How to deal with guilt?

[MementoMori777]

Or get rid of it if it's possible

[Juxtapose]

Apathy.

You are on this Earth for less than 100 years and you want to fret what other people think? Act according to your own principles and you won't ever have to worry about guilt.

[MementoMori777]

What if you think you made the wrong choice that lead to a bad result?

[Juxtapose]

You learn from your mistake and do better in the future rather than beat yourself up over it.

[MementoMori777]

I'll try bro, thanks

[Juxtapose]

Certainly, best of luck!

[MementoMori777]

Thanks 💯

[belle_kai]

Forgive yourself. We're all human and we all make mistakes... it's what you do after that counts

[MementoMori777]

The dude is dead, I can't just forgive myself

[belle_kai]

Wait, sorry what happened?

[MementoMori777]

I seperated from this guy that was my best friend, we went through all kinds of hustles together, ups and downs but he was giving off this evil vibe and was living a wreckless lifestyle and wasn't moving smart so I decided to separate from him, we were always into positivity when we were together speaking of success and stuff but on his own he was wreckless and it all caught up to him, last night he got Into a shootout with people, they did a drive by on him and he died at the hospital, I just keep thinking that maybe if I wouldn't have separated he would've been alive or at the very least he wouldn't have been alone at that time and results could've been different, I think there's lots of stuff I should've told him and tbh I feel selfish and guilty, if I would've been there I could've helped shoot back and maybe it would've all ended differently.

[belle_kai]

I understand you and I'm sorry this happened. The thing is we are not responsible for other people's actions and behaviours but I get that you felt you wanted to steer him into a better path but it would have only been for him to make that decision. He had to want to do it from himself. This is also such thing as survivors guilt which can stem from trauma but this is really not your fault at all. Sometimes we take a different path and that's ok. I think forgiveness for yourself will come with time but when you learn the lesson anf meanings from all of this. There is always a lesson. You can put that pain into purpose and work with kids to rehabilitate them and get them to stay out of trouble

[belle_kai]

One day

[MementoMori777]

I wish I saw it that way but I don't but I do appreciate your help, through tough situations is when you notice who is real and who isn't, out of all the people I talk to or have conversations with you are the only one that seems to give a shit, it shows loyalty and I appreciate it 💯

[belle_kai]

Take the time to process this, its important to feel the feelings that you will feel. Be kind to yourself, it's all a process and if you need to talk or vent you know where I am

[MementoMori777]

Thanks I appreciate that 💯🙏