What would you say to your young self?

[Anonymous]

If you, like me, were in your 20s and had the freedom to do most things what would you do? How would you enjoy your life?

(Yup looking for inspiration lol)

[Account]

"Hang in there, you will eventually achieve the things you want to achieve, keep working hard and things will get better in some areas.
In other areas, things won't get better, but always remember that not everything is under your control and please don't strive so hard to fix things that are outside the realm of the possible. You will lose yourself a part of yourself if you do so.
Don't carry the world on your shoulders, it is not your responsibility, even though you erroneously think it is.
Don't attempt to fix broken people when you haven't even fixed yourself.
Remember that you have people around you who enjoy your presence.
Spend time with yourself, try to recognize and acknowledge every feeling you feel instead of pushing it away.
If you push your feelings away, you will reach at a point when you won't be able to comprehend your inner world anymore.
Remember that this life is very short to be that concerned over trivial matters."

[Asker]

Love this

[Account]

Τhank you, I hope that was at least a bit helpful! 🤗

[Asker]

Very helpful!

[menina]

I would tell myself to work hard to reach my goals. To think for myself and do the best for me, to not try to please others. To have more fun and to think wisely, so I can make better decisions.

Enjoy your 20's because they go by so fast... 😭😭😭

[Heolurt]

It would've been less of a waste, if I successfully killed myself when I was young, you probably think you have friends but you don't, you might also think your family cares about you even in the very tiniest way they could but they make a quick exit and disappear from your life the moment you move out. You end up alone constantly trying to end yourself, you'll never find someone not even for just as a friend, people are worse as adults, you'll hear the term "not everyone" a lot but from experience you'll realize that "not everyone" is just people who have never and will never see you in person because everyone who claims to be different from the rest and does see you in person ends up treating you like everyone else ever does. So why not just end it early in life and save the hassle of a shit life.

[Dargil]

I'd make it 19. Focus on educational and career goals. Don't worry about the social approval of others. You are not that "hot". Beware of any female who is too eager to land you. She's probably looking for a meal ticket. She's filling a "slot" and it's not hers.

[Asker]

Why aren't you that hot?

[Dargil]

Because I am a Dudley Doright/Clark Kent kind of guy.
They want to marry us but not date us.

[Asker]

To be fair I am not sure what that means lol

[Dargil]

I'm polite, respectful and helpful but I probably will not "dick her down".

[FilmGuy93]

I'd have a few pieces of advice:

• Get your thyroid function checked ASAP.
• Stop hoping that your father will ever start acting like one to you.
• Your undergrad university friends all turn out to be flaky self absorbed pricks. You don't want to know 'em.
• Stop trying to "make it happen." When the master does nothing, nothing will go undone.

[Asker]

Same I’m not friends with anyone from my undergrad lol

[FilmGuy93]

I don't know where the idea that you'll make lifelong friends in college came from, but that wasn't true for me at all. I hope some people have that experience though. It would be nice to hear that someone's college experience was everything they hoped it would be.

[Asker]

Yeah everyone I met at university was kind of focussed on themselves and they only made friendships to get their way

[Dargil]

*Your undergrad university teachers, instructors and administrators will turn out to be Communist propagandists. That's what rightist media says, but it is also exactly what I experienced. You will have to filter the politics out if every class lesson. Transistors are not LGBTEFGHIJ++%$&@. They are electrical components. And hydraulic master and slave cylinders are not racist.

[RealMarek]

I would tell my young self to turn and run as soon as he sees his future ex-wife, and not to ever let him be manipulated by girlfriend. I would also tell him to do anything he can to avoid corporate careers where people get laid off mercilessly after years of hard work, even if that means making less money in his own business.

[Asker]

What’s wrong with your ex wife?

[RealMarek]

She was manipulative and abusive.

[Asker]

Oh no I’m sorry

[RealMarek]

Thanks. I was very idealistic about love, felt it could overcome anything. She used the fact that she had a lot of problems to lay guilt trips whenever I might have considered dumping her. There were a lot of red flags that I ignored. Ended up going through with the wedding even though I knew we had problems. This was partly due to inexperience, partly because I grew up hearing how difficult marriage is and figured it was normal, partly because I often was one to “go with the flow” and sort of let things happen to me, and partly cowardice. Once married, she amped up her bad behavior to 11. I didn’t believe in divorce and she exploited that. Nothing I did was good enough or could be done right. I ended up sort of emotionally numb and, without even thinking about it, worked extra hours to avoid being home. Eventually, ended up divorcing years later after I realized the way she treated me was causing our child to disrespect me. The first day on my own, despite losing almost everything I had, I felt young and healthy again. This is why I’m often advising you to pay attention and take action when guys don’t treat you well. There are fates worse than being single, but that said I don’t think you have to be single for too long. You attract a lot of men. I just think you should filter out anyone who is not kind, faithful, mature, and consistent. Also, I hope you look for and find someone who has a stable, calming demeanor, because I get the impression that you can be emotional or feel a lot of stress at times this sort of man would perhaps be good for you.

[Asker]

Thank you so much!!! And I’m incredibly sorry you had to go through that. It really seems like she missed out on a good one…what a shame for her. You were willing to fight through it all and had so much respect for your marriage…that was a big loss for her

[KostasKouvalis]

I already did a lot of the things I wanted, but I missed out a lot on the stereotypical high school life like prom, dating, fucking, partying. I should have not cared and siezed opportunities when I had them. I feel I kind of wasted my 20s. Of course I'm glad I got to travel to so many countries, but you need other things in life too. There were certain things I didn't realize until it was too late and now I'll never get that time back. If I could, I would stay in my 20s forever. I'm so fucking stupid😥

Damn, I regret answering this question now.

