Where does your deepest insecurity come from?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I know this is a really deep question and not everyone will be able to answer but I’m curious if you can.

For me, my deepest insecurity stems from a comment my father made when we were having a talk about his new fitness obsession and how I should join in because “Boys don’t like fat girls.” I was maybe 14 or 15 when we had that talk, I’ve never forgotten that line.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

My deepest insecurity/fear was always hurting other people. I don't know for sure if this was how I developed it but I remember this incident when I was a little boy.

I was playing on the swings in the playground outside of McDonald's in Japan and I liked to stand on the swings rather than sit on them. I had the whole playground to myself except for this one little girl who was playing in the corner.

Then suddenly the little girl ran across the swing set and I tried to react and slow it down but I couldn't and the board of the swing hit her in the head and knocked her out.

I immediately jumped off the swing and checked if she was okay and she was unconscious, so I picked her up and ran inside the McDonald's screaming for help. Her parents and my parents rushed to us and got her to a hospital. She was a bit concussed but thankfully turned out fine.

My parents didn't punish me since it was an accident but I had nightmares about that incident over and over, including ones where she died and I killed her in the nightmare.

I think that was possibly the main cause behind my deepest insecurity. I've overcome most fear of getting myself hurt or killed being an adrenaline junkie but I've never overcome that fear of hurting others by accident.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I can't work mission-critical jobs as a software dev, for example, where a mistake on my part resulting in a bug in the software could get someone else hurt or killed. I would just become too paranoid. I don't mind if a bug I cause gets me hurt or killed, but not someone else.

I also hate driving large vehicles for the same reason. If I make a mistake in those, I might injure or kill someone else. So I feel much safer in smaller vehicles like scooters or motorcycles.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Growing up broke and getting my ass kicked in school. Oh, wait you sad insecurity! Yeah financial disaster.

[petitedollbabee]

Genetically, I have messed up teeth. Extreme overcrowding and crooked teeth. I was made fun of a lot for it as a kid, by other kids. Even after getting some teeth removed and having braces for 2.5 years, I still hate my teeth and my smile. I don’t think any amount of work on my teeth will ever fix that insecurity, the damage is already done with how much I was bullied and made fun of for it as a kid.

[MemeSupreme]

my mom and step-dad

all i'll say is focusing on a girls body is going to impact her forever even if it's like one comment like with you. i legit preferred being called a whore than them saying ANYTHING about my body. it fucks with your head and hurts

oh yeah fuck you gag for not letting my go anonymous on my phone lol it's annoying

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You do realize askers can block anonymous replies, right?

[MemeSupreme]

oh yeah... i forgot lol