Do you feel like you have to/can please everyone?

[Msputiton]

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1 y

Since I was asked few times about my opinion it is this.
It is not good for my self mental health to try to please everyone.
I will please myself, and if my actions please others around me, that is a bonus.
The reason is.
If you try to please everyone it won't work because we all want different things.
So not what you say or do, someone will always be mad.
And if you change something to please someone you upset the people who are originally happy will no longer be happy.

[melanieeeB]

I don't have to and I can't, we will never be able to please everyone and some people will always say something no matter what, so the best is to not listen cause you will not please everyone, so please yourself

[Msputiton]

Yes!!! This comic sums it all up

[SteveSmith1985]

No. I really really don't feel I have to please everyone. I am totally fine not pleasing people. Most people I couldn't care less if I can please them or not. Those I do care about... I'll do my best. And if that's not good enough for someone... I guess they can get upset about that if they want. But that's not something I'm gonna worry about. You're not getting better than the best I can do. If that's not good enough... that's your problem (in most cases anyway).

[Msputiton]

Agree

[Adam1978]

No why would you please your opponent? How by losing? You get no where in life if you don't take up any conflicts. It's required to change your life towards something better instead of people losing respect for you. Which is also a way to not please people. So it's impossible to please everyone unless you are in a very sparse populated place with no disagreements.

[sheenagwapa]

i used to care about orher people's emotion a lot now i don't care if they will kill themselves or have drepression because they didn't care aboyt my feelings too


when i show them goodness and pure intentions some demonic entities wanna use me to be a child-beater/sex dlave/ nanny of their kids amazinh! snd a trophy wife to be oerfected because he is a cery insecure person and validation from other people is his life

[CrimsonAngel09]

Yep, to fit in society's looks of perfection.

Gotta be tall, not short.

Gotta have long slender legs, not short thick ones.

Gotta have lush big lips, not small and kind of thin.

Gotta be perfectly skinny, not even four to five pounds over.

Gotta have small perky boobs, not big saggy ones.

Etc., etc..

[exitseven]

Nope. Ricky Nelson famously said "You can't please everyone so you've got to please yourself. "

[Msputiton]

Yup.

[Sour-rose]

Oh, I used to.. until i realized something "Am I really gonna use my time to please everyone?"

My name is a indicator to the right answer, I think

[Msputiton]

Lmao

[Mimi_758]

No, i don't feel like I have to please everyone in your life would be miserable if you try doing that and on the other hand, there is no possible way you can please everyone

[Msputiton]

Exactly 💯

[SnowedIn]

Have to? No. Everyone? No. But I am a people pleaser. So there's that.

*this message sent from timeout*

[Msputiton]

Who said you can message in timeout 😡

[SnowedIn]

I figured the lesser of two evils was messaging while in timeout than ignoring you.

[Msputiton]

Good point

[AimeeKyle]

When I was younger, yes…. and I tried/succeeded most of the time. It is extremely stressful and tiresome though. As I have gotten older I have come to realize you cannot make everyone happy all the time….. I had a significant drop in stress once I figured this out.

[leahzrc]

Not anymore, I think people may actually like when we don't give into everything, it makes us more valuable

[Msputiton]

To me it is more about our own mental health. There are billions of people in this world almost all of them want or need something different.
No matter what you do, someone will not be happy.
So why put myself through that stress

[leahzrc]

yes plus some people may never feel pleased no matter how hard we try

[Wish4UrB00ty]

I used to. Not so much any more. How about you?

[Msputiton]

Nope.

[Wish4UrB00ty]

That is good! 😊

[Sixgunsound]

No and I dont even bother to try. It is a fools errand to make the attempt since it is impossible.

[mstbooblover]

Oh no, there's no point even trying to please everyone, but I always try to be polite and avoid as the pest every form of useless bickering.

[ShadezMcgee]

Still a recovering people pleaser, honestly. Still find myself struggling to say "no" at times. It has been ingrained in me as a kid and it is hard to unlearn.

[DizzyDesii]

Thankfully not anymore. I was very hard on myself about this in elementary/high school/college. And now i feeel freeeee! Well except on occasion if its their bday or Christmas, im tempted to be a people pleaser again

[FilmGuy93]

I used to, but I don't feel that way anymore. I've gotten a lot more confident in myself, and I don't care about pleasing people as much these days.

[Jaximus-Lion]

At some point! I had that feeling, almost all my twenties. I learned and now all i do is taking care of my self and my partner.

[OfMiceandMen]

I know it's not possible to please everyone, I do the best I can. Beyond that, it is out of my control.

[PointTaken]

I like to help people and try to cheer them up. Yet I don't try to please everyone. I am me and they can suffer through my personality.

[fredaarhin]

No, I don't feel like I need to please anyone

[Msputiton]

Good

[Anonymous]

Yeah. I have authoritarian parents. Sadly I fear them. To me, and other people raised by this kind of parenting, the parents are the gateway and sometimes the only way to get what you want from them is to please them like getting good grades in school, doing what is commanded of you, or do what they expect you to do.

[mandyfire98]

I have to remind myself that I can't make everyone happy.

[LovingJo]

I used to.. trying to unlearn this behavior.

I also can't stop looking at this top in the picture. It's gorgeous 😂❤️

[LovingJo]

Re your update. I 💯 agree 👍