Alternatives to therapy?

[Anonymous]

Could you suggest any alternatives to therapy?

[Genie23]

What exactly you're struggling with? If you just care to elaborate, I might be able to help you. Some things/condition can be managed without therapy but certain things need therapy. So, could you please add some detail?

[Asker]

Emotional problems, not being able to trust people, self loathing

[Genie23]

I've been through that for over a decade. So, I know how you feel because I did meet many people who were once close to me ended up betraying my trust. I'm not only talking about ex but also friends and others but then I realized that part of it was my fault too. I was gullible. I didn't know when to open up and who to trust now I'm smart about it. I know who to trust and who I shouldn't. We all learn from our mistakes. Not trusting anyone is where you'll go wrong.

The key here is not to open up too soon and to observe people especially during your bad times and see what they do. Do they stick around or not. How they treat you. Whether their words and actions match.. then you should open up. It's okay to have your guards up but it's also needed to bring your guard down someday to someone who's genuine.

I got rid of bunch of friends and partner who broke my trust. I keep very few people in my life and these people helped me get over my trust issues after I met them and saw how much they genuinely cared. So, don't give up on people. Just be careful and observant and you won't get hurt again.

I have a feeling you're talking about your ex. I don't know what he did but... Trust me, it's a good thing you guys are not together because if someone makes you loathe yourself (I felt that way after I was cheated on because I was too forgiving and he took that for granted) . Someone MUCH better will meet you someday and help you understand why it didn't work out with your ex.

[Genie23]

Also regarding alternative to therapy... The worst breakup shattered me and I was feeling too depressed to do anything. I lost motivation. I lost the will to even get up from my bed every morning and eat and get going. I remember the first thing that REALLY helped me was the children in my neighbourhood. I remember my papa visiting me that evening and while I was seeing him off, these kids played some game and I got curious and asked them, "What are you kids playing?" The kids bright smile, enthusiasm and excitement to explain to me how it's played and even invited me to play 😂 Since then they'd show up at my door every evening and their parents loved me. Their love was unconditional. They liked me even when I was not my best self. That gave me hope. I started waking up with a smile on my face again. I started going out with my friends again and I started focusing on my work again. I started doing things I love and it made me get back to normal again.

My point is I don't know what will work for you but why don't you try something that you always wanted to do in life. Anything you're passionate about. Writing, taking dance classes, going trekking , trying new recipes, etc. Make time for your hobbies everyday and make some time to pursue things you know you'll enjoy it once you try. It will help you take your mind off things and also realize that there are other things that can make you happy too and it's matter of time before you meet the right kind of person. Also, if you have good friends, talk to them often. Make plans. Go out. Go on a trip. Just be productive and live a little. It will help you feel much better.

[Asker]

You're right. This is triggered because of the worst breakup. The first and only one. I'm so thankful to you for telling me about your experience with it. I am planning to change my life soon, but these days, I can not leave my house, so I was looking for stuff I can do at home that can make me feel better.

[Anonymous]

Anything that can boost your self esteem and make you feel better as a person.

[call_me_scar]

Eating, drugs and annoying the public in general

[In_Trance]

For what specifically?

[Asker]

Heartbreak

[In_Trance]

There is an alternative, yes

[answerALLquestions]

Alcohol

[AngryCarl2]

medication