Well , I'm already here , I'm actually just turned 63 .
I'm here in the warm climate of Thailand Hua Hin , I'm probably healthier and fitter than probably I expected ( say in my 20s ) , its pretty dam good , the only problems I get are out of Australia , the stress comes only from there.
A key thought always is , I was 17 years old , just about to turn 18 , NYE weekend in country Victoria 4 or 5 days I think , so inexperienced , we caught the train ( 7 Hours ) 3 Boys , 1 had just turned 18 ( he could buy the beer ) , I remember a worldly young girl 15 ( haha ) , being infatuated with me , kissing me , coming to my tent , playing around in the pool. Of those 3 young boys , I'm the only one above ground.
Could I have envisaged all that has happened and being in Hua Hin 7 years? Probably not , couldn't even imagine , didn't know anything about Asia in 1978 , except for the odd golf pro , it was a long way away.
So , my point is , Dream Big , coz absolutely anything can happen , and in 20 / 40 years? Sht , who knows? Its actually really great being 63 and in this Nik , but health must be your No 1 , if unhealthily , Obese , eating shit , you will just feel sht too , so all that needs to start in youth.
I'm hoping to retire not long after at 65 with enough money saved and a pension to try my hand at becoming an indie game developer. That's actually how I started when I was younger was being an indie game developer, but I switched to the computer graphics industry after university.
Also it's difficult for me to imagine my wife not being by my side. I have this funny image always where we're sitting on a rocking bench and I say, "Look what I can do!" and try to backflip off the bench and hurt myself because I've grown too old.
Judging by the way the world is now, we'll be lucky if we get to 2025...
But yes, I would love to be a 60 year old one day. I imagine myself living perhaps in my country, with a nice group of friends, my own house and if I'm lucky enough with a family.
Well. I'm pretty sure we're not on the same country. However, I still believe that all countries have reasons to be worried. And I'm not talking about Russia only.
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Which countries do you mean? Are you Norwegian, Finnish or Polish?
@AngryCarl I used dating sites and had no problem getting dates. They were nice ladies. Most of them (not all) were fairly eager to have sex as soon as they got to know me. I only dated one at a time and I was really looking for a long term partner. In December 2020, I met her.
I've always had mixed thoughts about online dating but it seems more palatable to me when people are older and more mature and know exactly what they want.
@GuyAnswersGirls123 Online is just a way to meet more people than you would otherwise. Once you talk once or twice, it's time to meet in person, and then it's just like traditional dating.
Some of my allergy to it might be because here in Japan, the conventional way to date is to date people we already know really well like classmates, colleagues, friends, members of the same community.
For example, I hear a lot of young guys complain these days about being exploited on a date where the woman used them like ATM machines, ordering the most expense dinner and drinks and then ghosting them after. And women being exploited for their bodies, like a man who expects her to sleep with him just because he bought her dinner.
With this type of dating we have traditionally in Japan, there isn't that risk typically because we traditionally date only people we know from a shared community of people who can vouch for each other's good character.
@molonski2 The last year of the marriage, she changed her mind about wanting a divorce at least six or seven times. When we finally got a divorce, it was a relief. Dating was very easy for me at that point in life. I was still healthy, active, and I had many of the qualities that older women want in a man. First dates were easy to get and when I wanted a second date, the answer was usually yes. I was surprised at how much easier it was, but in retrospect, I have become more confident as I became older and that is a big factor with women.
@OlderAndWiser , so glad it worked out bro , nothing worse than uncertainty you had with your ex , sounds like she was all over the shop so it was a relief. I think dating at our time of life is easier , especially if you are in decent nik , as there are not that many decent men available ( I'm 63 by the way ) . Glad you found a nice one , like the sound of the Asian influence too , I like that determination and influence.
Understand , I live in Thailand but have also had some Chinese girlfriends I know the drill , plus my last project in Australia ( all Chinese ) .. Will say this ( and not remotely directed at your situation ) , a mate in North Carolina , can honestly say in my opinion , Chinese ( now wife - 2 kids ) literally saved the guy from his own self destruction , been together 25 years now - Incredible turn around , she saw the good side and potential.
Heading off to church. My kids are grown and my career has settled down to getting to the finish line in 10 to 15 years and to a comfortable retirement, unless Democrats fukk it up even further. The retirement age for Social Security will be 70-75, so I should have decent retirement savings.
Only 3 years away from that and I donāt see much charging until 67 or 70 when I retire and live somewhere affordable, hopefully something will change for the better and I wonāt need to wait so long
Work hard for many years earning money, buying a house and then working some more, I am able to retire by 60 so then I will retire at 60 and enjoy my life at home š
60? Let me see... fretting over Brexit and inflation. No change there then.
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Honestly, the sky's the limit. If you asked me 5 years ago, I probably would have told you that there would be a good chance that I would have killed myself before then.
A house that isn't attached to another house. In the UK most houses were built in terraces, just a long line of houses all down the street with no spaces in between. Cheaper that way.
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