Do you hold grudges or do you let go of things easily?

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Wallythewalrus2 · Accepted Answer

Well, I’m gonna start sexting with a perverse, disgusting looking woman that I was going to originally give both barrels too, for being a disgusting pervert to my friend. What does that tell you?

Worst · Accepted Answer

Holding grudges is a waste of energy, energy i don't have lol... I'm very easy going for the most part

Sonorous · Answer

I like to say that I don't hate people, I just hate certain behaviors. A similar thing applies with grudges. If someone wrongs me, yes I have to associate the wrongdoing with the person. And yeah I'll definitely not want to be around them. It will seem like a grudge but the association isn't finite. It can be completely altered if the behavior changes.

HawkPerception · Answer

Kinda hard for me to answer. I think I'm the type of person that let's things go pretty easily for the most part.

For example, if it's a fight with my family like mom or brother, I might get annoyed or angry in the moment, but after the fight ends, and I have my space to go into my own mind, I quickly remember how much I love them and all the reasons why and this is just a bump in the road. Then I'll try to apologize explaining why I acted the way I did and hope they understand.

For someone an acquaintance or someone I don't know too well, I tend to remember them for specific interaction. If they piss me off or make me angry, I do tend to hold a grudge and try to avoid them altogether, because I've decided their character sucks and they're not the type of person I'd get along with.

And finally for a partner, I'm in the middle. We tend to judge our partners the hardest, while also staying the most lenient with them and taking the most shit from them. If my partner makes me angry, I try to take my space for a bit then once I've calmed down I explain my thoughts on whatever they did. I'm a pretty logical guy, so while I am wrong sometimes my partners have told me I'm usually right and after they hear what I say they usually end up apologizing and saying they won't act that way in the future. And if I was the one that fucked up, and I come to realize that after taking my space, I fess up and admit my mistake.

In a relationship, communication and the desire to get through conflict is a must, because in most relationships, it's gonna happen. Can't just give up after every fight or something that irks you in that person.

Valdemort · Answer

Used to, but it honestly doesn't benefit anyone.
If something bothers me, I'll talk about it with that person.
If they aren't willing to acknowledge my feelings or if we cannot find a middle ground, I'll either let go of them, or keep my distance.
The only difficult case is with regards to family. Unfortunately there are some gaslighters in my family and I don't have the heart to break off contact, even when it would be better for my own mental health.
If there were any people I held a grudge against, they would be relatives.
Other than that I cannot think of anyone who deserves to occupy that much unwanted and detrimental time on my mind.
So yeah, I'll let go.

1ash-Silver · Answer

I think we need to redefine this "grudge" and say its the inabilty to trust someone based on a severe exploitation of a vulnerability and therefore you put a boundary in place to ensure that it may never happen again. I think I do hold something against someone after they do something horrible, I'm not someone that goes on about small things I'll let it slide , however, if you do something big enough to hurt me you'll remain in that position. I am very big on you NEVER do to me what I don't do to you.

etsylo · Answer

I don't know if I ever answered this, I haven't been on the app in a long while BUT!!

i don't hold grudges. well, not really. it honestly depends what it is. sometimes it will take me a few minutes to get over it while something big and horrible will take a year or so. otherwise, no. i don't really hold grudges. i try not to 💔

DJB72 · Answer

Holding a grudge is pointless. It's much more fun to watch them crap themselves after a fight when you're friendly towards them.

Giving someone who pissed you off a homemade favourite meal is great fun. Sometimes adding a secret ingredient can be entertaining as well...

Oregano, chilli flakes, eye Drops, whatever works for you 😉

abc3643 · Answer

Ask me after I am dead. 32 years ago, I got a broken heart and never recovered and it haunts me every fucking day.

Altheavas · Answer

Holding grudges it’s a waste of energy. I am not insecure, or have the need to feel like I need to prove myself to anyone.
Anyone who feel the need to prove themselves only reveal the insecurities they have within.
So I just live with no fuck given. it’s like ooh you were there, ohh you were about me, ooh you saw me, ooh all that efforts was tryna get my attention?
Who are you again? Okay! Good for you?

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Answer

Depends. I think they keep you young. My grandpa lived till 96 and that man held grudges. From 1937 when one of his buddies owed him five dollars. The crazy thing was the man died when they were in their 80s. You know my grandpa still brought it up he never got his five dollars or really not even a cent from whatever more money his buddy borrowed. This went into a whole diatribe of all the people that he felt did him wrong.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I don't... it eats too many resources needed for everyday life. I can be angry, hurt, pissed off... but after the initial peak of emotions, I try to move on.

I also can't say it's happening easily because it's not possible when emotions are involved.

RebelinSteel · Answer

I let go pretty easily, life is too short to hold grudges etc, yes I remain pissed off with some people but don’t hold grudges. I learn not to trust those people but that’s it.

Beckybooboo · Answer

I’m terrible at holding grudges. I can try but I have a hard time hating people. Lol..

NathanDavis · Answer

nope... I don't hold grudges, that would be harming myself... and I'm not into that, lol

Anonymous · Answer

I hold grudges, cause holding grudges is what let’s me know who is who, and what they’re about.

Im never letting shit go, and I’m never letting shit slide.

