What are some ways you have dealt with childhood bullies, without laying hands?

[VIVANT]

How I non violently silenced a BULLY: PART2

…I think Even when kids are in adversarial mode, they like to feel like they are creating something so I was able to capture their attention, plus this really wasn’t _personal_ none of them liked or disliked me they were just “following orders” so all you really need to to is distract them from one direction and point them in other. Mindless following is irritating but it’s malleable)

I explained to the attending ears, each character was based on a classmate and all names were based on their predominant traits, respectively. I went around the table circle.

The first girl to my left whom the other girl also taunted for being “chubby” (she was not) I called her “Bella” bc she was very pretty & her mom did her hair in beautiful arrangements every day. Patience for both of them must have been immense. (I knew calling her pretty would sting bc the bully was extremely vain)

The second girl to my left , I called “crystal” bc of how delicate yet powerful she was. She was very strong. I was super strong and she could almost put arm wrestle me and we both climbed the rope the fastest — tho she was no match for me with “fastest sit ups” 😂 (again “strong” would cut, bc the bully was a dancer but neither graceful nor strong)

To my right, the bullies best friend, I called “Athena” after the goddess of wisdom, bc she was wise. (I suspected their friendship was a fluke and would not last, it didn’t. Incidentally “Athena” was always real nice to me when her other friend wasn’t around so I knew there was potential for her to be legit.)

Soooo as we arrived at the bully, I explained my dilemma was that I couldn’t come up with a name that sounded cool that meant “THE MOST ANNOYING GIRL IN THE WORLD”

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Everyone laughed bc it was unexpected & bc they all i iksgineon some level had experienced how irritating she was— she worked hard at it!! The table laughed so hard the lunch aid scolded us. For the remainder of lunch _most_ of us tried to think of a name. I almost felt bad. ALMOST.

I never did choose a name. I wasn’t out to humiliate & it was enough that she had to self reflect for a moment. Then It was recess. I didn’t bring it up next lunch. And that girl never said a word to me.

[Anonymous]

I dished it back way harder!
A good example was from when I was little kid. I had a bully who took the same bus as me, he was much bigger and very aggressive so I doubt I could have beaten him in fight. He was being insulting and aggressive as usual but something magical popped out of my mouth, I don’t remember what it was or how I said it but that day I had broke someone. I stopped taking the bus after that for reasons I don’t know but I never seen or heard of that kid again.




I’ve had other bullies and for the most part I’m just way too good at pushing buttons, they’d go from mean and aggressive to crying in the corner and never looking me in the eyes. This trend of me being a little too good with words continued into high school where I reigned supreme in dissing people.




Other than being able to insult people I’ve also learned how to turn friends against each other which came in use a few times. Basically i stopped getting bullied because people were afraid of ticking me off.


You would think everyone would hate me but nahhh i was surprisingly well liked by more than a few people though I also had fair share of enemies.

[ShadezMcgee]

That WAS the only way to get them to stop. Laying hands out of retaliation through provocation or the other party instigating the fight was the only way to get them to end it.

Bullies are an unfortunate and necessary evil because they test your mettle, character a d level of self respect. How much are you willing to tolerate? How do you resolve the issue amd get it to stop?

You punch them in the nose or throat as hard as you can and beat them into the ground. Trying to diffuse the bullying via adult or through words only served as a temporary fix it plan. It would come back. They want to know what you are made of. When they understand what you are capable of doing and can stand up for yourself, they move on.

[Anonymous]

My first boyfriend was toxic and very nasty. When we broke up he used to taunt me at school, and after prize giving one night he started flashing around this pocket knife I had to lent him. It belonged to my mum and he wanted to rub it in my face that he had it. I decided to confront him and ask for it back, which led to him screaming at me calling me a psycho and then throwing the knife at me. Once I got picked up I made my mum call his parents who were borderline abusive hardasses and tell them what he had done and to keep him away from me. After that he didn't bother me anymore. Made me so happy to know he had to go through hell at home after what he did to me.

[melanieeeB]

When I got bullied in school well I first went to my mom and asked her for help and even tho she ignored me, I do still recommend that to everyone else.
Afterwards once a teacher noticed and said something, it helped for a week.
And after that I realized that I can't change them bullying me and so I changed my own view on that and worked on my confidence. It worked. I was even sitting with the girls who bullied me first during grade 9 and 10. Plus I was even on the wedding of one of them last year.

