What experience do you have with bullies in school?

[Msputiton]

Were you bullied?

Were you the bully?

Did you intervene if you saw someone being bullied, or did you ignore it?

[dragoblack]

Ooooh, this is a long depressing one for me.
The bullying of physical, emotional, and mental abuse happened near constant from kindergarten through 7th grade in and out of school. I was the scapegoat for all damage in school and was targeted by teachers for every little thing i did while the rest of the classes actions were ignored. I was a shy kid who kept to himself most of the time but the bullying was so bad i just put my head inside my desk to sleep. The teachers would insult and degrade me, anything bad in class the bullies lied and said it was my fault which the teachers believed without hesitation, even when the evidence was obvious, even when I was not even involved. I was physically assulted on the playground which the teachers ignored, i was ostrisized by students, i was put in detention and deprived of school lunch, my mom had to threaten one of the teachers of being made to dissapear because she was verbally abusing me in afterschool detention where i was the only kid held after school. After school i was physically assulted by the bullies of the apt complex i lived in... this was an every other day occurance. It got so bad that out of stress i would pull the hear out of my head to the point i got a bald spot... which of course made the bullying worse. During Valentine's day i never even once got a valentine card or chocolate when the kids were done handing them out. I eventually moved to a new elementary... only for it to continue. At 6th grade i snapped and stabbed a kid who just bullied me in the spine with a sharpened pencil... i was sent to a mental institution because I didn't see anything wrong with what i did after being bullied near constant for 7 friggin years... luckily the parents didn't press charges. But even the mental hospital that i was kept in for 6 months was like hell; beds that that sound like crinkled paper with every little movement, ice cold showers that you had a little disposable medicine cup of what was shampoo/conditioner/bodywash all in 1, that i had less than 3 min to take a shower with... and of course it didn't lather. I was restricted from going outside for fresh air, the meals were bad they kept adding on medications instead of weening me off ones that didn't work, i was given a doctor that the hospital was specifically told never to let around me. It ended up with me in the mental room because i was filled with so many medications, and restricted from anything that would reduce my stress or bring me any comfort, that ended up with me being bruised 3/4th of my body and 8 tranquilizers injections... that i resisted all of... after that i got out on my birthday. When i entered jr high i was put in the special education class where the teachers assistant would target me for mental abuse because i would draw to keep myself calm and i was anti-social. .. because of obvious reasons... eventually i verbally retaliated standing up for myself... which of course got me in detention... many times to the point the school police officer came in. Eventually I switched schools in 8th grade and the principle allowed to to have the option of regular classes.. i took that option immediately. It was fine for a bit till one kid decided to want to bully me.. mom showed up in her biker jacket, he got scared and backed off. One other moment happened after that that ended up with me hitting a student who thought it was funny to shut off the computer i was doing homework on, just when i finished writing an essay for one of my classes coming up and I had yet to save... obviously I didn't care about repercussions at that point, i had been training my body and I've been tired of thd bullying.. eventually it stopped. I got into highschool but i was anti-social and done with it all just focusing on my day to get through it, going home to do weapon training, research on martial arts, and watch anime. I didn't interact with students much.

[Fuentes]

I never got bullied, we started sectioning off by hoods in 5th grade. Like told what colors we can and can't wear cause when ur walking down the street they wasn't gonna give u a pass when walking home and quick way to get socked out or packed out.

As for school nobody could be a bully cause everyone wanted to fight. So if someone turned down a fade u gonna have to take it from someone else. And we all fought over stupid stuff, like bumping into eachother, touching someone's stuff or just dumb stuff you wouldn't even think would cause a fight or gang signs or colors & certain logos.

Have I ever seen a situation where I thought someone was bullied? yeah I remember this kid I went elementary with in 3rd grade some foster kid. In highschool I seen him again cause this was my third high school at this point and I had one other homie who got expelled too and came over to the school with me. But we seen him get into a pushing match on the smokers corner where we hung out at and skipped most our classes, then the kids homies were gonna pack him until we stood up and said nah its one on one y'all not packing him.

They didn't wanna fight us and they were 8 deep they woulda had the advantage but i was well known for being crazy and they knew that & they knew I got kicked outta my last school. so they let the fade go obv the the foster kid I knew lost he was pretty weird lol but he got down and thats what matters lol he thanked me too and was like thanks bro I thought I was gonna get jumped, I'm lucky u came.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I wasn’t bullied.

I have no idea how would anyone dare bullying me. Cause I always stood yo for myself, but first of all, I stood up for others so they knew I wasn’t someone to mess with.

I had bullies who respected me and wanted to be my friends.

I had a girl classmate, who had cut a person with a knife and was the biggest bitch at school, she was swearing one day and when she saw me she said “sorry”.

I have no idea how and why the bullies respected me, I suspect that’s because I was just a badass. I can’t really imagine me being bullied. That means you are asking for a trouble and you’ll get it.

