I’m really mentally struggling?

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Hi everyone.

So a little bit about me…

I graduated my masters degree over a year ago and I’ve yet to land a stable job.

I’m basically broke, living at my parents house with nothing to do.

I went through 2 break ups last year and while people my age are getting married and popping babies, I’m literally sitting at home with my parents.

I also don’t have any proper friends. I have “friends” but nobody I have a really close bond with, or someone I can fall onto when I need to.

I feel very lonely and basically like a failure. It’s really hard to not feel so mentally exhausted and I don’t know what to do.

I’d appreciate any advice.

Static_In_The_Attic · Accepted Answer

In life the only way to move is forward & in life you should never give up, you should never give in & most of all you should keep moving forward no matter what. In life some people have a lot on their plate & some people have a buffet. As for you better days will come my friend so turn your frown upside you’ll be ok. As for me I always try to look at the bright side of things & as for you congratulations on earning your masters degree. As for your living situation living in your parents house is better than living on the streets or living in a cardboard box. In life I always say if you never try you will never know & as for you when it comes to two breakups last year that’s better than ten breakups & when it comes to a relationship if it was meant to be it was meant to be. Live your life my friend & live your own life my friend. Don’t compare your life to the lives of others or people your age because it’s not all lollipops & candy drops like you think it is. For every marriage there is a divorce & for every baby unfortunately there are single, broke & struggling parents. As for you a stable job you yet to land & your day will come so hang in there. In today’s world the job market isn’t what you think it is & in today’s world a job is better than not having a job at all. As for you don’t be afraid to go on interviews & take any job until you find what you are looking for & what you are looking for is out there & what you are looking for could be in another city as well. In life failure brings solution & failure happens to us all until we find our way. As for you alone you are not & from time to time we all feel alone including myself. You say you are literally sitting at home with your parents & all I can say is treasure your time with your parents because unfortunately our parents will not be in our lives forever.

You are doing fine..

~Static

Hulk_kitty · Accepted Answer

I am in the same position as you, the only thing good thing I have is good friends. In terms of the job situation, No job, out of work. I am currently studying to become IT technician, I am looking at another 3-6 months before I can get work. I am not even sure this risk I am taking will workout for me.

Most morning I wake up depressed, but I will not give up, you have keep moving forward.

I think you need to focus on one thing at a time, you are all over the place, worrying about your friends, boyfriends, work, i wonder why you are exhausted.

My suggestion focus on sorting out your, job situation, and get a job you enjoy first, and everything will fall into place. Because mentally you won't be able to make friends without a job, and boyfriend won't want to pay for everything.

Sort out the job situation, don't about anthing else. Do everything in your power to get work.

NamerOfStars · Answer

It sounds like you've got multiple problems here, and trying to take everything on at once is probably going to leave you feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. So break it down, and think about what you could do to solve each set of issues. For example:

-Your lack of employment. Taking on something minor, even just part-time, could help you pull yourself up, mentally, as well as serve as a reminder to employers that you ARE capable of working; gaps in a resume are a big red flag to most people (believe me, I speak from experience here). You may need to go outside of your area of expertise for this; that's okay. Even if a degree in, say, anthropology doesn't help you directly as a steelworker, a wide range of skills, knowledge, and experiences WILL give you a broader perspective and possibly help you solve problems others can't. And that anthropology degree could directly help you driving a school bus (obviously yours might not be in anthropology, but you get what I'm saying). Life, despite what you've been told, is long, and working is working; if it's not what you want to do now, you don't have to stick with it forever.

-Your lack of social contact. This is trickier, but not insoluble. Try looking for local social or activity groups. Some are (or are still) exclusively online, but most gather in the real world, and can give you a chance to meet people and indulge your interests, as well as build new ones. Another option is to look for volunteering opportunities- these will not only look good on a resume, but let you interact with others, and it feels good to help people.

-Your general lack of activity. Man, I can relate to this- you feel like you're just spinning your wheels, not accomplishing anything while your life drains away. The key here is to find something to do- something that'll take a while. Head to your library and find a good long book (or series of them), and begin reading through it. Or head over to Gutenberg and grab digital copies for free (if they're old enough to be in the public domain), or even to Librivox and volunteer by reading them. The sensation of making progress, of moving forward towards accomplishing a goal, can REALLY help- even if it doesn't feel like it would.

Remember that feelings don't change overnight; it may take some time to really start feeling better. It's still worth the effort!

b-river · Answer

This sounds like a two way conversation, I would chose someone here whose answer resonates with you and message them or someone you trust in like and reach out to them.
This ultimately seems like a simple and hard situation, which can be tricky to talk about fixing, and more so needs strength and clearness of mind, which can be helped with some support.
Good luck sister

LazerBean · Answer

Be grateful that you have parents to land on when stuff like this happens and get whatever job you can. Any legitimate job is an improvement to none. And just keep trying to upgrade from there.

AimeeKyle · Answer

Remain positive and make finding a full time job a priority. Get up early, research opportunities and apply / make calls. Don’t worry about others and what they are doing, focus on the task at hand and take it one step ata rime.

MementoMori777 · Answer

Struggles, don't stress it, not everyone understands em but others do, do you have a car? And a laundry machine?

merrt_ordu · Answer

take antidepressants or drink alcohol every day I don't know if the first one will work, but the second one will..)

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