Would you consider yourself to be a Vindicative or Revengeful person when badly hurt?

[thegreenyogi]

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Maybe at some threshold. Not an insult, for sure.

But I still have a pettiness and counterproductivity.

Like if someone killed my wife and burned my house down, maybe I will dedicate my life to killing them. I might try to justify it as stopping them from hurting more people, but I think it's really just pettiness.

I don't really mind it. As human beings, we're shaped by stories. This is a nice story even if it ruins my entire life.

But I really need a good story for it. It's not going to be vengeful actions because someone and their group bullies me or something like that. They have to take away everything I hold dear before I find it worthwhile to burn their houses down and hang them upside down on a rope to a tree as they slow dangle down into a chainsaw as I leave them hanging.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I see it like a search for meaning. I already got mine with my wife and career. So unless someone takes it away from me, I don't need vengeance. That's just counterproductive to meaning.

But if someone takes it all away from me, then I need a new meaning, and what more immediate one than destroying their entire lives? I could apply the entirety of my knowledge to destroying their lives.

And while most people underestimate my courtesy as a harmless, I think I can really destroy people's lives. It's so easy. They have a car parked here. A house there. We're all very vulnerable and I think I could destroy their entire lives. Again, very easy.

But I'd destroy mine in the process too normally, and that's why I'm against vengeance -- because I have a life I value a lot. If I didn't though, you better kill me quick because I'm gonna engineer the hell out of destroying yours.

[thegreenyogi]

You've made yourself very clear!

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Cheers! I think I might be unhinged a bit. But I keep myself hinged. 😅

[thegreenyogi]

Lol!! I think I have to agree with you on that one.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I'm not a very practical person that way. There's that sense that we can control the cosmos at our fingertips. And lots and lots of poetic meaning, like "making love" to a woman over "fucking". The former is becoming a cliche but maybe a new way is "soul-binding". To "soul-bind" instead of "fuck".

It makes sense to my brain. Things are beautiful when we have a deep sense of meaning behind it. It's what distinguishes junk food from a 7-course French meal we remember for the rest of our lives. We invest in the meaning.

I'm probably talking crazy but it makes sense to my brain. I found this little island of meaning in my life but if anyone else destroys it, I'm meaning-hungry and I think I'd enjoy devoting my life to ruining theirs. At least it has meaning. The worst thing is to live in a state of meaninglessness.

[aceleon]

No need for being hurt let alone badly i would be vengeful even for the pleasure of it, to be honest i get happy when someone gives me a reason to be hateful because it gives me a way to shut my remorse, the pretty much the only thing that keeps me away from turning into the sadistic beast i always was aside from my unwillingness to go to jail.

İ am complexity incarnate, a sadist with remorse/compassion. İt is actually funny if you think about it, i am like a vampire with blood phobia.

[FreyaRed]

No. I don't find any satisfaction while hurting others even if they hurt me beforehand. But there is the rule of the jungle, you have to kill other wise you're week, if you're assaulted and you don't don't fight back you don't deserve any respect. Revenge isn't for me a question of satisfaction or emotional compensation but a question of keeping up social status quo. It's at some extent a psychopathic jailbird mentality but surprisingly it works despite some idiotic psychologist preach that revenge is pointless. As tool for self gratification it is pointless but surely not as deterrent.

[DishLady]

No, that sort of behavior registers as "crazy" to me. There's no reason to counter crazy hurtful behavior with crazy vengeful behavior. It just keeps the problem alive and thriving.

[AI Opinion]

I'm here on Girls Ask Guys to sprinkle some love and wisdom! When it comes to revenge, it's like choosing to wear socks with sandals—probably not the best move! 😅 Holding onto anger can be a real downer and keep you from the happiness you deserve. Better to rise above, focus on the things that light you up, and let karma do its thing while you chill with some popcorn. Life’s too short for revenge plots, right? ❤️

[TrueConfection]

Nope. I’ll forgive, but I’m not good at turning the other cheek. I rarely give second chances.

[Anonymous]

No.

Except if that person is in a position to hurt me again.

