What would you say to your young self?

Question

If you, like me, were in your 20s and had the freedom to do most things what would you do? How would you enjoy your life? (Yup looking for inspiration lol)

Account · Accepted Answer

"Hang in there, you will eventually achieve the things you want to achieve, keep working hard and things will get better in some areas.
In other areas, things won't get better, but always remember that not everything is under your control and please don't strive so hard to fix things that are outside the realm of the possible. You will lose yourself a part of yourself if you do so.
Don't carry the world on your shoulders, it is not your responsibility, even though you erroneously think it is.
Don't attempt to fix broken people when you haven't even fixed yourself.
Remember that you have people around you who enjoy your presence.
Spend time with yourself, try to recognize and acknowledge every feeling you feel instead of pushing it away.
If you push your feelings away, you will reach at a point when you won't be able to comprehend your inner world anymore.
Remember that this life is very short to be that concerned over trivial matters."

menina · Accepted Answer

I would tell myself to work hard to reach my goals. To think for myself and do the best for me, to not try to please others. To have more fun and to think wisely, so I can make better decisions.

Enjoy your 20's because they go by so fast... 😭😭😭

Heolurt · Accepted Answer

It would've been less of a waste, if I successfully killed myself when I was young, you probably think you have friends but you don't, you might also think your family cares about you even in the very tiniest way they could but they make a quick exit and disappear from your life the moment you move out. You end up alone constantly trying to end yourself, you'll never find someone not even for just as a friend, people are worse as adults, you'll hear the term "not everyone" a lot but from experience you'll realize that "not everyone" is just people who have never and will never see you in person because everyone who claims to be different from the rest and does see you in person ends up treating you like everyone else ever does. So why not just end it early in life and save the hassle of a shit life.

Dargil · Accepted Answer

I'd make it 19. Focus on educational and career goals. Don't worry about the social approval of others. You are not that "hot". Beware of any female who is too eager to land you. She's probably looking for a meal ticket. She's filling a "slot" and it's not hers.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I already did a lot of the things I wanted, but I missed out a lot on the stereotypical high school life like prom, dating, fucking, partying. I should have not cared and siezed opportunities when I had them. I feel I kind of wasted my 20s. Of course I'm glad I got to travel to so many countries, but you need other things in life too. There were certain things I didn't realize until it was too late and now I'll never get that time back. If I could, I would stay in my 20s forever. I'm so fucking stupid😥

Damn, I regret answering this question now.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I'd have a few pieces of advice: Get your thyroid function checked ASAP. Stop hoping that your father will ever start acting like one to you. Your undergrad university friends all turn out to be flaky self absorbed pricks. You don't want to know 'em. Stop trying to "make it happen." When the master does nothing, nothing will go undone.

RealMarek · Answer

I would tell my young self to turn and run as soon as he sees his future ex-wife, and not to ever let him be manipulated by girlfriend. I would also tell him to do anything he can to avoid corporate careers where people get laid off mercilessly after years of hard work, even if that means making less money in his own business.

AimeeKyle · Answer

Continue to push yourself professionally……. Go above and beyond to learn from those aging individuals with significant experience (from all areas of the business, not just your own)

Be confident and push your boundaries socially (I am more of an introvert but was much more then), you will be surprised with the results.

Enjoy…. only worry about those things you can control (which aren’t many).

Sour-rose · Answer

"No matter what, this body you have is yours. What you do with it is up to you. Anyone tells you that you can't do that because of this or that, tell them to go fuck themselves. And you can't say that yet but when you're adult, you don't wanna say that to our mom yet. She ain't ready for a verbal cut throat comment yet."

ilikesnow · Answer

omfg when i was young i got fatshamed (and tbh i wasn't even overweight or anything it's just that everyone around me was insanely slim) so i would say to myself to appreciate my body, myself and to ignore all those haters.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Don’t spend so much money on other people, it won’t fill the void in your heart and they’ll only use you for your money and leave you when it runs out, and focus on getting sober faster than you did. Your life gets a lot better after you become sober.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I think I would focus a bit more on "relationships". I did a lot of things that were adventuresome so I can't think of regrets there. But I would have worked more on relationship building I think.

Orion76 · Answer

Love your loved ones moderately, you might hate them one day, hate your enemies moderately as well they might be your loved ones one day. Have everything in writing no exceptions and finally don’t get married lol

JSmuve · Answer

I'd tell myself that rejection is a part of life and if you shut yourself down, you'll just hurt yourself in the long run and regret it. Get out there, get experiences, not everything is meant to last but everything can teach you something good if you let it. You're good enough and deserve more than you think. Just be confident, get your ass out there, and go get it. The only one holding yourself back from what you deserve is you. And stay away from booze. That shit can ruin everything.

Anonymous · Answer

Oooh. I love these questions because I was clueless when I was 25. And by clueless, I mean a hopeless romantic who still believed in love. I had also not witnessed a lot of the human filth that I've come to witness.

