Why is it that women reject guys with flaws yet when they have flaws men are supposed to accept them?

[Hellraiser1984]

Say for instance a guy takes meds from depression it's a red flag and he's not good enough for you. A woman takes meds were supposed to look at her as a victim and feel sorry for her. A guy comes from an abusive environment and is labeled a coward and is called a f** for talking about it. A woman comes from an abusive environment and talks about it and is a victim and cared for with sympathy.

[provokeesmokee]

Nah, usually a dude being depressed and taking meds turns into a red flag because after he gets a girlfriend he'll stop taking meds because he thinks a relationship is the real medicine.

But frankly I would hesitate to date someone depressed and on meds again. I dated two men with this: the first took so much time to get on meds despite being an advocate for mental health, and the second did exactly what I outlined above.

I'm fortunate in that I only have GAD, but I'd rather date someone medicating and controlling their anxiety than someone with depression. The energy is so different and depression doesn't work well with what I need to maintain my health.

It'd be unfair to expect a depressed person to be able to date me. We'd both end up worse off over time.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You and I have very different environments because that’s not shamed in my social circles. “Flaws” that would be considered red flags in my circles are usually either the things that get women killed if they act in ignorance, or the things that indicate clashing personality types. I guess in that case, being medically depressed could be a red flag if only for someone that doesn’t believe in taking pills for neurological disorders but I can’t think of much else otherwise.

[Anonymous]

I do not accept women who have defects that I consider important, for example, I do not accept fat or ugly women, or who measure less than 161 centimeters.

[CrimsonAngel09]

Wow, aren't you going to be single for being so picky.

[CrimsonAngel09]

Might as well kill all of us who aren't up to model standards.

[Opinion Owner]

It's most likely, but I'm not worried about staying single, I have more important things to do.

[msc545]

Women get sympathy; Men get distain and shame.

[haana]

i wouldn’t mind but he need to know that i’m not responsible to heal his past trauma. Admit that he has problem and go seek help. He can share his feelings and i can be a good listener. It will be problematic when he stop his meds, lay everything on me

[leahzrc]

I always have empathy for people who take medication and have trauma

[Billlewis]

Because they have the advantage of being more sought after than guys are.

[CrimsonAngel09]

Biggest red flag is the guy in the comments who think you have to look like a model.

[BarryLiverstone]

Just because we have empathy for someone doesn’t make them attractive.