off.

dustybiker · Answer

No. It’s nice to say your peace (for yourself) and just let them squirm a bit longer till they figure it out the reaction attention is gone.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Nope… But don’t test me. 🤣 I don’t back down either. If you’re not worth my time and breath, you can argue alone 🤣 idgaf

sheenagwapa · Answer

with my ex before no.. i always listen to the explanation and try my best to understand. i get mad but i don't ike conflict because before my day get ruined and i don't even go to class or take exam. i'm pathetic i get do restless

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

Not really. Someone has to say the last word, and it matters not which one. I just want to get the most of what the argument is about. I’m constantly hungry for knowledge.

TroyDT2 · Answer

I'm male so even if I felt the need it wouldn't happen.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Naw, I'm pretty good at just walking away or agreeing and taking responsibility, it changes nothing in the end.

ShellyB · Answer

It is my natural pattern I have to create little systems and rules to keep myself from being obnoxious tbh.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I don't insist on the last WORD - but carry an 'argument' until all relevant things are said. My preference is the last LAUGH :) (often: after a few days have passed...)

SecretsofKB · Answer

Yes, and it gets me into more trouble than the original argument. I'm working to get better at it!

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

No. I know when to call it quits... Especially with people on here, lol.

Steamnir · Answer

No. I get pleasure from running out the arguments and leave them hanging, i dont do this anymore tho

glennos89 · Answer

No I rather take my loss and get the argument over with

sweet-chocolate · Answer

If my point is gonna be relevant then yeah but if not, ah I don't care really, you can keep talking.

Iron_Man · Answer

I don’t care about that anymore getting the last word basically I just want to defend myself and cover myself. I’m surely not trying to dog out my girlfriend to be mean to attack

BLP11520 · Answer

No I have to leave the room because my pig headed wife KNOWS everything

Cubus · Answer

I believe that is the purpose of the argument - to prove that your statement is the best or least bad.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I try very hard to avoid getting into arguments. I don't have to get the last word in but if I do, good for me.

SeriouslyFunny00 · Answer

Nope. Especially if the other person is close minded, I'd rather leave the conversation. 🤣🏃🏻‍♀️

Anonymous · Answer

Not really. She's better at arguing. It doesn't make her right and I'm not responsible for educating her.

JenniferBiArizona · Answer

Nope. My silence will be enough to scare them.

Anonymous · Answer

No, it's not necessary. Worry about more meaningful matters like i'm having androgenetic alopecia.

legalboxers · Answer

As a Sag.. Yes.. but Im adult enough to walk away

OddBeMe · Answer

Last word is overrated in arguments or sales pitches. Which are the same thing.

EaterPeter · Answer

I guess. If not then how would you win an argument?

TonightYouu · Answer

Yes and it’s usually  okay ( drives people nuts 🤣)

TrillXHippy · Answer

If I don’t see the argument going anywhere then there’s no point of me continuing

SnowedIn · Answer

Not always but I confess I like it.

humanearth · Answer

Yeah, because I'm stupid

exitseven · Answer

nope, most of the time i do not.

AsaKyo · Answer

Ah, me and my big, fat mouth

Tina19 · Answer

Yes always all the time yes yes yes

Zolly99999 · Answer

Haha. ... YES

Fuentes · Answer

Of course fonk for life

EmmaMary · Answer

No, absolutely not.

melanieeeB · Answer

Nope

Hairylegs222 · Answer

No, it's pointless

Blackcupcake · Answer

nope

Staximus · Answer

Yeah, I'm a fucking hammerhead

boobliker · Answer

no I ask to see her tits and that stop it

maximumpower · Answer

Nope.  Am compelled to state the true one, tho.

McKellar · Answer

To prove my point.

ZenJen444 · Answer

I block people. I don't waste my time and energy

Debbie14217 · Answer

no bc im usually right

Nominal · Answer

Not necessarily

Pink2000 · Answer

Yes. I do.

MiamiMadness · Answer

Yes I do.

Luopio27 · Answer

I hate arguments.

User3191989 · Answer

I don't

Alcoholic_Wannabe · Answer

Yup.

TallAnon · Answer

Nah, don't care

eagle1951 · Answer

nope

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