Also, people’s words never really worried me as I was pretty self confident and children my age just couldn’t be able to do something that would hurt me.

I was a girl, who fought everyday at home, I had used knife on my own uncle when he annoyed me once when I was 8-9 years old. Of course, I don’t approve it and feel guilty. But all I am saying is that I already had a tough family life, some 15-16 year old kid couldn’t hurt my tough skin and a heart. I was a tough person, was sweet and helpful but everyone knew they couldn’t cross my boundaries. Instead, when I told bullies to stop, they stopped. I felt like I was a girl mafia haha, I could just solve everything with my sweet word, I could control the craziest bully.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

The first thing I am going to teach my children before they go to school,

Is 1. Be confident, you are the best and doesn’t matter what others think. You are the coolest.

2. You are all by yourself, I won’t come and save you. I will teach you how to save yourself, but you are going to learn how to stand up for yourself. I will not do it for you, not because I don’t love you, but because I want you to know how to be the strongest even when alone. You’ll always have my back though.

3. Dob’t listen to others. Don’t let their thoughts influence you. Be you. Don’t you dare be a follower.

4. If they try to bully you, laugh at it, cause it’s funny, who the hell they think they are to think they are capable of getting you?

5. Doesn’t matter how crazy someone is, always make them feel, you are more reckless and crazy.

6. If they keep crossing your boundaries, you have told them off and they haven’t, if they hurt you, touched you or etc, hit that bitch babe, I’ll cover you on that.

[CrimsonAngel09]

Because of them I developed body dysmorphia, anxiety, and depression. Was mainly bullied by boys, they made it known what they thought about me because I wasn't pretty. It also made me distrust males.

1) As I was heading back into the cafeteria to put up my tray, a boy knocked it from my hands as he was coming out. Didn't say sorry, didn't help me. Thankfully I ate all my food, so all I had to pick up was my tray and empty milk carton.

2) A boy held the door open as he smiled for two popular girls. He sees me coming, gives me a disgusting look, and follows after them.

3) A boy unknowingly sat beside me on the bus on the edge of the seat to talk to two girls. As soon as he turns around he makes a disgusted noise and gets up fast, then proceeded to tell the girls I had cockroaches in my bag.

4) I heard "is that a boy or a girl" too many times from guys.

5) We had to sit in order at a table at lunch. A boy sees me, he skips a seat.

6) At gym when we went to walk around the track, I overheard two people mention me from a couple feet behind me.

"What about Angelique, would you date her?"

"Hell no, she's ugly!"

Walked around the track crying with my head bowed.

7) Accidentally tripped, I was laughed at by two boys.

[Daniela1982]

I was bullied for being a chunk back then. One particular girl loved razzing me. I was in the bathroom one time when she happened to walk in. She started up right away with, "I didn't know this was a pig pen." while laughing. Two girls entered - one left the other with a black eye and bloody nose. She always avoided me after that. I got Saturday detention for 4 hours as a result. It was worth it!

Take that bitch!

[petitedollbabee]

I was bullied for countless stupid things.. but the mains things were bullied for having scars, bullied for my haircut, bullied for wearing shorts underneath my uniforms skirt, bullied for having health issues, bullied for being introverted and bullied for my sexuality. In my final year of school I ended up becoming friends with one of my bullies and she apologised for being awful to me, and explained that she only bullied people because she was being emotionally and physically abused by her father.

[AaronKrieger]

I have been in all the situations you have mentioned. I used to sometimes bully kids in elementary school, but it also sometimes happened to me. Although I stopped bullying altogether right before middle school. After I moved across the country I never really got bullied and it was perfect timing too, since I hit my growth spurt at the same time. So fortunately during middle/high school I never got bullied

For your other questions, I have intervened in moments people were bullied, but also some where I did not. It really just depended on who was getting bullied, how serious it was, and my mood.

[DJB72]

I was bullied. Mostly mental stuff but there was one guy a year older than me who tried to make it physical.

That went on about a year before I snapped back. He tried to scare me by trying to take my Remembrance Day poppy off my lapel. I had family died in WW1 and fought in WW2 so I'm pretty passionate about not disrespecting their memory...

I only hit him once. In the throat. Then I picked up my poppy and the pin and put it back on my lapel while he sat there coughing. A teacher came up to me and said he'd seen everything. Then he asked why it had taken me so long, patted my shoulder and walked away.