[melanieeeB]

Oh and It only worked cause I didn't stay bitter and hurt, I moved on from them bullying me and never held grudges agains them

[Anonymous]

I grew up with bullies as my parents. wasn't allowed to stand up for myself. Got my ass beat if i tried. So you can imagine what it was like being bullied in school.

In short, I adopt a "time will take care of your ass" mentality. I dont argue. I dont fight. Silence is very powerful because it demands self control. Nothing is more UNattractive than someone with no self control

I figure the bullies have more issues with self esteem than I do. Instead, I worked on myself. Made myself better. I learned to know my place so that whatever someone says or does to me is irrelevant. I know who I am and where im going and dont need to bring myself to petty conflict to prove a point.

I deal with bullies everyday in my professional career. I've learned to stand confidently as myself with knowledge and candor. Over time, I've managed to corale their team members behind me and all the bullies have left is to jump on board with me or drown alone.

[inhua]

there is none. you had to fight back to send a clear message to the bully and a stern warning to others who would look down on you.

doesn't matter how you look at it, you would be looked down upon by your peers, even by those in the same situation if you let yourself get bullied. telling someone else to fix your issue would only make things worse.

[DribbleGodCurt]

Honestly say the most truthful hurtful things about them and boom there you go. well i mean in their personality and what they do wrong example, how are you gonna say this and that about me it just proves who you are bc what you say about me says more about yourself think about that. hope this helps.

[xJeremyx]

I was bullied all through primary school and secondary school (that would be grades 1-10).

I was really affected by it, and it showed, which prompted them to bully me more.

But I eventually learnt to just ignore them. If you don't show that you are affected by their taunts, they will not dare to screw with you. If their words have nothing I can use to improve myself, why bother?

The bullying pretty much ended when I started not giving a damn.

[sheikalana]

Had a few bullies during my childhood and teenage years and honestly I used to be a very quiet and shy kid. I used to be afraid of my bullies and never ever dared to talk to them or reply back but I'm very good at ignoring people so that's what I did. Kill them with your silence.

[exitseven]

One time during lunch I went out in the parking lot and took all the lug nuts of one of his front wheels off except for one. I put all the lug nuts in his hubcap and put it back on the wheel. I watched from inside a classroom as he went out and started driving away. He figured out what was wrong and I saw him looking around but he never knew it was me that did it.

[MysticDevice]

I dealt with them by succeededing while they all got stuck paying child support to a sugar mama while being a baby daddy with someone else.

I dealt with them by being mentally stable while they wrestle in and out of parole.

I dealt with them by getting the last laugh.

[Fuentes]

I never got bullied I would catch fades, push me into any corner and that will be the last thing you ever wanted. I get violent and it's not a pretty sight.

I was known as the crazy one, everyone who tested me found out the hard way.

These days I am in well control of my anger but it can still come out of you force me lol but I'm very calm and understand most people.

[NotTacocaT6969]

Words < actions.


Attempting to talk to the bullies resulted in them making other kids cry in front of me.


Making the bullies cry in front of the entire school made the bullying stop.

[Tyrael]

Laying hands is honestly almost always the best way to handle bullies. I fought everyone that gave me shit in school. Eventually all the guys just stayed away from me except my best friend and the group of girls we hung around with.

[Anonymous]

Play dead so to speak. Most bullies (in my experience anyhow) just want to know they're getting to you, dominating you. So, give them what they want. Of course this might be unique to guys I dunno.

The only other option I see is to inflict so much pain on them they don't want to think about doing it again. But you're not allowing me that option.🤣

[Pyrofox]

My bullies often found out the hard way why not to screw with me or my friends such as SUPER GLUING THEIR lockers shut o... o The janitors had to full on rip the doors off their lockers XD. ROFL.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Middle school was horrible, I got bullied terrible the only thing worked was going to the guidance counselor or the Assistant Principal Mr. Phillips and my parents never knew what I went through.

[ChillaxingLove]

I’m such a nice person that he stopped bullying me and became my friend. Not sure that’ll work for everyone but it definitely changed him

[RealMarek]

I learned how to take a beating. They were older than me and bigger. There wasn’t much else I could do until I got my growth.

[CateM]

I moved thousands of miles away from them lmao

[rienna888]

I think the best way is to confront them. Just talk to them normally and not like you’re angry.

[call_me_scar]

I just stabbed mine in the arm to get him to shut up oh and stole his ID when I could

[Sevenpointfive]

i use the crane kick twice

[Shark_61695]

Suffered and cried 😀