Is it bad preferring to live as a coward than risking your life for others (I would do anything to save myself)?

[JohnCar]

I got criticized once after a topic about what I would do in a shooting spree got into a conversation. I voiced my rather minority opinion. I would ran for my life or hide under others, anything to save myself.

Why? I don't want to die young. I got a lot to do in life at this moment. All this ''oh he was a hero, dying for others'', what about me? I don't want to be honored nor remembered because it won't count even if I'm dead.

yeah I don't mind getting my reputation tarnished forever, living as a coward, ok others labeling me names for not risking my life for others. The heck. I want to live and will do anything to save my own skin, even dress as a woman if only women and children could be saved. Is it bad wanting to live, even if it meant living your life as a coward?

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The shocked on their faces when they realized I wouldn't risk my life for them. Hey, you only got one life. I want to live.

[Anonymous]

It depends if you've ever loved anyone.

I'd risk my life to save any one of my family members if need be. But no one outside of that.

It's not a conscious choice. Your love overpowers your reason of self preservation.

[JohnCar]

I suppose that would make me think. I'm an only child and several of my family members live very far away. Plus we don't see each other often, just on the Holidays. Knowing my parents well, they wouldn't want me saving them if it meant me dying; the opposite; they would be the ones saving me but them dying.

[Anonymous]

I certainly wouldn't want you as a boyfriend.

[JohnCar]

Reality is if he ends up giving his life for others, the girlfriend then moves on with her life and likely married someone else later on while the guy is 6 ft under, on a cold tomb. How convenient?
I'm just looking out for myself. As someone that comes to a long-lived family (most making it past their 90's and the oldest dying at age 106), I would like to make it till my 100th b-day. I want to live. You want to live too. No one wants to die.

[Ariesman81]

Yeah... you either got it or you don't

[JohnCar]

Yet no one wants to die. Being honored and remembered only when you died for other while having no recognition of anything, of any accomplishment made when you were alive is sad.

[In_Trance]

whatever works for you

[Avicenna]

Yes, it generally is

[JohnCar]

yet no one wants to die