Have you found that birth order matters in life?

[TenderFantasy]

There have been countless psychological studies, books and articles on the subject matter. .. Do you believe in them? ! That it can somehow affect your view or views in life? ! It most likely will affect what kind of experiences you have, especially within your family, but what about outside of that? Do you feel that people can SENSE your birth order and treat you accordingly? !

What real life examples can you provide where it WAS indeed true!

Or am I just paranoid lol..

Me, for example, I was the last born and I don't know if I truly believe in it. My older brother (Technically he wasn't the first born because my mom had a misscarriage with her first pregnancy), but her second one (the one with my older brother), did take. I'd also be the Middle child, if it wasn't for her last misscarriage with my younger brother. What are your thoughts on the subject if you care to share! =)

Edit: I just read the description for Middle Child, maybe I do believe in it haha!

[Amy10223]

I don't think the miscarriage has any bearing on birth order, I think it's who was born first, second, and so on into the world.

I am a middle child (exactly the 3rd born) and I was the one who, after my brother was born, was totally ignored. Anything I said or did was looked as by being wrong as well. I was teased constantly, made fun of for the paleface I was (both older brother and sister were a few shades darker) and made to be frightened or scared. Before that, I was looked at as "the baby" for a good six years but of course I was not aware of it, nor did it ever enter my mind that I was the baby.

These days, I have a sister who will forever try and compete and compare herself with me for whatever reasons she holds, and the rest will normally not think much of my opinions. That's ok though--I have survived and do like myself after their treatment. My two youngest are my favorite siblings because they did nothing like the older two.

[Amy10223]

And looking at the chart formidable born--that describes me well.

[TenderFantasy]

Wow thanks for your input. I'm glad things are better now, that must've been stressful to endure for you.

[Amy10223]

Thank you-- it was stressful for me as a child--but they haven't the sightest clue. it is better now but the older sister continues to be the way she is, competitive and always comparing herself to me in many ways. That in itself is stressful and I avoid her because of that.

[Apple1996]

Yeah I'm the youngest of 7 and it seems like i am all those things listed

[NathanDavis]

well... when I look at the chart you just posted then yes, the Middle Child traits do feel like a well fit glove on me, lmao

but then I look at the lists on the other, and then I see a few other traits that I also identify with and I just think that's just how this works... they are more of broader generalizations rather that specific and distinctive traits

if we were to check one by one though... yes, I would be more of a Middle Child as I am a middle child

however I very rarely or never ever stop to think about these things when making life decisions nor I stop to give credit to this over anything that has happened in my life so far, lol... always been aware of the "middle child syndrome" but I do not live by it, to me... it just a funny meme

very accurate as well...

[snackthatsmilesback]

I think it's bullshit. My siblings have always never matched this. The middle acts like "oldest" and youngest acts like "middle" and I act like "youngest" according to most little descriptions like that. But I don't think that makes me not the oldest. It definitely doesn't make her the oldest lol. She's definitely the most achieving tho. Youngest is definitely the peacemaker. And I'm the social one. And then there's only child, ofc, and he's more of a first than an only too. But he was an only until 17 so I don't think that's right. And even by that, I'm still not like a middle. Middle still isn't like a middle. And the youngest still isn't like a youngest. So it's all useless. Case by case. It's like zodiac signs.

[TenderFantasy]

Hmm, interesting. I mean I don't think, like I said, they'd do countless psychological studies on it if there wasn't any bearing to them, but okay, if that is what you think. And yeah, birth order isn't really something anyone could control, and a person wouldn't want to be associated with any of the NEGATIVE traits of their particular order, especially for the rest of your life! Hmm...

[TenderFantasy]

Ugh I always forget to pick MHO and for that I wouldn't have picked this lol. You got lucky!

[snackthatsmilesback]

Lol I'll take it. I get mho automatically a lot it's kinda weird. Rarely get it intentionally.

[TenderFantasy]

Well, no offense, but to me, I believe in it, if somewhat. I just don't want the ghost of my past to get to me if you know what I mean! There's not a lot I could have done being the third born (or second, if counting just the live births), but there's PLENTY I can do in my adult life to change how people treat me or how I ALLOW them to treat me! I don't know, I hope you understand. I am just sick of this world sometimes, but in particular, SICK of being put into a BOX that I didn't/don't want to be in! Whether that is because of my race, my age, my health status, disability, etc. etc. I am SO SICK of the way society is! No offense!