[mstbooblover]

Yes I was bullied very often, probably because I didn't give a damn about the "pack spirit" and didn't want to participate in all kinds of stupidities teens do together. I hated the music they listened to, their messy stupid behaviours during so-called festivities, what kept them hysterically passionated, etc... At the time I didn't understand at all why those idiots bullied me, and sure I sometimes had potentially dangerous reactions, because I never started myself a fight, and never ever bullied anyone. There is a lot to say about the subject, but this is not the place to write a book ;0)

[exitseven]

I was bullied in Jr high school. Especially by this kid that was 17 in the 9th grade. He got left back a few times and was 3 years older than everyone else. I don't know why he picked on me but I pestered my parents to let me join a gym in the next town. I did not want anyone I knew to see me. I started to get in shape. I met some older guys there that really helped a fat kid train the right way. By the time I was in my junior year the football coach asked me to come out for the team The kid that bullied me never made it to 19th grade. I imagine he dropped out of school. I have tried to look him up on the internet but he is nowhere to be found. He might be in prison or long dead. I can't imagine his life turned out all that greqt.

[exitseven]

10rh*

[Daniela1982]

That is sad but we probably all know such a person.

[Phoenix98]

I was bullied pretty bad I'd almost say it was abusive in some ways when I was a little kid there were days I was afraid to go to school.

After that there was one incident years later were I was jumped by a 3 kids and a highschool senior when I was around 12 I think? Though I fought all 4 of them and largely was unscathed thanks to my martial arts training.

While the bullying I underwent when I was a kid did fundamentally break me as a person I was never the same after it. I am thankful for it as it pushed me to get stronger physically and discover my love for working out and it pushed me to train and learn martial arts and become a powerful fighter so that I would never be a victim again.

And since learning it I have never been afraid of a single person I've come across and have never been bullied since. Though I have been involved in many fights.

[Ironic_Method]

I was picked on a lot in elementary school for being... more poor than the rest of the kids (everyone was poor at my school) and getting good grades. Absolutely social poison, which of course didn't help my social charisma building. Super nice (definitely too nice) to everyone and taken advantage of.

Then sometime in late middle school I snapped and hit a kid that was picking on me. Got a lucky hit in and he fell, cried, and never bothered me again. Apparently all this time violence WAS the answer.

It felt amazing. Was never bullied again after picking a few fights.

[Unit1]

I was bullied for the most time in school.

A Few times i fought back violently.

I don't know what happened with them and i don't care. I hope these morons are dead. One of them was shot to death in his sleep at 6 AM in the morning by his sisters abusive and alcoholic boyfriend i heard. Good riddance. I am relieved.

[andreasderjuengere]

Back then... 🤔: three or four had tried it on me. Early only.

One got bashed albeit being half a foot taller. The others were ridiculed beyond salvation.

After that I was kind of considered un-bullyable :)

Apparently - I'm from a different century and had parents who taught me that if 'you' have a problem, then you settle it right there and right then.

[AdithyaR]

Got bullied a bit in 7th grade when I moved to a new school. Mainly the kid was frustrated cause I was seated with him and didn't like the fact that teachers took an immediate liking to me cause I actually participated in class and was good at academics.
Not sure why that bugged him cause he was great at sports while I sat through sports periods reading a book. But yeah he'd constantly tease me, try to hide my book etc.
Eventually died down after he got bored.

[Kinkyhubby]

People tried to bully me, but I didn't take that shit. Between how my father raised me, and 2 older brothers, I wasn't taking it from someone kid in school. I would throw down, then I would try and bully other bullies, to teach them a lesson. I would also stick up for friends.

[mikee555]

There was a couple of guys that used to bully one kid in elementary school like really bad. Weird thing is i heard one of the guys that used to bully this kid took his own life. I guess what goes around comes around huh? true story.

[Anonymous]

I was bullied. A lot. For being intelligent, doing well with my studies.. For being nerdy.. And here is the sad thing. I didn't receive bullying from the white kids in school, it was the minorities. Specifically the latolinos.. I don't know what to think about that either.

[Adaeva]

Like most pretty and popular girls, I am almost never bullied. Occasionally I see someone being bullied, but there is not much I can do to prevent it.

[Jaximus-Lion]

I was bullied, but things changed and i started getting involved when i see someone else getting bullied. That's why i became bully's bully and i do it good.

[Anonymous]

I was bullied all through elementary school. The boys would chase me knock me down then kick and the girls would pretend to be my friend then ditch me and say rude things about me. Nearly everyone in my grade was like that to me. Plus they bullied me for wearing glasses and something that happened in the first grade. Whenever a new kid came in they would turn them against me. It was horrible...

I've learn to forgive and move on but I'll never forget about what happened in the past.

[PositiveFlight]

I’m so sorry to hear this sweetie 😞 It makes me sad to hear this because I have so much respect for you. I’m glad it’s in the past

[FilmGuy93]

I was bullied so bad that my parents actually pulled me out of school for a while. It didn't get much better when I returned a year later, but at least it was tolerable.

[Anonymous]

I was a short, quiet kid, so people would try to bully me. But I also started training in boxing from very young. I’d just ignore their comments and hit them if they tried to hurt me physically.

[Potteplante]

I've experienced all above.

Been bullied, been a bully - ignored bullying and intervened.