Anyone have success at overcoming self sabotage?

[Anonymous]

I got this weird and asinine problem. It even lead to a very bad addiction that I thankfully overcame 2 years ago.

I know it’s rooted in childhood trauma. It has to do with subconsciously believing I don’t deserve the better things in life and/or when something really good happens then I expect proverbial “shoe to drop” somewhere else.

[IslaTheWitch]

having a complicated childhood produces all sets of problems, and low self-esteem and self-sabotaging are some of the standard ones...

I made a very stupid decision and almost died... my best friend, after my recovery, slammed me on the wall and gave me a lecture... it was painful and scary AF... but he was scared even more than me... I almost died...

so... this was the moment when I started proper therapy and addressed my problems one by one

[Asker]

I am very thankful you survived whatever you went through. The addiction I went through years ago and almost killed me. But I recovered and got clean. I had to accept that I really had problem. Ego fought me all the way on it but there was peace with surrendering.

I invite tough love just as long as it’s from someone who UNDERSTANDS me and knows the right time to deliver it. That’s why you got to be careful about who you open to. Getting criticism from people who have zero idea of what my life experiences are really like drives me nuts.

If you always refuse to listen to what you need to hear vs what you NEED to hear you will never grow as an adult. I think that’s a growing problem in our culture too.

[IslaTheWitch]

the only thing I tried to say is that with this type of problems the best we can do is asking a professional counselor for help...

[Anonymous]

I'm still struggling with it. There are some things that I could be doing now but I'm not because I don't believe in myself.
I grew up around people who destroyed my self-esteem, so now I'm trying to recover it. I know I'll get over it but it's going to take time.

[normalice]

A proper sleep schedule is the first step. It becomes much easier to cope with the fact that daily routine maintenance and self improvement are non-negotiable to see any improvement at all, if you are rested.

[OddBeMe]

Probably the under the same cloud (irony pun) as depression.

Therapy would be the best way. Were i Emperor of all life and beasts on earth I would require personal therapy for everyone.