Why my boyfriend wants to move when we have no money?

[NicoleM300]

My boyfriend wants to move with me to apartments but we can hardly afford to help ourselves. I keep telling him we need to save up our money first before we move, but he keeps thinking we can move just based of income. We are Christian and yes you can pray to God about everything but God isn't some magic genie we can demand things from. I keep explaining but he doesn't get it.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think he needs to get his head out of the clouds and back to reality. If you can't afford the place then the money is not magically going to appear to make it all better.

The usual approach is, you wait till you can afford it, then you make the jump up.

[NicoleM300]

Yeah I told him, and he keeps bringing it up like we have money.

[NicoleM300]

I'm looking at other jobs, because I work at a grocery store and he works for UPS.

[OfMiceandMen]

Sometimes you have to know your limits and if not satisfied do something about it. If it's anything like it is here in the US, there are lots of jobs available and they are just looking for someone reliable to fill the positions. It's a great time to be looking to upgrade.

[roy_ricky09]

Well to be honest. If you guys think you have future, sure go ahead. It will either make things happen for you guys financially and relationship wise. But if you keep delaying it, you'd never know how it turns out.
What would happen is that it will bring in responsibility, maturity and will bring in more money

[NicoleM300]

We don't have a whole lot of money so I feel we might not qualify, even for low income housing. We tried once but for some reason he could get low income but I couldn't and I make less than he does.

[roy_ricky09]

Change of careers

[NicoleM300]

Yeah I work at a grocery store, and he works for UPS package handling, we both kind of have some sort of learning issues, so we're having problems communicating what we actually mean.

[roy_ricky09]

I'm confused here. What's keeping you guys in a relationship? No offence.

[roy_ricky09]

Couldn't DM you

[NicoleM300]

I am with him because we have some chemistry, but we are not always understanding each other as far as when we talk to each other. I want to move forward and move in with him, but I have looked online at apartments, and I know we can't afford most of the apartments here in California. I know there are other states we might find more affordable housing. Most places are pretty pricy and he's not understanding because he doesn't have the internet to look at apartments. com or some of those websites.

[roy_ricky09]

DM...

[roy_ricky09]

Follow back

[Anonymous]

Praying to god won't pay the bills. You need a reality check.

[NicoleM300]

No I am not talking about me not getting it but my boyfriend doesn't get it.

[NicoleM300]

I told him money and an apartment don't just appear out of thin air you got to either save money or get another job.

[bowenw]

I suggest telling him you are ready to move if he can explain how he proposes to pay for it.

[jahaims]

He is stupid