If anything I’ll save the proof of wrong doings online forever, so that I can use it as a weapon, or expose you in the future. 🫵

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I can hold a grudge extremely easily. Almost like a judgement from thereafter that this person is the worst... However I can drop one pretty quickly with a few good interactions assuming the person isn't a POS then I'll very easily hold it forever

Still-alive · Answer

I used to be like that but i've definitely improved. if anyone has seriously wronged me ill try to work it out but if they show no signs of wanting to improve im outta there. ill cut them out

jcampbell115 · Answer

I don't usually hold grudges. I'm someone that tends to get over things fairly quickly. But to be fair, if someone criticizes me for doing something, but that person did the exact same thing in the past, I'm going to point it out

molonski2 · Answer

Because I believe in Karma , I just let it go , I dont seek revenge or get angry as that only hurts the inner me , and I like feeling good , I won't seek out the individual or the like , but will just try and learn from the circumstance.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Depends what was done to me. I guess I tend to be stubborn if you hurt me, but regular things I am easy to forget.

thegreenyogi · Answer

I let go very easily. I don't forget but I don't hold onto grudges enough to not allow the anger take control.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

Depends. Most of the time I let that stuff go. There are a few people, however, that can comfortably reside on my shit list forever. Most transgressions are forgivable but some are not.

WhiteSteve · Answer

Disloyalty will get you fucked up and/or cut off. Other than that, I ain’t got time for grudges

sawno · Answer

Both, I let go of things pretty easily but if you do me wrong in a serious way ill also never forgive it.

Anonymous · Answer

I am jealous of your heart because it is pumping inside you, and I am not :(.

Cutegirl06 · Answer

I let things go kinda easy. It really depends on what it is though. If it something that someone does to my family then I hold a grudge definitely 💯

AviatorTom · Answer

I rarely hold a grudge. It's pointless, just eats at you. Better to put it in the past and move on.

Miristheiss · Answer

Maybe a little. I was always a bridge burner. If someone wrongs me I am just done and I leave... for life.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I think holding grudges are unhealthy, it’s best to forgive BUT don’t forget. Cause at the end of the day most people don’t change. Even though many people claim they do

Kaneki05 · Answer

I have a passion for holding grudges and if I can I will get revenge.

rosemilk · Answer

depends on what it is, but i usually struggle with letting things go lol

Paris13 · Answer

No Grudge Bearing But Then Again, Depending... Hard To Forget. xxoo

whereismyjohnny · Answer

I let go easily. Holding grudges is pointless and harmful.

exitseven · Answer

Most of the time I just let stuff go. It is hard to get on my list but once you are on it, you re probably on it forever.

AmeerX · Answer

Usually I don't but there is one person I have a score to settle. It's really not just one person but that group of mafia.  Other than that I don't hold grudges with anyone

lilBigPotato · Answer

Depending on what it is I can hold a grudge for a very long time...

fuddly · Answer

I hold grudges
But i think i forget
I'm emotional and act quickly
I sometimes say to myself
Cold, cold, serve revenge cold
But then i just forget
But at least i didn't allow my emotions to cause me to act in an obvious kind of way

Hawaiikai · Answer

I can hold grudges and not let them ruin my day or mess with my emotions. Basically moving on but if I see you in public and we have beef and you tell me hi I’ll simply ignore and just go about my way and be like “whatever”

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Fool me twice… But I will forgive for transgressions and trespasses if it’s wise to do so. Forgive, never forget.

nawtee_me · Answer

I let go of thing easily. Holding a grudge only really causes you the pain. Most of the time the other person doesn’t even know you are holding a grudge.

MrLoveLetter · Answer

I usually hold them permanently! I give them 1 chance without telling them to redeem themselves but if they don’t during that short period then they get cut off for good💯

nudeNhorny · Answer

I don't, I'm a hot-blooded, short-tempered person, I might lose my nerves and snap very quickly, but in few minutes it's like nothing happened at all, I let go easily.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I don't hold grudges, I let things go easily.

tzdc21 · Answer

Sometimes yes. Sometimes no. Depends on the situation

Fireguy17 · Answer

I try to let things pass. Some are easier to let go of than others.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Only on life threatening situations believe is entitled to grudges. lol

bowenw · Answer

Depends on the circumstances. Usually I don't.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I let go easily but will avoid a person over something to prevent it happening again.

AydenHazor · Answer

If something was done to me, I typically let go of it pretty easily. If you did something to someone I care about, that's a grudge I will hold onto

Sparkie460 · Answer

I'm an easy going guy but when someone crosses the line, there's no going back. I definitely hold a grudge. If someone wrongs me, they are dead to me

Yoursweetgirl · Answer

I try not to, but I can hold grudges for like years

MysticDevice · Answer

I hold grudges. Sometimes pretty long depending on the situation.

Djaay · Answer

No way do i hold grudges. I don't let the other person have the power over me like that. Forgive and move on.

SunnyRS · Answer

I don't hold grudges, but I don't let go either, instead I would let go of them.  I mean I don't hate them I just want to trust them again.

admles · Answer

With the exception of my wife, I hold grudges against people for a long time mostly.

legalboxers · Answer

I shrug it off. but when its a constant then I will hold it

scooogy · Answer

I only let go of things easily when my enemies hang off a cliff. ☺️

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

depends on how grudges is being used. i can hold grudges, but not really.

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

Sometimes I hold grudges. If it is bad, it is for life.

Jerre · Answer

I can’t remember the last time I had a grudge. I just let them pass.

standardguy · Answer

Well in fact I am a person with low grudge and easy to forgive. Women hold more grudges, even after they have had the opportunity to punish the boyfriend/husband and have done so.

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