Why are men generally less crazy than women?

[Anonymous]

In life, I have generally ( but not always) , found men to be more grounded , rational and straightforward. Why is this?😂

[blueonblack22]

Our brains are structured differently (generally). Also a lot more is expected from men to keep their cool. If a man wigs out and loses it he risks losing a lot more face. Unless it’s for a legitimate reason (major traumatic event) he will lose respect and trust from both men and women alike.

But don’t be fooled. Men feel all the exact same negative emotions that women do. We process it by taking action. It can be productive action like work, school, exercise, building things, etc. However it can be very destructive including violence, drugs/alchohol, depression, video games, etc.

I know society says it’s okay for men to “open up”. However the ugly truth is women look to men for emotional stability. Women will have some tolerance depending how much they like the guy. But the man can not be equal or more emotional than a woman or he will lose respect. Truth is most women hate it when men act that way. But again don’t be fooled. All that craziness is more often not going on upstairs. But we are expected to control it.

[Nikki1989]

LMAO! You are joking, right, emotional stability?

WTF?

[blueonblack22]

@Nikki1989 well of course you have met a few crazy guys. You are 34 and been around the block a few times.

My question is this. How do women act towards men who are 1) are not threat to them and yet 2) Can NOT offer them any immediate value (they don’t find them attractive, they don’t have much money, they aren’t funny, etc.).

Women will tolerate more crap from guys (sometimes way too much) they like/need vs ones they don’t. But the latter isn’t threatening either.

[A_Bell]

I generally hate group A is better than group B discussions because they are collectivist nonsense and overlook the individual. Each side has their villains and heroes.

But, it is my belief that men on average are more "chill" than women.

You can go to extremely rare edge cases like serial killers, but that does not have an impact on the average.

What I have seen is that we women are more likely to viciously tear each other down and take insults from innocent comments that are then held on to with a death grip in our scorepads for life.

Most men seem to have conflict and carry on and not make a big deal about things in the first place. My personality is like that, so I have always preferred hanging out with guys.

Women also get hung up on worrying about everything constantly. I like adventure and living life, not imagining someone or something is going to do me harm at every moment. It's fine to be safe, but it goes well beyond that.

Last, look at any female heavy discussion board, say for sewing. A woman will post something she did and the thread will be 1,000 comments of women telling her what she did wrong and a couple of guys saying good job. This really happens most in child care forums.

But, in the end, we are all individuals. Look for the good people male or female.

[Losalt]

Agreed.
And yeah, the differences between individuals is definitely larger then between the genders.
Human behaviour is controlled by a incredibly complex neutral network with so many inputs in the past and present that it's almost impossible to say anything truly universal about humans.
But yeah, as a guy I do also see that trend.
On the other hand you girls are also more sensitive to *other* peoples feelings too, something I definitely appreciate.
And while women on average might be less "chill" there's thankfully many of you that's more then chill enough.

[A_Bell]

@Losalt agreed

[Screenwriter]

Statistically, men have more mental illness problems than women. Perhaps you've chosen good men as partners and women friends who have more problems than average.

I can't fathom why. But choose your women friends the way you choose your men friends and see if things change!

[Losalt]

Hum, my understanding is that women are more likely to have mental problems, but that when men do its more likely to go really bad (suicide etc)?

[RavVid]

There are a couple of reasons. First and perhaps primarily is that women are validated in crazy notions. Other women will reinforce them. Men will reinforce them (though this is usually as a way not to get involved. Straight from validating another women I have seen the validating women shaking her head and asking 'what did she expect'.

In contrast men will tell each other they are stupid and ask 'what did you expect to happen'.

So craziness is knocked out of men but more deeper craziness in instill into women.

Sonorous has validly pointed out intra female competition. One gal pal said to me it is very political being a girl. The other girls are pretty much are out to get them. I have lost count of the number of times a girl has told me something disreputable about another girl and it usually finishes with 'what do you think of her now'. I of course express disapproval but I am internally thinking 'Great. She's an easy lay'.

So yeah with the other girls being out to get her it makes sense she gets crazy.

[Apple1996]

I haven't noticed that. Women seem more calm and put together then men. Men never grow up live a life of a child till death so they think its acceptable to act out like crazy fools.

[blueonblack22]

@Apple1996 do you really believe that? Im sure you had a few bad experiences but really do think that’s true in general?

[Apple1996]

@blueonblack22 yes I even know men that claim themselves as being immature so they can act that way. Which I've never known a woman to do that

[Sonorous]

Highly recommend watching this video. Might explain why you feel this way:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Uo_K7EFnBh8

[ohsheeT]

Because we don't have to go through everything you guys have to go through your bodies have chemical and balances your hormones start going sideways and straightforward and up and down and they spin until they find where they're supposed to be you guys go through hell and that's why you guys are special you're beautiful you're crazy you're just everything and I don't think men really understand what you actually go through and then come out of it being balanced and in tune with self sometimes a little weird but that's okay LOL no it's because you guys go through all kinds of stuff that we don't have to

[Datboi65]

An unstable man is a dangerous man. Men have to be grounded because if you even show the least bit if threat to others, you're gonna be in some deep shit. As a guy with a pretty good fighting record, I like to avoid fights whenever I can and I haven't been in a fight in 8 years because my current environment is a lot more peaceful and I've also matured a lot since. Me being an adult now, there are definitely a lot more consequences than when I was a teenager. Women can slap a man and get away with it, no assault indictment and are just made to do some probation time or community service. Men? You have mandatory minimums.

