There is an elderly individual in my complex who I've always been nice to but lately he has become a pest and please don't give me the sob story because being respectful of others goes a long way. His actions are rude so I've gotten to where I don't acknowledge him when he does these things. I dont know if he was never taught manners growing up or what but his behavior screams low class. List of things he does below:
1. On a call w/my supervisor going over client records. Him walks up with his dog and stands there saying lizzy wants to say hi. I just ignored him and walked the other way. He sees me later and says, " I walked up with lizzy but you walked the other way". I informed him ," I'm respectful of individuals I'm on the phone with and out of concerns for their privacy it would be very rude to discuss their business in front of you and for me to interrupt them." He looked shocked and said ok.
2. On the phone w/ my aunt and uncle long distance taking notes on financial family matters. Him walks up with his dog and stands there saying lizzy wants to say hi. I tell him, " I'm on the phone ".
3. Coming home after working and grocery shopping. I have hands full. He said ,"lizzy wants a pet and to say hi". I told him my hands are full then walked away.
4. I'm in my car on the phone he stands in front with his dog. I just act like I couldn't see him until he went away lol.
So what would you do if you're on a call w/friends, family or work yet an elderly coherent neighbor continuously interrupts?
You did say he was coherent (as in NOT losing his mind) right? Like he's an old guy, but a perfectly fine mentally and cognitively?
Basically his behavior is extremely inappropriate. And it's inappropriate in a way that crosses normally accepted social boundaries... and knowingly crossing your boundaries.
Your behavior makes clear that, if he's 'kidding or joking around' that you really aren't thinking it's funny. He wouldn't have continued like he did.
He is harassing you... and he is aware of it (unless he's losing his mind... in which case, that's entirely different).
If he's not aware that his behavior is inappropriate and unwanted, what else is going on with this guy.
I don't quite know what to make of this. But it's fucking weird, and my instinct says "this guy sounds dangerous". Is that possible? Help me understand the nature of this guy and these interactions. Because... he's kinda freakin me out. (for you). But I might have a wrong spin on this situation?
He lacks understanding of social cues. Me and a lady neighbor were having a conversation and he walks up with his dog saying lizzy wants to say hi. We pet her so he can move the hell on. But no he stands there letting his dog roll over, jump up and down for attention as we are trying to finish our conversation. We just walked away. He's a pest
Ok then, this makes sense. "He lacks understanding of social cues." That is what was so inappropriate. This sounds like a fairly extreme example of that. Since he's not dangerous, and won't pick up on social cues... you might have to just put up with his intrusions unfortunately. š
#1 you handled that well! I would've been like gtfo iām afraid of dogs 😂 I wouldve lost his respect and the client. Im sorry but reading this, he hella annoying and repetitive. Does he have mental issues or is he on dat shit
š¤£š¤£š¤£ he's an annoying dumbass. I don't know what is problem is maybe he doesn't get social cues, naturally rude or entitled I don't know. But he needs to go
His behavior strongly suggests mental sunsetting. Like dementia. He needs to be in a home. Believe as you wish, but I have a 10+ background in this kind of area.. It may not be intentional. Or it may be that parts of his mind aren't functioning right.
Trust me this man does not have dementia he just doesn't care to understand social cues and is inconsiderate. You have to be around him to know. I know what sundowners and dementia is I deal with patients with it on a regular.
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So this is... concerning.
You did say he was coherent (as in NOT losing his mind) right? Like he's an old guy, but a perfectly fine mentally and cognitively?
Basically his behavior is extremely inappropriate. And it's inappropriate in a way that crosses normally accepted social boundaries... and knowingly crossing your boundaries.
Your behavior makes clear that, if he's 'kidding or joking around' that you really aren't thinking it's funny. He wouldn't have continued like he did.
He is harassing you... and he is aware of it (unless he's losing his mind... in which case, that's entirely different).
If he's not aware that his behavior is inappropriate and unwanted, what else is going on with this guy.
I don't quite know what to make of this. But it's fucking weird, and my instinct says "this guy sounds dangerous". Is that possible? Help me understand the nature of this guy and these interactions. Because... he's kinda freakin me out. (for you). But I might have a wrong spin on this situation?
He lacks understanding of social cues. Me and a lady neighbor were having a conversation and he walks up with his dog saying lizzy wants to say hi. We pet her so he can move the hell on. But no he stands there letting his dog roll over, jump up and down for attention as we are trying to finish our conversation. We just walked away. He's a pest
Ok then, this makes sense. "He lacks understanding of social cues." That is what was so inappropriate. This sounds like a fairly extreme example of that. Since he's not dangerous, and won't pick up on social cues... you might have to just put up with his intrusions unfortunately. š
I feel he's inappropriate to the point of extreme as well. so now I act like I don't see him
#1 you handled that well! I would've been like gtfo iām afraid of dogs 😂 I wouldve lost his respect and the client. Im sorry but reading this, he hella annoying and repetitive. Does he have mental issues or is he on dat shit
š¤£š¤£š¤£ he's an annoying dumbass. I don't know what is problem is maybe he doesn't get social cues, naturally rude or entitled I don't know. But he needs to go
This is very weird. How old is he? I might see if he has family you can contact and let them know. He is displaying signs of dementia.
He could be like 70 or 80. I think he's just rude
His behavior strongly suggests mental sunsetting. Like dementia. He needs to be in a home. Believe as you wish, but I have a 10+ background in this kind of area.. It may not be intentional. Or it may be that parts of his mind aren't functioning right.
Trust me this man does not have dementia he just doesn't care to understand social cues and is inconsiderate. You have to be around him to know. I know what sundowners and dementia is I deal with patients with it on a regular.
Well that just sucks then, I'm not sure how to deal with it
I just don't acknowledge him when he does this now. Or I'll say something that shows he's annoying me
Like, " omg I'm so tired I've got all these things." I did that a couple days ago and he took a hint
It's good he took the hint
For now šš