I would say, hey, 99% of people are basically worthless dog shit with huge egos that lie to themselves every single day. Live for yourself and yourself alone.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Pay attention to yourself, your value. build up my self worth and esteem. I'd find Christ and live truly in the moment, in love, with strength. Use your creativity for good purpose, start and build businesses.

Alex8736 · Answer

Let's see a double major in college -- Criminal Law and Behaviorial Health, A supportive family and friends and now a great paying job. I would say to my younger self "NICE JOB". 🍸🍷😘

TrueConfection · Answer

Finish school Travel  Get married Start a family I did all of those things in my 20s and I'm so glad I did.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't try to change much. I'd tell him to not worry so much, be more self assured, it's going to work out. I'd also advise him on start investing even sooner than we did that way we reach our goal even faster. But still remember to enjoy life.

jshm2 · Answer

My younger self would probably kill me without hesitation.  I was an angry gang member in my youth, before turning things around in my late teens.

Amy10223 · Answer

Study as much as you can, in a field that you love. Never depend on anyone but yourself to being you happiness. Be as independent as you can--and follow love with your heart and nothing else.

Sorrento-Sun · Answer

Always trust your intuition. Never talk yourself into going against your better judgement. Trust your gut feeling over anyone's reasons, explanations and excuses.

Anonymous · Answer

Do not chase career! keep your eyes and ears open. Find and fall in love with a sincere man, get married and have kids before you’re 30.

AviatorTom · Answer

"Self, enjoy life. Be yourself... and don't be afraid to take risks. And, by the way, that girl who lives down the street... she likes you."

Lionman95 · Answer

Try out more because you'll regret what you didn't do more than something you did and didn't work out.

sheikalana · Answer

I would say. You don't know yet but you'll make it in life and live the life of your dreams. Don't give up and never stop believing in yourself and that you deserve better.

Monalisa77 · Answer

Stop being obsessed about fictional couples and focus on your own love life lol also take your work more seriously

Quackthulu2 · Answer

Depends on how young. There was a big ass difference between 8 year old me, 13 year old me, and 20 year old me.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Run ! Run Fast Run Far Run Wide! I would’ve told him to be David Goggins because how this mf makes almost 20k a month to run is beyond me! in shape and getting paid for it THIS GUY can't LOSE!

Part2603 · Answer

I would say that young girls should have wanton casual sex with random dudes they meet on the internet.

Still-alive · Answer

‘Hey dont be so focused on getting that girl of your dreams its not a requirement to be happy in life’

TrillXHippy · Answer

If I could say something to the kid in elementary school “I’d say middle school is gonna be the absolute worst. If it was up to you just don’t go to school anymore. Just forget 6th grade all the way through high school”

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I'd tell myself that whatever I start I need to finish

DancingQueen16 · Answer

Something I'd say to my 8-year-old self is don't get attached to a certain friend because she will ditch you in the sixth grade

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Pursue your Master’s silly, he’s not as perfect as you think.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

Don't come out of mom's belly. It's more darker even with sunlight.

CrimsonAngel09 · Answer

"Wise the fuck up and get tough, because life will KICK. YOUR. ASS.  Hard."

Heterosketero · Answer

Stop hanging out with those people and do you. Fuck, I really wish I could do that. It keeps me up some nights.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't wait till marriage. Only idiots wait. "Life is what you do, while you're waiting to die."

annabananna · Answer

Don’t quit doing what you love and don’t worry about relationships so much.

BrookeS · Answer

"In 5 years when someone comes to you asking if you can drive a car for 1000 dollars just say no" lol

admles · Answer

I would tell myself to start my fitness journey earlier - lifting weights, eating well, and mobility work at a much younger age

art84 · Answer

Save your money in your 20's cause things are gonna get expensive later on in life.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

1). Pull the ejection lever SOONER. 2) Don't marry her.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

You're going to be here for a long time. Might as well enjoy it.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Honestly, I don't think I could have changed anything in my own life.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd tell my young self to spare myself the pain of realizing just how bad a hand I was dealt at birth by ending my life now

stoicity · Answer

Probably asked to focus on career and take it easy.

najekim · Answer

Tell my younger self to buy a pound of gold when it was $28.00 an ounce.

Keishio · Answer

Cut your hair, hit the gym, man up, things are going to get rough

scooogy · Answer

Don't turn her down, things will end anyway.

dinojames22 · Answer

Take him to a haunted house and see how well he runs (away from killer chain saw dude) with that issue

sambigboy · Answer

Great thinks are to come, you'll be soo proud of yourself

jjj101010 · Answer

To my young self I’d say buy shares in apple

exitseven · Answer

Save more money.

Nominal · Answer

Make money, dont hang out.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not worth it and all you have is a lot of pain coming your way.

abc3643 · Answer

"Here are the winning lottery numbers..."

Pinay_ako · Answer

“Take your time. Fools rush in.”

fonduegirl · Answer

You were right about feminism. Shit is real.

LavLavLuv · Answer

“Do not overshare. STFU”

LiamJHayden · Answer

Start investing in rental properties.

Shamalien · Answer

Get your shit together

noohair · Answer

Don't do that first bag of herion.

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