When there's more to lose, you have to learn how to behave, because if you don't and you want to fuck around, you're gonna find out.

[Datboi65]

I want to tell you a story about a time I learned NOT to throw a tantrum as a dude. It was my first year in med school and I was living with roommates at the time, some of which were exchange students. I had this one female roommate that was EXTREMELY LOUD and liked to play music on a loud speaker while she did the chores. It was her turn to clean the apartment that week, and that just so happened to be the week of my anatomy final exam and I was already on edge. She comes out doing her cleaning while listening to music on the loud speaker, even though I have politely told her multiple times in the past that it was annoying and my other roommates had complained to her about the same thing. That evening I came out of my room and gave her my ear buds and politely but assertively asked her to use them instead so she can listen to music and she refused again, so I lost my temper for the first time in a while and yelled at her at the top of my lungs to stop using the loud speaker. Everyone came out of their rooms staring at me in shock like they had seen a ghost. I walked back to my room and slammed the door shut, and she never played that thing again.

The next day while I was cooking in the kitchen, one of my roommates who wasn't at home the time the incident took place asked me what had happened, and another guy overheard us talking and came in to join the conversation. He said he was close to calling the cops, even though I did not make ANY threats or move a muscle. If you just lose your temper and yell as a man, others will interpret that as a threat, even if you have no intention of hurting anyone. That's the lesson learned.

[ProbablyClueless]

I think it's probably because men have experience with people getting up in their shit when they throw a tantrum, while women generally don't.

Men have either had it happen to them or they've seen it happen to someone else, so they know it's a possibility if they start acting up. Women tend to have people come to their aid in situations like that though... so it reinforces the temper tantrum behavior.

I've literally seen women lose their shit, freak out on men in public, start slapping the shit out of him, chasing him down, literally attacking and assaulting him while the guy doesn't do anything in response; and people around won't do a thing.

But the instant the dude responds in any way, a group of (usually men) rush in to defend the woman. Doesn't matter what foul crap she was doing before.

[Exterminatore]

Because we tend to to reason emotionally.


Look at a trial in court. Defendants are judged by fact, not if someone feels they are guilty despite the facts or absence of them.


Men in like fashion tend to compartmentalize their feelings much more. They may feel a certain way, but tend to refer to facts and objective reality when determining a course of action despite what their feelings may be.


Women however tend to rely on what they feel more as indicators of fact regardless of objective reality or reason.


Therefore, living by how one feels (emotions are weightless electrical charges that do not necessarily stand up in the court of reality, nor are the always indicators of fact or objective reality) will cause instability in the one who reasons this way.

[Exterminatore]

*they not we.

[Vegasrunner]

Great question. I've spent a lot of my life studying women in an attempt to come up w/ an answer to questions like this. It was actually a woman who gave me this simple formula to help me understand why.

Woman are insecure, because they are insecure most people are afraid to tell them the truth. Since most people are afraid to tell them the truth, their beliefs are always validated making them even more insecure. Think about it. Most women grade other women as 10's no matter how they look. Most woman believe that if they're dating a guy he's HV but when they break up he's trash. They believe that HV men bust their ass all their life simply to settle for 1 woman. They believe these this despite all evidence in human history saying otherwise. When you live your life I'm constant delusion crazy is the result.

[Unit1]

This is an interesting question.

If I have to guess, then either we are less loaded with the "crazy" hormones (estrogen? I doubt it) or maybe our brains are architecturally structured to not be as influenced by the "crazy" hormones. Or in other words: More logic and sensibility, less being impulsive with emotions.

But if I am being honest, I don't know why 😁 i'd like some scientific research on it but first "crazy" needs to be defined 🤪

[Katebfun]

Women by nature are more Neurotic. That's why it can be a nightmare dealing and or working just with females.

euroticism is the trait disposition to experience negative affects, including anger, anxiety, self‐consciousness, irritability, emotional instability, and depression1.

[inhua]

because it's forbidden for men to state basic facts and truths much less be allowed to show or express emotions

men who do so pay the consequences from everyday insults and slander to cancel culture and character assassinations to being throw in jail and executed

[Lionman95]

I think because guys generally care less about people´s opinion. Guys feel less the need to bond with people so they don´t join every group and idea that´s coming up. I think it´s mainly because guys are not afraid being alone while women most of the time are.

[Zatsuma]

I'd like to see a man go through hormonal changes and have a bad menstrual every month then when he becomes a father have his whole insides rearranged and his sausage stretched wide until it splits... Yeah I think that should explain it. 🤣🤣🤣. I was trying not to be too graphic.

[Losalt]

Yep, if we where to deal with that we'd be bloody insane...
Just the aggression from testosterone is *more* then enough to deal with.
But at least it's a steady background thing so you can learn to kind of predict it and not let it control you so much...

