Do you hold a grudge easily?

[Jaimie2001]

so i try to be forgiving, no matter how much someone can do me wrong. but it just hurts though to know that someone who you trusted and care about so much could hurt you and have no remorse what’s so ever. I know not everyone has good intentions tho. I just wish I could have some my friendships back even though some of them might have faking them tbh.

[Mark_C]

One of the biggest things I have to remember is that we are all capable of hurting others whether it's intentional or not and it often causes more pain for ourselves to hold on to negative things that other people have done to us. It takes a little time but letting go of a grudge or anger towards someone can really lift a lot of weight from your mind and make you feel better. Plus it offers the person a second chance of starting over or mending the relationship if you so choose to want that. Maybe the other person has realized whatever bad thing they've done and are too scared or nervous to feel comfortable facing you after the fact.

There are many reasons to hold on to a grudge but the best reason for letting one go is the freeing feeling for your own mental health. Plus it helps with interpersonal communication and maintaining friendships. We're all going to be that person who does something bad at some point so forgive and let go for others so they can learn to do the same in their lives.

[tenukitanuki]

This is a trial. Your demon wants blood and your better half would let it. The magic trick would be inventing pure justice that doesn't overstep boundaries. That's why it's magic. But if you can digest these pains they will make you grow. Not an easy pill to swallow, I know.

Your devil can hold a grudge forever. It can think of horrible torture for retribution. But aren't you better now having been freed from their lies and fakery? Even if you miss the comfort of what you're imagining, are you still not better now-- seeing these things for what they are? It's a new pig year, shake off your dead skin and come outside and see what there is to see. Just watch out for snakepeople this time.

[jennifer_bloom]

I find I'm more of an opportunist than a judge when it comes to holding grudges - most of the people I hold grudges against are those who violated my interests and very few are those who did things that caused me to lose respect for them and view them as socially inferior to those who didn't offend me. However - I try to be objective and to not hate those who violated my interest if they didn't do things that are malicious or hateful - as an example - I would not hate the girl who is dating the guy I like since she did not act maliciously when she attracted the man I want.

[Sheyhoney]

Not really. I've tried but I can't do that. I forgive easily, but that person won't have the same place in my life anymore and at that point, why should I bother my time and energy holding a grudge and only hurting myself for someone that isn't worth it?
I honestly just do me and when that person sees that, it makes them feel even worse.

[brendon76]

No I don’t believe in holding grudges. Life is too short to stay mad. I typically get over being mad in a couple hours. But of course those are minor things. If someone did something more heinous like cheated on me, I wouldn’t be so quick to forgive but at the same time it would be over and I’d move on so again no reason to hold a grudge.

[ItalianGuy2020]

I hold a grudge but only to a point because if you let that grudge consume you it can actually lead to the kind of anxiety that can lead to dying so when it comes to people who I am done with and have done me wrong I will not associate with them I will hang up if they call me but after that I let it go and leave it out of my head.

[MarkRet]

I used to, but as the decades have gone by, I've left a lot of my grudges go. There's only a couple of them that I still have, and those were bullies who were repeatedly cruel to me, and left a deep impact. I heard one of them died about 5 years ago, and I hope he's being tormented in hell.

[Grobmate]

This will happen a lot through life and I offer the following advice. Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting.

Forgiveness is for you so you can heal the hurt. It is not for the other person.

Anger is like ingesting poison and expecting the other person to die. Forgive and let it go. Move on.

But never forget. Once bitten twice shy. And do not seek revenge or be vindictive. You need to be stronger than your emotions. An eye for an eye creates a blind world.

[asianfreak]

Never. I’m quick to forgive, but slow to trust again. And I also never forget... without letting it occupy my mind all day, every day. And in some situations, it’s better off to permanently cut off the relationship with the person who hurt you.

[LuvAsh]

Nah that's too much work for me. However, It does depend on the situation but usually, i get over things easily

[savalisk]

I'm a very forgiving and understanding person. If I ever hold a grudge against someone, you can be hella sure I despise their very existence and it'll be damn near impossible for them to un-fuck themselves.

[lookin4fun082]

No I don't really bear grudges I'd be pissed with them for a bit, but it's not like I'm going to take them out later on in life!! I just wouldn't really talk to them maybe just say hi if I saw them on the street.

[Shygirl666]

Yes. I'm actually the type of person that would remember every fucked up thing that someone has ever done to me and hate them forever. In my eyes, if you ever mistreat me, you're evil and always will be to me.

[parkerlesueur45]

Ya but it’ll go away like always. I’m a nice guy so when someone wrongs me I usually don’t think about it for more than 3-7 days

[z3lda]

I'm actually really good at forgiving people. So I usually don't hold a grudge about anything. It's also a problem though because I forgive people who I probably shouldn't be forgiving.

[bente2]

I’m a scorpio. Holding grudges is like a personality trait for me... I try to forgive but people always let me down.

[DDpsy]

I don't develop a grudge easily offline and one must be quite malicious towards me for me to get realy pissed. When I do though I can say there are persons that I haven't seen in 20 years that should pray they never cross my path again.

[Nivinxus]

Not really. I find it too troublesome and it often gives me no benefit, no matter where I go with it.

[TsundereMatrix]

I’m naturally a forgiving person but there’s something’s that make it hard for me to do so.

[DizzyDesii]

I do hold grudges easily. Like i’ll take you back but not trust you again

[Liam_Hayden]

No. I have no grudges. I think it would take something really drastic for me to do so, like killing someone I know.

[Desconhecida]

I guess...
However I tend to let go after a tiny and nice revenge...😈

[Anonymous]

I hold on forever. I still plot revenge in my mind against bullies from jr. high/high school. They haven't sufficiently paid for their actions. I want to make sure that they pay before they die...

[dtweed96]

No I forgive and forget so easily besides life is mostly pointless to me anyways

[ForbesMagazine]

Yes, I don't forgive and people are on my list forever.

[lsjr16]

No cause why give someone that energy it is better to forgive but not forget

[naijagurl]

Nope. I always forgive.

[WhereAmI]

Nah. wasted energy in my opinion

[mysteriousmoon]

Yeah it’s one of the things I hate about myself

[Kaneki05]

Simple answer yes i do.

[courtney06]

Yea I do, been trying to change that

[Paris13]

No Grudge Bearer... xxoo

[young_old_soul]

I hold grudges for life.

[gothgirl997]

No
I forgive and forget very easily

[Under_Maps_OF_twigs]

Depends what was done and why.

[NovissimumVirorum]

I have a grudge against the world

[Anonymous]

I do especially when I get rejected

[Opinion Owner]

Being totally honest

[ivanhunterjo]

yes, I can hold a grudge for life

[Logorithim]

Nope

[DECENTSCOTTISHLAD999]

Nope never