[AimeeKyle]

Continue to push yourself professionally……. Go above and beyond to learn from those aging individuals with significant experience (from all areas of the business, not just your own)

Be confident and push your boundaries socially (I am more of an introvert but was much more then), you will be surprised with the results.

Enjoy…. only worry about those things you can control (which aren’t many).

[Asker]

How would you push your boundaries socially?

[AimeeKyle]

Be more outgoing and confident. It can be a challenge to break into social groups sometimes. Keep trying until you find a good fit for yourself. I did pretty well moving to a large city by myself, not knowing anyone within hours, but could have done a better job of finding groups / things to do socially speaking (was ultra focused on work).

[Sour-rose]

"No matter what, this body you have is yours. What you do with it is up to you. Anyone tells you that you can't do that because of this or that, tell them to go fuck themselves. And you can't say that yet but when you're adult, you don't wanna say that to our mom yet. She ain't ready for a verbal cut throat comment yet."

[ilikesnow]

omfg when i was young i got fatshamed (and tbh i wasn't even overweight or anything it's just that everyone around me was insanely slim) so i would say to myself to appreciate my body, myself and to ignore all those haters.

[Asker]

I can relate to this

[petitedollbabee]

Don’t spend so much money on other people, it won’t fill the void in your heart and they’ll only use you for your money and leave you when it runs out, and focus on getting sober faster than you did. Your life gets a lot better after you become sober.

[ArrowheadSW]

I think I would focus a bit more on "relationships". I did a lot of things that were adventuresome so I can't think of regrets there. But I would have worked more on relationship building I think.

[Asker]

Focus on relationships how?

[ArrowheadSW]

Maybe relationships towards long-term dating rather than casual dating. One of the issues was that I didn't want kids and most women want kids, so if a woman was looking towards marriage then that left me out of the dating circle for her.

[Asker]

Alright... I see

[Orion76]

Love your loved ones moderately, you might hate them one day, hate your enemies moderately as well they might be your loved ones one day. Have everything in writing no exceptions and finally don’t get married lol

[Asker]

Wow that’s interesting

[Orion76]

it’s my experience

[JSmuve]

I'd tell myself that rejection is a part of life and if you shut yourself down, you'll just hurt yourself in the long run and regret it. Get out there, get experiences, not everything is meant to last but everything can teach you something good if you let it. You're good enough and deserve more than you think. Just be confident, get your ass out there, and go get it. The only one holding yourself back from what you deserve is you. And stay away from booze. That shit can ruin everything.

[Anonymous]

Oooh. I love these questions because I was clueless when I was 25. And by clueless, I mean a hopeless romantic who still believed in love. I had also not witnessed a lot of the human filth that I've come to witness.

I would say, hey, 99% of people are basically worthless dog shit with huge egos that lie to themselves every single day. Live for yourself and yourself alone.

[lightbulb27]

Pay attention to yourself, your value. build up my self worth and esteem. I'd find Christ and live truly in the moment, in love, with strength. Use your creativity for good purpose, start and build businesses.

[Alex8736]

Let's see a double major in college -- Criminal Law and Behaviorial Health, A supportive family and friends and now a great paying job. I would say to my younger self "NICE JOB". 🍸🍷😘

[Asker]

I’m happy for you!!!

[TrueConfection]

Finish school

Travel

Get married

Start a family

I did all of those things in my 20s and I'm so glad I did.

[exitseven]

I didn't graduate from college untio i was 32.

[TrueConfection]

@exitseven It's never too late!

[exitseven]

Yes, i graduated in May and started grad school that next September.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't try to change much. I'd tell him to not worry so much, be more self assured, it's going to work out. I'd also advise him on start investing even sooner than we did that way we reach our goal even faster. But still remember to enjoy life.

[jshm2]

My younger self would probably kill me without hesitation.

I was an angry gang member in my youth, before turning things around in my late teens.

[Amy10223]

Study as much as you can, in a field that you love. Never depend on anyone but yourself to being you happiness. Be as independent as you can--and follow love with your heart and nothing else.

[Sorrento-Sun]

Always trust your intuition. Never talk yourself into going against your better judgement. Trust your gut feeling over anyone's reasons, explanations and excuses.

[Anonymous]

Do not chase career! keep your eyes and ears open. Find and fall in love with a sincere man, get married and have kids before you’re 30.

[Asker]

Sis how am I supposed to find a man before I’m 30 😭 I feel like the market is so bad

[Opinion Owner]

There are nice guys out there, few though. You just have to keep looking, put yourself out there more in real world and not dating apps. Stay away from trashy bars.

[Asker]

How do I put myself out there?

[Opinion Owner]

Join social clubs that revolve around your hobbies and things you enjoy doing. Higher chances you will meet like minded men there.
Also, don’t try to hard. Be in your true self and someone will like you for who you are.
Most importantly, don’t let wrong men waste your time!

[Asker]

Lovely thank you!

[Opinion Owner]

Glad I could help

[AviatorTom]

"Self, enjoy life. Be yourself... and don't be afraid to take risks. And, by the way, that girl who lives down the street... she likes you."