How do you get rid of an insecurity?

[Anonymous]

When I was a teenager, one of my "friends" told me that she overheard my crush say that I had huge horse teeth. I discovered later that she made it up. I was so embarrassed that until this day, I never smile with my lips open on photos, and cover my mouth when I speak or laugh.

I went to several dentists to fix my teeth but they all told me the same thing; that my teeth were perfect and would be unethical of them to change anything. I received so many compliments on my smile, but for some reason, that one comment, made such a huge impression that I don't believe any positive comments on my teeth/smile. Do you have any tips on how I can get rid of this insecurity? Thanks <3

[ohsheeT]

This is one of the biggest reasons in this world why you need to find yourself and love yourself and understand yourself and understand that it does not matter what other people think of you it matters only what you think of yourself if you are a good kind person and you give of yourself and you are happy and truly truly love yourself there is not one thing in this world that can penetrate you or that you will allow in to make you feel bad because it doesn't even matter it only matters what you feel and what you think and how deep you love yourself and believe in yourself

This part right here is going to be the first time I've ever said this out loud to myself even cuz I never even thought about it but every single one of us has flaws nobody's perfect and I personally do not ever want to even think or become even close to perfect because that just ends everything right there I like being flawed I like doing things the hard way I like to think I like to feel because that's what keeps us going but it doesn't matter what anybody ever says to me maybe what I look like or how I act in that moment it gives me a moment to think about it but I'm not going to let it affect me or make me think any different than what I think and that is I am good just the way I am I am happy just the way I am and I don't care if somebody doesn't like me or thinks I look a certain way because that's on them that's something they have to do with not me plus I probably would never see those people again anyway you're probably not in my life anyway because most people to put other people down are unhappy themselves just like your friend and just think that one little thing that she said to you that lie has affected you all your life because you thought somebody else thought something terrible of you are you didn't look right or whatever and where are those two people now does it even matter or did it even matter the only person that mattered was you because you allowed it in you allowed it to make you think something different all these years just love yourself and understand there are people out there in this world did hate themselves and will do anything and everything to make you do the same thing to yourself because that's how miserable they are don't allow other people's words to affect you and when you love yourself nothing can touch you when you believe in yourself nothing can touch you when you have confidence in yourself and nothing can touch you especially words from other people that have an agenda that create drama

If you think about it drama ignorance and judgment are one of the three biggest evils we have on this planet because if you're not secure with yourself you might just believe or get caught up in that crap and that hold you back that hold you down stay away from people that have drama ignorance or judgment love yourself like I said those people probably aren't even in your life anymore and look I'll just those words that she said I'll look out look how long it has affected you or you have thought about it forget that smile and be happy life is way too short believe me

[molonski2]

It's quite difficult to give advice on this because you have allowed it to be embedded , I'd say it's obviously NOT dental issue , it's a phycology issue , we learn in this situation , positive affirmation and affirmations.
One drill I can think of is privately smiling into a mirror , stop and repeat x 10 , while saying " my teeth are beautiful , I'm so fortunate to have my teeth " , this kind of thing is used when coming off braces , this circumstance is the same.
Also write the same down x 10 .
The goal being to make the smile a function that we just can't stop , smiling at the coffee shop as an example.
If you have any problems make an appointment and see another professional , it's all simply about convincing you , not other.
Really wish you good luck and all the best.

[ChiTown33]

Time and positive reinforcement.

Also I would recommend to anyone with this problem to truly consider who is saying it. By your own admission this guy was your crush. How much did he really know you? Think about it. Why would you listen to listen to someone who really doesn't even know you? We as human being assign far too much weight to the words of strangers and not enough to the people who truly know us best, our family and friends.

Self confidence is the most attractive thing a person can wear and unfortunately that begins with you, no one can give that to you. But try to remember that God made you. And to him you're perfect, perfectly imperfect. And God doesn't make mistakes. So try to remember that and hold your head high.

[TDDMS]

The best way to get rid of insecurities is to put them up for sale online. I don't know what the market price is in the states, but perhaps selling insecurities on the international market will yield the best results. I would wager that if you were to earn several grand on selling your insecurities, I think you'd be in great financial shape. You may even etch out a niche market and become a leading figure in selling insecurities.

If that fails, then your next best option is, when sitting on the porcelain goddess, just flush them down the sewer.

[morganherrel]

your post is so real and wholesome

insecurities like that are extremely hard to erase, but eventually you will find the opinion of a person you trust to be so powerful that it "defeats" the opinions responsible for the original insecurity

alternatively, you can accept the consequences of the thing you're insecure about and choose to love yourself anyway

allow people to judge you but don't let it affect you emotionally because YOU love yourself the way you are

[midnightmoon05]

Well at this point if you are only going to focus on the negative that will dictate your thinking… no one can help you…

even if you look beautiful with amazing teeth… the negativity will drive people away…

so work on your brain to make the changes … no one on gag can do that.
Use your power to make the changes… you have the power… not us.
so many use their power to stay negative… you want to be another sheep?

[lightbulb27]

The issue is you believed a lie thus have to release the power it has iver you.
Reading on trauma therapy techniques and subconscious mind will help give perspective. there's techniques if want specifics lmk.

[ihateTaylorSwift]

Embrace ur own discomfort then make yourself
feel better by working at it
You have the Right to change whatever you don't like
Everybody wishes for confidence
But not all of us have it
And that's okay
Just don't let it get to you
Do something about it

[AhmetHasanCan]

Teenagers can be very bullying, your adults should have warned you to be prepared for this.

Even the doctor said your teeth were normal, I don't think there's any need for anything else.

Besides, your teeth could really be ugly, it's not the end of the world, there's a solution to everything.

[Anonymous]

You have to use self compassion. Everybody gets bullied, at it does not stop after high-school believe me! Most jerks like to bully because they are either jealous or because theyll never have you as a girlfriend. Short answer you have to love yourself, because nobody will do it for you.

[WhitneySnow]

You need to listen to the people around you who tell you how wonderful your smile is and remember that your friend was lying. Your crush never said that.

[stark04]

Don't overthink, just be your fucking beautiful self. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[beaves11]

In my case my premature hairloss was a problem, absolutely cost me dates and I looked ill. Sometimes they are real. Got into make wigs. It helped.

[TheSpaceGnome]

If you werent bothered by your teeth before she made fun of you, then you know her opinion holds no value.

[Garud]

don't disrespect your body which is serving you right

[PeterLegg91]

Just embrace your face and teeth and you'll be happier as a person, don't let that one comment get you down fuck them

[StevenMcGarrett]

That's rough. It sucks that your so called friend would say that.

[Staximus]

Just have to break through by doing it, again and again

[Staximus]

You have to work through it, break down that wall

[serious_miss419]

You gotta look into why the insecurity is being surfaced and what the trigger is.

[Fury_storm]

by not being a retard and realizing it was a stupid LIE?

[Kingofkings1992]

Understand that insecurities are like faces, we all have them. Then you simply say “fuck it.”

[Danny_dan92]

Not letting it get to you. Accept who you are

[foxsquirrell]

Your friend deserves to be beaten.

[Crazzyyworld]

It’s bad girls and boys land

[Crazzyyworld]

Steal other people’s security