If you stand up against a wrong but lose a lot and even get targeted yourself, it's still worthy right?

[Anonymous]

I've done this on 3 different occasions and it cost to lose so much, including losing my popular status (a privilege I had for years since middle school... all lost in one day) in my last year of HS.

The first time I was 17. I'm guilty of not agreeing with 3 girls (popular friends at the time) framing someone for stealing and other things. It was someone regarded as a loner and loser. They wanted to get him suspected and I couldn't go along with it. I couldn't lie to the assistant principal. Two of them ended up getting suspended instead and my reputation with the popular crowd was finished. I lost it all. They labeled me a traitor, a pick-me girl and accused me of wanting to date the loser, negative rumors said about me and him. I lost it all just for doing what I thought was right. At the same time, I gained a new friendship; him. Nope we never dated but remained friends till this day.

I don't mind standing up for what's right, regardless of who is in the right but it's not easy. At times it's like being on the losing side, trying to battle a losing war or risking getting targeted yourself.

[normalice]

It depends on what you value but unfortunately no value can exist in a vacuum. We require other people who confer that value in order to believe it is... valuable.

What you believe is right might be something most others would agree with but that doesn't necissarily mean the small number of people in you're locale agree. They may not necissarily devalue it but rather see it as weakness and seperately believe strength is the most valuable. But in that case, confidence is pretty universally regarded as strength so showing you are above their disdain because you have more confidence in your own values than theirs is key - but keep in mind confidence is not meeting their disdain with your own but rather more like treating them as orphans who are in pain and need sympathy. Not necissarily your sympathy - probably their parents' - rather, they need to know there is enough value for them to be had in something besides strength so they wouldn't have to fight and be desperate if they didn't want to. Their parents' neglect likely taught them there isn't much opportunity for value but again this tends to be a trend that only applies locally - it's not too difficult to find more stable people elsewhere.

[Nirmroth]

School time is really just such a crappy time when it comes to this. The drama doesn't really stop once you become an adult but its much easier to avoid it or you simply learn to avoid the people that bring such drama.

[meepmeeperton]

It can still be worth it. In your situation you got rid of people that don’t sound like very good friends, and gained a better friend.

If they were willing to turn on you that easily they were probably not very good friends.

[Asker]

You know what the best part is; I don't regret anything. It's funny how everything works out. By getting ostracized from the popular crowd at the time, I got rid of fake, toxic people in my life and gained a real friend.