Sorry, problems at work too is getting to me..

[snackthatsmilesback]

Fuck yeah I agree on that. Boxes are for dead people. That's the bigger problem, people think they know u cuz they know ur demographic, ur genetics, ur physchology, etc. And sometimes it's even kinda close, and I hate that. Trying to figure yourself out and here comes some mf who already knows and is so cool about it. That's stupid. U change n shit. Yeah. None taken I hope ur work gets less bad.

Ig maybe my real problem w the birth order theory is, I'm actually the only one wrong of my siblings. If I wasn't included, things... kinda line up. And i don't like that. I was the first one. I was supposed to be the responsible, perfectionist, achiever blah blah. Leader of the whole fucking gang. But instead, the next one had to do that. And thrn the next one had to take up where she left to do my shit. And then I finally pop in at the end like I wasn't even there the whole time. Like I didn't fucking exist for the first 15 years of my life. Nobody ever took me seriously as the oldest anyway. I don't like that they may have had a legit reason for it.

[D_Bone_Steak]

It's real and I think it's the environment of it all. I was a single child with my Great Grandparents until 13 and then moved in with my Mom and 2 younger siblings.

The change was way different. The adults would literally try to set up competitions between us and I thought it was really fucking pathetic. Who does what better actually became a thing. ... and it would be brought up constantly.

Maybe different parents would act a little differently, but it became a damn pecking order and I started to get seen as a party pooper because I just found it stupid... pointless... like, what is the point?

It sucked between the siblings and I as well because I was seen as competition... I'd literally have someone following me around looking for things to tell on me about just to try and gain favor with the Mom... which worked against them, because Mom obviously got sick of that shit.

[Anonymous]

Usually, yes. There are millions of families in the world so of course, there will be exceptions. But I have observed that almost always the older child is the more responsible, serious, academically intelligent one. The younger sibling is more social, outgoing, less academically intelligent but socially bright.

Me and my younger sister are definitely like this.

Two other examples that spring to mind is the UK royal family- Charles and his brothers, then William and Harry.

And the Botez sisters (Twitch streamers that I watch regularly) Alexandra and Andrea are definitely like this.

[QuietVerbena]

It has some validity, but not 100%. I have the characteristics of a middle child but only one sibling. And I don’t think that people can sense your birth order.

[katiesmuff]

I'm almost 40 and am still referred too as the baby with my family of two brothers 55, 53 and a sister who where we just celebrated her 5oth. I think I fit pretty much in line with your survey.

[Anonymous]

No, actually I feel this didn't happen in my family and in my family we have 6 siblings. I am the last born and I am actually like the last born but my middle siblings are not actually like you mentioned.
I have high ambitions but slowly I feel I have to give way to mediocrity as I feel I am being given the reins of the family succession because I care too much to lose them. While my older siblings and brother doesn't give as much care

[MCheetah]

I'm either a last born or only child, if you count half-siblings, but none of this describes me at all. I'm a mix of four of these trait sets.

[DoctorSex]

Yes. Indeed my whole spiritual frame work is built around birth order.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[Andres77]

Yes, I read about this years ago and have been paying attention. Every family is different but this particular environmental effect is pretty consistent.

[Labokachulaa]

I have most of all of those, but I will say those are extremely accurate. Lol

[Lucy68]

I'm an only child and I approve of this message

[exitseven]

I just have a twin brother so I am just all confused.

[TenderFantasy]

Well, twins can still be older or younger if just be a few minutes hehe. ; - ) Weirdly enough, some people could be THAT meticulous lol.

[LiamJHayden]

I'm an only child, but I've seen it among my friends.

[Fuentes]

It can depend, but I'm first born and the smartest in my family

[BLP11520]

No I didn’t my dad was a real prick we all suffered

[Vikkrram]

Yes i think also , i am a middile born child.

[captain_voidwalker]

Psychology is full of shit.

[Guardian45]

No, but I'm both first and last born!

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes. Very much so.

[In_Trance]

not at all