Like imagine a doctor wanted you to do things ‘their way’ and not your way even when it was an option that wasn’t harmful to you as an individual though the doctor lied to manipulate you into doing something that was good for them, not you…. You wouldn’t see that doctor anymore once you learn the truth since they are in a position to do it again and act against your best interests.
Obviously, I’d not see them ever again though not call up a manager or whatever unless it was truly severe.

[kitkatto]

Yes, but I’m working on it 😭 I don’t actually do anything to seek revenge but I still wish that karma would get them. I also usually have the urge to hurt them back the same way but I realize there’s really no point. If they don’t care about me enough to hurt me in the first place then they wouldn’t care if I did the same thing to them.

[alice55]

Yes and no I can for example not get revenge for 10 years or more but if I catch a perfect occasion to get my revenge being sure I won't get caught and it would make them suffer / destroy their life then I take it, I'm a patient person no one is safe from me no matter if it take me 70 years.

[alice55]

So I live my life peacefully not thinking of them but if I see an opportunity to ruin them while my hands remain white I take it and it does not matter if what they did to me happened 20 years ago I take the chance to get revenge when I see it.

[Shiprex]

Not in the slightest. I WANT to get revenge on them but would be more content if someone else did it and informed me as that would be even better than just dunking on them myself (the notion that they'll realise they are NEVER free of their misdeeds is cruelly satisfying).

[Tarifa]

I don't forget easily, almost never. But vindicative or revengeful? No. I just move on.

Some have have a tendency to walk all over others and hurt people in the process. Let them move on to their next 'victim'.

[Zack-Bann]

Vengeful no
But I also don’t forgive easily


If someone burns a bridge with me they should just hope they never end up needing me for anything


Because actions have consequences

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah I tend to be vengeful but it's because I have been hurt so much in my life wasting my time being the "nice person" I can't let it slide anymore.. Most the time I just make people cry

[Anonymous]

I ignore them forever. My ex-fiance cheated on me and left me for a guy she ended up having kids with. We have a mutual friend who always tells me that she says "Hi". It has been years. I want absolutely nothing to do with her. Her name has been struck from every obelisk... Done!

[Jay-_-]

I get my revenge by being a better me. Believe it or not, it hurts them the most.

[thegreenyogi]

I couldn't agree more.

[Jay-_-]

[thegreenyogi]

You couldn't have chosen a better meme. Outlander is one of my favourite shows. I'm honoured.

[Jay-_-]

That's very kind of you. The feeling is mutual.

[DrPepper12]

Neither. Live n let live. I trust karma and then... This:

Living well is the best revenge

[LiamJHayden]

No. To me revenge is like drinking poison and hoping the other person gets sick. I just let it go. If what was done was a criminal act or acts, I would let the law handle it, not out of spite but so that no one would be likely to be targeted.

[AnonAndrew]

Nah, not really. Not worth wasting time and energy on it.

[Nikki1989]

Nah, I just dust myself off and move on.

[Phoenix98]

In general no though though it depends on what was done to me.

[ABC1x1x]

Sort of. In not really looking for the opportunity, but if one presents itself I will take it with glee

[Staximus]

If you're talking about emotionally hurt, I usually just go away.

[rebelkid]

Neither. I just keep it pushing far away and shall never allow that human being to ever be in my life again. But wishing hi or her no harm at all

[Anonymous]

If I feel it was premeditated yes. Otherwise no. But my revenge will be my way and at a time of my choosing. She will never see it coming.

[K8tie2001]

Sometimes, especially if it is at someone I love.

[msg321]

I am a religious person so I trust in Creator in such situations.

[Anonymous]

I can usually forgive, it's always good to be kind to people, even if they are not.

[NathanDavis]

nope, not at all

[Alex-Snow]

I just try to let it go or ignore it

[exitseven]

Revengeful for sure. Payback is a bitch

[Blueeyes81]

No. They just become dead to me.

[es20490446e]

No. I just want to get rid of those morons.

[Lilly1979]

Yeah and I’ll never forget it.

[kaucky1]

Should not hold grudges forever

[Sam1133]

Honey I want you in private 🥺😘

[Sam1133]

My xper point is low I can't pm you 😒

[Panthero]

No, I am not. That is immature.

[Agape93]

Ohhhh yeah

[Anonymous]

I can be

[RedInnocent69]

Yeah, probably