Do people remember unpopular schoolmates?

[LovingLoverReturned]

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Ike as Time passes after leaving school. I don't mean someone who was like the nerd.. even if unpopular per se- they are still a character that is memorable... well I guess if you are super quiet too you might be known for that... hoe about someone who was very normal- interacted minimally when it was called for but was never included or brought up in convo...

I especially would like to hear from popular students.

[Lliam]

I remember unpopular classmates from grammar school because I was in the same class as them from 1st through 8th grade.

I was never unpopular but neither did I feel a need to be admired. I fit in well with the the cool kids. Nobody picked on me.

There is one girl I remember. She was chubby, had a plain face, wore glasses and was shy and quiet. She was not one of the popular girls.

Our desks were next to each other one year in fourth or fifth grade and I was nice to her, or at least treated her like anyone else. We would talk. She discovered that I collected promotional stickers from popular businesses and products. Her dad worked for the airline business and she must have told him about me. She started bringing me various airline stickers - Pan Am, TWA, United, etc.

One day, a guy who was popular and a total brat put a glob of spit on his finger and flicked it on her. Some others who saw it laughed. I also gave a laugh, not a loud or mirthful laugh. I don't know why. Maybe it was for the same reason people laugh at pratfalls. Maybe it was because other people laughed.

She started crying quietly.

After that, I didn't think more about it. He had a habit of doing shit like that to people, but I didn't realize how vulnerable she was.

In the days following, I continued to treat her normally. Then, one day I asked if her dad had any more stickers and she said he told her not to give me any more. I realized that I had hurt her feelings.

It wasn't until I was out of grammar school that I matured enough to realize that she must have cried her eyes out when she got home. She had thought I was her friend and I had betrayed her.

I still remember her and feel terrible about that incident. It's one thing that I really, really regret. I had hurt her deeply.

I still wish that I could go back and do it over. I should have defended that sweet girl or at least empathized. But instead, I was afraid of not being cool. I was young and clueless.

I hope she had a happy life once she grew past her awkward childhood.

[lightbulb27]

I would't say I was popular but I was well known.

Yes, certain kids I remember. I have a soft spot, empathy I guess, I just didn't have confidence then, not for a long time. I remember a chubby fella... biggest in the elementary school, AA, named James. He was a normal kid, delayed mentally, but nice and respectful. I felt bad for him because he so often ate alone and seemed he felt outcast. I regret not engaging him more.

I remember others...

[DizzyDesii]

If you started from the bottom or were not the narcissistic type popular person, then you always remember everyone. And even if you don’t they gave out yearbook copies for a reason lol

[LovingLoverReturned]

Haha yeah I cherish the yearbook 😂

[DizzyDesii]

I was the teachers pet and class overachiever, so I was well recognized by the teachers for my effort AND by the underachieving students who wanted someone to cheat off of. I was well known by the male athletes just because I had big tits, a nice smile, and a good dirty sense of humor. I worked in the office at times and had to walk around the school to collect attendance, and sometimes I’d just go hangout in the gym/field house and boost their ego. I was never popular with the females. They often were mad i could get along better with their boyfriend then they could. But i remembered everyone whether we were on good terms or whether they were bullies. Shit i was a topic in Alt Ed where the bad kids got banished because i had a few exes in there who liked to share their experiences 😂 As for students who got picked on for having social/learning disabilities, there was this one boy who stuttered a lot and paced the classroom back and forth. I was as nice as i could be to him. But the mf was a rude know it all and made it hard to be friendly. I just kept my distance because he gave vibes of a future school shooter and i just made sure i was cordial enough not to end up on his hitlist. There were lots of classmates like that. But i acknowledged everyone who acknowledged me

[LovingLoverReturned]

Waw lol- even before school shootings became popular you had a good gut. Yeah I've seen some rude disabled people. Still we will just look mean treating them the way they treat us. I think Europe and America (oh and Australia - Oceania maybe) is weird for their mass shootings fo strangers.

[ShiftingMonke]

Even back then you had to be noticed lol

[DizzyDesii]

@ShiftingMonke i dont like to be the center of attention but i also refuse to go unnoticed 🤣

[ShiftingMonke]

I'll keep that in mind and add it to your file; I'll keep you on the pedestal, no worries, I'm just going to adjust the spotlights.

[DizzyDesii]

@ShiftingMonke i dont need to be on a pedestal. I dont need to be front and center. I just need to be on the stage lol.

[ShiftingMonke]

Mmhm, mmhmm. Whatever you say I didn't mean to derail the thread, I'll take my leave. 😂

[WindAtMyBack]

I still remember a lot of people from high school, and still look at my yearbook fairly regularly. Even at the time I'd hang out with almost anyone. I knew all the popular people, but also hung out with a lot of unpopular people. I hung out with the super smarties and the slow learners. I hung out with the jocks and the guys who couldn't do one push up. It never really mattered. My memory tends to be pretty random. People pop into my memory out of nowhere.

[ShiftingMonke]

I do occasionally wonder what happened to some classmates, but not enough to look them up on social media. Most I hope they're doing well. I have been shocked by who had a 'glow up' after 15 years, and also how many bullets I've dodged as well.

[loveslongnails]

I killed all the ones I didn't like, so no, I don't remember them anymore. :)

[eagle1951]

yeah