Have you ever tested the opposite gender by sending your worst photos to see if they could still accept you?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

it's bad to do this. I used to think that I had to show alllll my flaws so that I would know for sure someone loved me how I am and no unpleasant surprises.. but as it goes I learned from experience don't show your bad things, if they notice on their own let it be, but don't put it out there because what they might have never noticed will suddenly become noticeable all the time. All the girls I know always putting their best selves and I used to see it as fake but the guys love them for that all while saying they prefer natural and blah blah but if you don't say it, expose it, they just go for it and when you explode your real natural self they will feel less and less attracted to you and will continue to feel attracted to the other fake girls who don't put their worst up because to them in their eyes all that fairness is real natural lol

say what you want and disagree but it's true.

wolfcat87 · Accepted Answer

That seems excessive. When looking for a relationship, I've found it's better to start casual with little to no makeup so they like me for me. After we've been together nearly a year I start dressing up a lot and rewarding them for being mine.

Dressing up a lot just attracts more shallow men looking for sex and not more quality men looking for love and marriage. If a mans first reaction when he sees you is sexual, then he's not thinking about you as a person but a sexual object. It's lust and unlikely to ever turn into love.

I dated both ways, and the casual look was best. Got both of my husbands that way and have been with them nearly 17 years and 10 years. They've seen me at my best and at my worst and are happy either way.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

I’ve done that a few times, purposely sending a shitty photo of myself. The camera’s from below so it sees my double chin and square jaw, my hair is short, I’m not smiling, etc.

I usually get asked if I’m a guy before they ghost me lmao

yakumo · Accepted Answer

As a guy, I would not want to tested or played around with. I prefer honesty. If you are insecure about yourself please talk about it with honesty. That should go both ways too. It is hard to have a long term relationship playing silly games without honesty.

PizzaDaddyo · Accepted Answer

Men… No.
Real Men, don’t have the need to “test” their prey. They go for the kill and execute, or stay hungry.

Nothing crazy if you wanna do that, do you. I just don’t think that would be my style.

Sonorous · Answer

Yeah always. But mainly because I can look like a 3/10 or a 6/10 depending on the angle 🤣 my face is not very consistence. I have a good bit of asymmetry & disharmony.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

That sounds like a goofy plan.

silvermoon84 · Answer

I did this one time. I didn’t have a full body picture on my dating app, but I had my measurements put in my profile (my exact words were “I’m 5’6” and 220 pounds. I’m down about 30 pounds since last year and trying to lose more weight but if you don’t want to date me because of my weight, just move on”. This guy clearly didn’t read the profile like I assumed he did, messaged me because he liked my headshots. We had a great conversation and then he asked “why don’t you have a picture of your figure in your profile”? I knew what he was getting at, and I told him my measurements and mentioned that it was in my profile. His response was a shocked face emoji, calling me a dishonest fat ass bitch, accusing me of lying about my weight by not including a full body picture because he doesn’t “waste his time reading the profile”, etc. I’m not shaming guys who aren’t attracted to big women but no need to be an asshole about it. Just say “no thanks”, wish me well and (if you’re wary of my response) block me instead of all the insults. So I did some digging and found a full body picture of me when I was at my heaviest. I put it as my profile picture and that was also a mistake because what I got was a lot of feeders telling me to stop hitting the gym and eat more because apparently I needed to get bigger in order for them to find me attractive. It’s fine to be attracted to big women but you see in the profile that I want to lose weight and get fit, move on and don’t try to change me. After that I just had normal pictures of me. I still kept the full body pic from my heaviest up but it’s no longer the main picture, and then I was no longer being body shamed or attracting feeders.

smne35 · Answer

Well I'm not sure if it was my worst to me all of them are, I never saw myself as photogenic when the camera came out so was I, outta there, look at any of my school year book probably see a stickman where my photo show be, I don't mess around with those dating sites anyone, too many scammers and fake profiles so it's up to fate I find someone

TallSlim90 · Answer

I met my boyfriend at Starbucks with my curls all over my head unkempt with sweats and a tank top. I got tired of dressing up for people that never went anywhere. He said i didn’t look too bad and if that’s what i looked like at my worst, I’m not bad. We’ve been together for almost 7 years lol

WhereIsMyMind · Answer

I haven't sent photos, but I've shown what I believed to be my 'flaws' to a partner to see their reaction.

Angxl3120 · Answer

I did that to my ex boyfriend, his reaction made my day better. (When he was my boyfriend)

molonski2 · Answer

I'd never do that , and I don't believe the thinking behind it , makes zero sense , I like correct presentation , and I expect the same , I've always received it , hate sloppy , its self respect.

FreyaRed · Answer

Nope. This one of the shit tests that proves nothing. Perception of a person about you isn't based on some unfortunate photos as long as your relationship isn't some pointless LDR

ColinPeters · Answer

When it comes to finding a soul mate, why would you shoot yourself in the foot by painting yourself in a negative light?

If you believe guys are only after you for your looks, then change your approach. A great way of doing this might be to meet with someone via a hobby rather than social media/dating apps

natured · Answer

No, I wouldn't even think about doing something like this... It's a little weird and why testing people like that? Just don't... be yourself all the way

BullShark · Answer

I mean, unless you're a 10/10 in looks and get compliments from everyone on the daily, I don't see why anyone would want to sent the opposite gender bad pics of themselves

BadApple69 · Answer

I said yes because all my pictures are the worst. I just never look good in pictures. So yes I send bad pictures and if they want to meet me anyway they are normally happily surprised.

HaleyCatgirl · Answer

I never even thought about doing that mostly cuz I like taking selfies a lot I have like a thousand selfies plus I have a lot with my friends so I have those memories :3

Dinklex3 · Answer

I mean… They already know what we look like 😅 I don’t see how sending an unflattering pic does anything. I’ve sent them just to be silly, there’s nothing new to accept.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have done that out of frustration, but it didn't help at all.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Once the "feelings" passed, all the Chemistry/Attraction faded away, then i wouldn't even get my mind back at it, is not worth it...🤷‍♂️

VanityFair888 · Answer

Tbh I had several cases when I sent my best selfie and several guys assumed I was transgender, got angry and blocked me

DubiousIntentions · Answer

once, and they said WTF?

Bricealan · Answer

Never been on a dating app (per se) but have had some really nice experiences with girls I met randomly.

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