[AviatorTom]

There's a very simple answer for this...

"E" for estrogen (the female hormone) comes before "T" for testosterone (the male hormone) in the alphabet. In addition, "E" stands for "Emotional" or "Excited" while "T" stands for "Tranquil" or "Tactful".

[TheSpaceGnome]

Most people are crazy (because most people are stupid). But women get away with being crazy more often than men, because women that are crazy but hot/cute, are still wanted by a lot of crazy men, whereas most crazy women want sane men, and us sane guys just aren't having it lol. Basically if a guy is crazy there are consequences, so men attempt to hide their stupidity more often than women do.

[Anonymous]

Because men suffer consequences for being crazy.

You talk smack to a gut way bigger than you, he's going to fucking plant you into the sidewalk, sideways.

Women dont have the same consequences usually. A man would never hit them. So there's less consequential imperative to learn to shut the fuck up when necessary.

[kylee2437]

That’s not true. A lot of men hold in a lot of their issues and some of them take it out on people closest to them. Many times you won’t see a guy’s true ways until you are with him one a day to day basis

[kylee2437]

On a**

[bingbongbangbung]

Whataboutism

[kylee2437]

@bingbongbangbung the percentages of what gender attends therapy more and the crime ratio by gender say otherwise. Men hold their anger in and take it out in other ways, and there’s stats to prove that. Sorry not sorry

[Datboi65]

Women commit PLENTY of spousal violence that goes unreported. Violence against children too in single mother households. They get to slap and key your car when you make them mad and expect absolutely no type of retaliation. They're overall more likely to act in an unhinged manner when they are angry than men. Emphasis on "more likely". With men, it's just more severe when it happens, because once again male anger manifestation may not be common as female anger, but it's definitely much worse when it happens.

[kylee2437]

@Datboi65 I never said women don’t commit crimes, but overall male violence is more common and it’s directly because men are least likely to seek help for their anger

[Datboi65]

Did you read what I said? I said women do PLENTY of things that don't go reported. If we reported EVERY act of assualt committed by a woman over a cheating boyfriend or a silly argument, I doubt those numbers will be that different from the men. And I don't know where you got the "men are less likely to seek help for their anger" connection from. Men's anger is usually a last straw type of thing, women's anger is usually the FIRST THING that comes to mind. If anything, men are better at controlling their anger.

[kylee2437]

@Datboi65 you just proved my point. Men are not better at controlling their anger, men are better at hiding their anger until they snap. There’s stats to show that that’s how it exactly goes. I don’t care to read your big paragraphs. You are just aggravated because my answer is associated with your gender.

[kylee2437]

@Datboi65 and also many cases from men go unreported too, that has nothing to do

[Vegasrunner]

@kylee2437 That kind of proves thar women are crazier and more emotional.

[kylee2437]

@Vegasrunner being emotional doesn’t equal “crazy” . Someone can be emotional and know how to compose themselves at the same time

[Vegasrunner]

@kylee2437 Pethaps your emotion allowed you to miss the word and. I'm saying women are both crazier and more emotional.

[kylee2437]

@Vegasrunner associating emotions with the term “crazy” is the reason why men often refuse to ever show emotion. And it’s always men that associate emotions with craziness.

[Vegasrunner]

@kylee2437 Ironically your emotion is leading to your co fusion. Again I acknowledge that they are two separate things. My statement is that women are more guilty of both traits. Try to read it from a more stoic POV.

[kylee2437]

@Vegasrunner how can you possibly know my emotion through a computer? Lol how are you 45 years old and think emotions can be approached when you can’t even see my face or my tone?

[kylee2437]

@Vegasrunner if we are going that route then I can argue and say your emotions drove you to argue against my comment

[slatyb]

I completely disagree. Men are far crazier. All mass murderers are committed by men. What is crazier than that?

[Kingofkings1992]

Not all, most

[A_Bell]

And it's such a fringe case, it's silly to generalize from that.

[EmmaMary]

I seriously don't believe what I've just read!!!

Just what planet do you and these guys live on?

[Nikki1989]

@EmmaMary. I know, right. Some of these comments are mind-boggling in their stupidity.

[EmmaMary]

@Nikki1989

I do seriously wonder at times is it them, or could it really be us! smh

[Nikki1989]

It is them. It must be a g@g thing.

[EmmaMary]

@Nikki1989

If that really is the case, it would thankfully appear that only you and I are completely emmuned to this raging g@g epidemic!

[Nikki1989]

@EmmaMary There are others, including some men, but us enlighten ones are in the minority it would seem.

[EmmaMary]

@Nikki1989

I guess we can only continue striving onwards and upwards as best we can.

[Deserter]

Women are stupid creatures. The women in these comments claim to want respect. In reality they want me to chase them and bludgeon them with my huge dick and mighty balls. They want to be held down and farted on. It's true, they'll just never admit what they are. It's why they can't look themselves in the mirror without a pound of make-up on.

[Curmudgeon]

Because any man who engages in "flights of fancy", so to speak, tends to be *immediately* brought down, or even put down, by his peers, his parents, his teachers, and other authority figures, far more than any lady with respect to hers.