Double standards: why can't women take rejection yet expect men to?

Question

I've seen post here from women stating, " he told me to fuck off. Does he like me? I keep calling, but he won't answer. " If the shoe were on the other foot, women would be hollering harassment. So why is it okay for women to stalk and harrass men after they've clearly shown you or told you they're not interested?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because most women are selfish people , and they don’t really know what they want in life , a girl can find a great guy that treats her like gold and gives her the love that she craves, and deserves but the second she get’s bored or things don’t go her way , she will be turned off and start treating him like he doesn’t matter , leaving him with a question mark as to WTF did he do wrong , the intimacy and affection fades and she starts using it as a weapon to get her way , so he starts losing respect for her as well , main reason why most guy’s will cheat , most girl’s have the grass is greener syndrome in them , she compares her life constantly to others,, she will start prioritizing everyone else but her partner , when her partner finally gets the balls to walk away from her and puts her in her place , or he cheats on her , she will act like she is this victim all of a sudden that how dare he leave me , I was the best thing ever to him and she will latch onto her toxic friends that are telling her everything she wants to hear to make herself feel better about herself , filling her head with, oh fuck him , he doesn’t deserve you anyway , you can find a better man , sadly she already had a better man that she can’t admit she ducked up with , her selfishness is what made her lose that better man , I am not saying all girls do this, but a majority of them do , Most girl’s need constant validation , she thinks it’s ok for her to go flirt with other men but the second her partner talks to another girl, she automatically assumes he is cheating on her. I have experienced this shit to many times with girls and I now understand why most guy’s don’t want a committed relationship with a girl , cuz she sadly is never satisfied , It doesn’t take a lot to keep us guys happy but to keep a girl happy , Good luck with that shit

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Okay not all people are like this. Yes it’s harassment. There is men and women who can’t take no for a answer and both men and women with double standards.

I don’t know why some people are double minded the way they are. I think it’s narcissism.

If someone says no, stop, or ignores you. Leave them alone…. Besides. There is people who are actually interested in you.

Most the time when someone is ignoring someone or says stop or no. They aren’t playing.

Even people who are playing games. Why play games? When there is people who will actually show interest

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

It’s because women generally are more pickier and choosier sex.

We don’t usually hear no as an answer from a man, it’s men who need us to reproduce, because we can literally take the sexiest man in the world and have a child with him if we wanted so.

That’s just a man’s mind.

If I wanted to have a child right at this moment, I am sure I’d find a sexy lad to help me with this.

That’s not the point with men though, they don’t get so picky when it’s about sex, let’s be honest gentlemen.

Boomchakalaca · Accepted Answer

Good question. I think if most guys like that
Girl, then she gets used to that feeling. That feeling that every guy wants her. If the gal decides to ask someone out and the guy decline, it can be disheartening to know that somebody dosent want them. Well, itll drive the girl crazy and she may reassure herself by thinking he's secretly gay 😂

ManOnFire · Answer

Women want to be chased and desired, and a lot of their sense of self-worth is rooted in being desired. When women get attention and have men after her, it makes her ultimately feel like all the power and control is in her hands, and it will also motivate her to be cruel to guys she knows are crazy about her i. e. trying to manipulate him, breadcrumb him, ignore his texts to give him anxiety or hurt him, etc. So when that doesn't happen, a woman's ego is usually broken by a man not being into her.

You also make an excellent point about if a guy were to keep calling or texting she would take it as harassment or predatory behavior, but she never thinks like that when she's doing it.

RealMarek · Answer

I think there are a couple reasons for this. Throughout all of Western history the norm was for men to pursue women and women to select or reject men. If a woman wanted to be with a man, to maintain propriety she either had to catch his attention so he would pursue her or use intermediaries to urge him to pursue her. So women are simply not used to pursuing men and dealing with rejection.

For the different scenario of “hooking up” or having casual sex, women usually have few rejections if they are offering. If a man declines it can upset women greatly. This, combined with the fact that women were generally not the ones to approach until very recently, makes it difficult for many women to process rejection.

ARC1092 · Answer

The women who act like this have what I call "Chronic Princess Syndrome". When growing up, they were rarely, if ever, told no. So as an adult, they can't process the idea of anyone, especially a man, ever telling them "no" or turning them down.

In addition to this, there is a false belief in our society that men are ready and willing to jump into a relationship whenever a woman wants to. This idea is simply not true; some of us men have things in our lives that take a higher priority than finding and being in a romantic relationship.

Kaamraj · Answer

Life is full of double standards, the biological reality is unfairness. Men and women are both different have different roles in the sexual markeplace and cannot be equated. Rejection is far more painful for women as sexuality is a woman's primary agency. Denying that is like denying her existence. A converse situation would be to call a man incompetent in his career or job.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Hehehe... I've thought that a few times when reading some questions on here. Like: is it okay if I text me ex to say that I miss him? Will he take me back even though he's blocked me on all forms of contact?

I'm thinking...

convo_king89 · Answer

women don’t have to work to get laid, so it’s a given, plus women have to put on makeup and wear tight clothes to show off your body to entertain us and get us to want it. So when it. Back fires.. there’s. Confusion.. but women are also seen as helpless and vulnerable meaning it’s them they will get screwed when they get knocked up and we have our t levels to over power

kellytheman · Answer

Well I feel women might take it more personally and are more sensitive about it that makes them a little crazy. They want something they can't have that makes taking rejection hard. Us guys just take it okay she's not interested or has a boyfriend then we go onto the the next girl we are attracted to. Also I think men do need to be a little nicer when they reject a woman even though women are the same way.

Bricealan · Answer

I never did approach girls/women, as I never wanted to go through the cat/mouse game. If a woman is interested in you, she will let you know, and that has been my way of doing things. Why get turned down and hurt?

LiamJHayden · Answer

Speaking only for myself, I invest very little before approaching so I am accustomed to rejection and it is no real loss. Most people invest a lot of time and energy, so for them rejection is a big frustration.

MementoMori777 · Answer

It's just the way it is I guess, it's comforting to know some women can see it tho lol

spartan55 · Answer

Women typically avoid even the chance of being rejected.

Emmahkhan · Answer

Every woman is not the same, yes, but the one who is egoistic and finds it difficult to digest rejection.

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Nobody is great at handling rejection. It's human nature it hurts.

RavVid · Answer

Yes it is a gross double standard - they certainly don't take it well.

TomMarks · Answer

That’s a good question, I don’t understand that either.

Guardian45 · Answer

LOL! I know, right? Rest easy neither sex had the upper hand. Women are from Venus. Men are from Mars.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Probably not used to asking out to begin with. It's rather ridiculous.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably because for all time men have to be the ones to pursue and ask the woman out and be the ones to go after the woman

Anonymous · Answer

They have smaller brains and bigger egos pretty much the definition of stupidity, very dangerous

Monalisa77 · Answer

Maybe more complicated than u think

tzdc21 · Answer

Because nobody gives a damn about men.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I dunno but it's annoying af.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I just think they can't make their minds up

Friendlybro79 · Answer

It's not ok. No one said it was.

AliSulayman · Answer

It has to do with Stereotypes

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