If your partner was pregnant and she wanted to name it after her ex boyfriend or your ex girlfriend, is that a dealbreaker?

[TenderFantasy]

Deal breaker or not?

[Finchie40]

Yea that would be pretty messed up and disrespectful to be honest , people that hold on to their exes like they were this amazing person in their life , is someone that shouldn’t be pursuing another relationship with anyone else period , because they are clearly not over their ex , they are holding onto something, that should of been exempted from their life way before they pursued someone else , for the most part , we will always have memories of someone from our past but those memories should be buried away to show respect and love to your now current partner. , I dated a girl that had her exes name Tatted on her ass , An ex that she talked a lot about to me , I told her it’s a turn off to me that she constantly brings up her ex and it’s a turn off that she has his name on her ass , she said he is right where he belongs , I laughed at her remark , but I thought to myself , how would she feel if I had my ex girlfriend’s name tatted on me? that I constantly talked about , I told her the truth the only way I can take our relationship serious is if she got the tatt removed out of respect for our relationship, and that she stops talking about her ex like he was this amazing person , because I would so do the same for her , if it was the other way around , she said no , I am not removing his name , I said that’s ok , I am not committing to you either , thanks for a good time but not a long time and ended it with her.

[CozyCoffin]

I think it's just a little weird to name OUR baby after HER ex-boyfriend or MY ex-girlfriend. Us both agreeing on the name should be the ONLY consideration for the kid. We should each propose hundreds of names, all with the understanding that the other has full veto power.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. "If your partner was pregnant. . ." It would be a miracle, because she is 60 years old.

2. "and she wanted to name it" A baby is not an "it."

3. "after her ex boyfriend" I would have her committed to an asylum. She and I have been together for 3½ years.

4. "or your ex girlfriend," I never talk about my exes other than my ex-wife and I have been divorced for 9 years. I'm not sure she even knows my ex-wife's name.

5. "is that a dealbreaker?" If she was that crazy, we would not be engaged.

[TenderFantasy]

"A baby is not an "it."" It is, especially if you don't know the sex yet and it's still in the very early stages where the likelihood of a misscarriage is high depending on the type of embryo or fetus (it's health) and the health of the mother.

[OlderAndWiser]

I would not refer to any human as "it."

[TenderFantasy]

That's the thing @OlderAndWiser, people differ on what they consider a "human" when in the womb. It depends on the gestational age. Some pro-lifers would consider a yoke sac which is the zygote or very early stage of the fetus to already be a "human". Basically they are "human" at conception under their eyes. Pro abortionists on the other hand, would just say they were only a clump of cells.

[JustinTheGreat]

Yeah that’s weird.

its apparently common cause I hear a lot of stories about it

[Apple1996]

Yeah that'd be a big dealbreaker

[smne35]

What do they have to do with it? Unless it's her ex's baby. But if it ain't he ain't going to be nowhere near having input with naming of my kid or his ass going to be near my kid or anywhere around my kid. He's going to be named after me if it's a boy and somewhere around you my wife If it's a girl, it's simple as far as the exes, they don't even come into the picture. They don't even make it near the camera so X them out. That's why they call X so you can X them out of your life. Not around to name our kid after them. Your wife start calling your little baby. Come here little Ricky, You're like Little Ricky who's that? Oh that's my ex's name really well. You better call Big Ricky and tell him to start putting something on these damn pampers if my kid is going to have his damn name and some formulas too while he's at it and since he won't naming rights he might as well set up a college fund too

[integrale77]

It's going to lead to an argument but any reasonable person is going to understand that's a bad idea.

Your both planning to bring a child into the world so you both want a good experience.

So not a "deal breaker" as it shouldn't be a relationship ending discussion and you have 9 1/2 months to make final decisions.

Only strange situation with children's names I've encountered was a work colleague who's name was Chris but his Dad wanted to call him Billy and was that stuck in his ways did call him Billy which created a strange situation that he had groups of people who knew him as Billy , some as Chris and others who knew the story and went with the majority.

[Kaneki05]

The baby it's self is more the problem lol.
But as to the situation I would imagine they have a good reason, like it was there first love. In that case I wouldn't mind.
Like if I called my daughter grace based on my 1st love I don't see how that's a bad thing. No different if one named their child on a friend you used to know.

Now if it was the very recent ex that's still fresh and whatever that's weird. But hey one also is having a baby with a girl right while her previous ex is fresh so you tell me who the idiot is here lol.

[Anonymous]

If the baby was the ex's... let's assume the guy died... and then we met and it worked really quickly... it might be ok, if he was a good enough guy. It'd be different than if the baby was mine and hers. I think I would stay away from certain names, sure. Naming him or her after an ex, even like if it changed slightly, like a Patricia to a Patrick... depends partly how I felt about the ex. I'd explain it. But yes, it'd be weird if she named a baby after her ex, too. There's other names I'd have a problem with, too. I hope she'd listen as much as I would with her on suggestions. There'd be a lot of names off the list, but there's still a lot of good choices where she wouldn't HAVE to name the kid after an ex.

[IslaTheWitch]

It happens if the relationship stays warm in the memory.

My first boyfriend named his daughter after me. Did his wife oppose? No. She liked the names and the story behind them.

It wouldn't be a deal breaker for me if my man wanted to name our child after his ex.

[TenderFantasy]

It would be kind of sad in my opinion as it would be a constant reminder of what didn't work out.

[aceleon]

my ex? there is no one like that but sure if there was any.

her ex? hell no, let's asume i would be together with a girl who had an ex in the first place let alone marry and make a child with her, naming after her ex? thisisjust another level cuckery.

[Saiesh30]

Wise to not have kids to avoid such a messed up situation lol 😂
I mean, hell no haha. If you love your ex so much then go make kids with your ex haha. Spare me the horror. Don't spoil my rest of the life 😅

[Sour-rose]

Not a deal breaker, concerning but not a deal breaker. I would be highly concerned because da helll... why you thinkin' about a bitch when I will stab a mofo if they dare break your heart? 🙃

[BoopBoopBeep]

If it was her fallen ex who died saving their rescue kittens from a fire, I'd let it slide. Anything short of that and she musta bumped her head because she's thinking crazy thoughts.

[PeachyPie93]

Yes, that would be weird and I would instantly think I made a mistake by being pregnant by this person obsessed with their ex lol.

[NathanDavis]

my high-school ex-girlfriend named her first boy after me... lol

I said, that's weird AF

nowadays, is just not... lol

[Drumlin2001]

Yeah it would be a major argument. Luckily me and OH agreed in baby names pretty easily.
Naming a kid after an ex is just sick

[naartjie]

Why’s this even a question. The man would be dead if he ever dared to even think about that.

[LiamJHayden]

Since I am congenitally sterile, her being pregnant would be a deal breaker. I do know a lady who named her daughter McKenna after her ex husband Kenneth and the baby daddy dumped her over it.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Lmao I almost named my baby the name of the old lady my ex cheated on me with during pregnancy…. When I found out I was livid and after that day I definitely stopped loving him.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Yes, it’s a dealbreaker

[Anpu23]

Are they still alive? If so, yes, if its in memorandum then no.

[Anonymous]

She wouldn't be my girlfriend any more if she wanted that, additionally, I'd tell her to get child support from the man she named her child after..