Who appreciates honesty over sugar coating or lying?

[Agape93]

[Nomina]

I do. I don't like sugarcoating. In the past when having spoken about this, one response was "even if you don't like sugarcoating, doesn't mean you then get to be an ass".

I disagree. I want the unadulterated truth. No matter how assy it is. Why? Because when the beautiful words come out, I also know that's the truth. Two of my sisters are like that. Which is why I go to them when I need genuine advice or opinions. If they say they like something, I know it's 100% the truth. They don't like wasting their time sugarcoating anything. So if sweetness is there it's genuine sweetness, not an act, not a put-on or anything like that.

Another reason why? The truth helps me make better informed decisions. I know what I'm dealing with and find it easier to navigate a situation as I know the real different pieces involved. If someone lies or twists the nature of something, I'm making a decision based on that lie and then no wonder it doesn't work out... because it doesn't actually jive with reality.

"The truth is not always beautiful, nor beautiful words the truth." Or something like that. I may have quoted it wrong.

However, I have also learned to sprinkle my non-sugarcoating ways in small doses, with some people. Just a sprinkle, let them digest it, sprinkle some more later on. Bit by tiny bit.

[TenderFantasy]

Me! Some people think, that because I look timid (I'm only 5''2 lol) and look 16, they think I cannot handle the truth.

I think the truth can benefit people more than lying or sugar coating, but I guess it really depends. Sometimes, especially if I feel down in the dumps, I'd prefer the sugar-coating part, at least for the time being. However, in the long-run, I'd much rather hear the truth. People reject others based on stupid reasons they cannot control (like skin color, hair color, height, age, etc.) anyway, but then unfortunately/fortunately, it is that individual's right to do so. Also, I feel (and learned), that the way someone acts (regardless of what it is), usually has more to do with them, than you (how they treat you).

[RangerBlue22]

There is a thing called tact that you can use while be honest. For example lots of people can benefit from constructive criticism. But given someone’s headspace there can be a right or wrong time to say something. In the right moment it’s tough love that help someone improve. In the wrong moment a person will get defensive and will only get worse.

That’s why it’s best to ask “are you open to one constructive criticism”? You can also ask “do want to know the truth?” But that can come off as condescending if not used properly.

If you are a true friend you should derive no pleasure from telling someone the hard truth about something. If you do enjoy criticizing (whether right or wrong) them then you yourself have an ego problem.

[DaveJord]

I think most people would agree that honesty is better... but I have found in my experience that most people who say that really believe it... until they find someone who actually does it to them and the truth hurts.

It's also important to remember that telling the truth and being honest, is not an excuse to be an asshole or jerk about it.

There is just good way and bad way to do it, you can nicely tell the truth, without all the sugar coating, but still being polite about it. But the straight sugar-coating types are the worst!!!

[melanieeeB]

I guess a lot of people? I definitely do

[FlyingDutchman670]

It's possible to be honest without belittling someone

I can’t stand it when someone says they are “blunt and brutally honest” To me it just sounds like someone wants to be able to be a jerk or bully and not be judged or criticized for what they’re about to say (they throw this term to shut down any disagreement) and doesn’t understand the nuance of basic human interaction

[Subarugirl]

Yes! Exactly

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

It depends.

Sometimes I really need proverbial slap on the face, and overall I prefer to know and be told bad things right away. Heck, I too am not afraid to dispense some verbal (not physical) though love on occasion.

That said, honesty doesn't mean a free pass to be an assh*le, which some people seem to take it as - you can be direct and honest with tact, and you can avoid sugarcoating without sounding flippant or smug.

[Sour-rose]

Heh... sugar coating... Well i sure as hell don't like someone cutting my throat but if you don't say something to me, I'm going to assume everything is okay. Soo I'd rather you tell me the truth than lie to me. Depending how big the truth is, I'll handle it my own way.

[DizzyDesii]

I like something like sugarcoating 😂 I never understood telling more than what needs to be told. I can tell the truth without overdoing it, being rude, blunt etc. Some people claim to be honest but have horrible delivery. I will tell them the truth as nice as i can

[Screenwriter]

Some of this has to do with the situation. Is it better to be brutally honest with a co-worker or acquaintance? Especially in a workplace situation where you have to interact with someone every day. If it's a FOCUS group, sure. But if it's over something minor, shoes, a hairstyle, food... it's often best to avoid confrontation if the matter is minor.

If the incident concerns a good friend or spouse or child, honesty is usually called for. But kindness is also.

[boggboss]

I guess it depends on how it's delivered best example is a Dr telling a person they have cancer thats too far gone now if a Dr said sucks to be you you're gonna die in 3 months he wouldn't be lying but he would still get in trouble for how he told the truth too many people hide behind the slogan I'm just telling the truth but doing so to be a prick

[Haha456]

Most people like the idea of honesty. Who likes to be lied to?

But what you will find being an honest person is that people will give you a hard time for you standing up for the truth. Ultimately people believe what makes them feel good, not what is true.

This is coming from a very honest person herself

[Lionman95]

Yes I prefer that because at the end of the day honesty always wins. Sooner or later the truth comes out and especially with bad news it´s unlikely they can be always be hold under the cover. I therefore prefer the hard truth over something that sounds good but isn´t the person´s opinion.

[Dinklex3]

As long as your honest and not being rude.

I've seen so many people say rude shit and claim they're "just being honest".

So as long as I ask you something, of course I'd like you to be honest.

[kylee2437]

I do! However this doesn’t excuse people to be rude and inconsiderate. There’s people that describe themselves as brutally honest and I noticed those are the people that are only honest with things that are pointless / hold no value

[Aerissa_Jade]

I do in a respectful way, my problem is trying not to add my personal opinion to things when I'm disgusted by someone.

But being blunt is best, but someone doesn't have to be mean and rude about it, unless you hate them, then go for it.

[Chazmatazz269]

I demand and appreciate complete honesty. I have absolutely no use for anything more or anything less.
It’s also all that i offer, short of warnings that you won’t necessarily like what you hear when you ask for my honest opinion.

[420Rachel]

I’ll be more mad if you lie and I find out than if you just tell the truth! We’re all human and we all make mistakes or feel ashamed or embarrassed about things. There’s no reason to lie!

[Blackcupcake]

I like honesty… but not hurtful, I believe someone can be honest without being mean or hurtful

[coachTanthony]

Yes it's the only way so they understand. Sugar coating almost feels like lying or you are uncertain.

[Agape93]

Exactly

[Sixgunsound]

I'd rather know where I stand than be lied to to avoid conflict. Much of social exchange these days seems predicated on avoiding offense or conflict. Weakness like that is a waste oof my time.

[RavVid]

Yes your ass does look too big in that dress. I and most guys will instead gently suggest another dress rather than say that. The first statement is really not appreciated at all.

[pewter_moon]

Like wondering how a person becomes a mod and stays a mod with a mouth on them like some people have? Yeah. I appreciate the honesty.

[mandyfire98]

I'll always want honesty any day of the week. Even if at times it is brutal honesty.

[ArtemisSilver]

You can be honest without being tactless. A lot of people like to use honesty as a thin veil for the fact that they just enjoying being blunt assholes.

[Beatrix7]

honesty is my kind of relashionship lies is bad hurts breaks trust

[MrOracle]

If I don't know the truth, how can I possibly manage the situation? Give me the cold, hard truth.

[Labokachulaa]

I do. I definitely appreciate honesty over everything because honesty is always the best policy.

[BlueScorpio]

Most people since most people don't like being lied to.

[LovingLoverReturned]

I appreciate honesty that is Seasoned with salt...

[LovingLoverReturned]

Privately too. No need to make a public scene. I sure as hell won't thank anyone who makes a joke on it

[Googlemyahoo]

Nobody does. If you took two people and one was honest they’d go with the liar. Try it out.

[Jaximus-Lion]

Honesty all day, if i am about to die! Just tell me. If you get my point.

[Subarugirl]

Most people I would assume. The thing is though that you can’t be tactfully honest with out being an asshole

[sheikalana]

Definitely appreciate honesty over lying even if that means accepting the hardest truth.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, I highly agree with you.

[WeirdoFriendly]

Absolutely prefer honesty over a lie. I'ma be straight with anyone I talk to. I would prefer for them to be straight with me as well

[douride2]

I would sooner hear someone's honest opinion then be lied to.

[Justneedtokno]

I do depending on what the situation is never lies tho

[TheeTrybrid]

I mean its not what u say its how u say it in most cases. But some people can't take honesty the way they think they can

[McKellar]

That's debatable. On one hand, I have heard honesty is the best policy, but on the other hand, I know honesty can also hurt people.

[Pterodon]

I demand honesty. I’m brutally honest. It’s a double edged sword. The good and bad news is you’ll never be lied to

[Wiredone]

Honesty is the best , regardless of how much it could hurt. Just be point blank

[Jackblue]

Honestly no, if we didn't sugarcoat things we would all kill each other.

[collie22]

The honest truth is best and let the chips fall where they may

[Brando10222]

I do. No matter what it is I like when people are honest

[Charliefretz329]

I appreciate honesty 100%. It is the most important personality trait in my opinion

[TrillXHippy]

I really appreciate honesty like be straight up with me and I’ll be straight up with you

[dolemite89]

i do, i’d rather hear the actual brutal truth even if it stings.

[whereismyjohnny]

I always prefer honesty. I hate lies.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

I appreciates honesty over sugar coating or lying.

[AsaKyo]

I think most people do

[dean53AU]

Honesty no matter how harsh

[driven159]

we could always choose honesty over anything else

[Zolly99999]

Honesty is the most important!!

[LavLavLuv]

moi..

[Rania05]

Who doesn't?

[NathanDavis]

Truth.

[CoolCatMar1]

I prefer it

[Hannajenky]

I do

[tfan1]

I do.

[Walrus_au]

me!!!

[BarryLiverstone]

This guy

[ZenJen444]

I do

[Alex8736]

honesty 100%