Is a first impression hard to change?

[Anonymous]

I feel like it is, it's why I think first impressions are important, do you think they are hard to change?

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8 mo

I need a change of category please 😬

[Genie23]

Not in my case, lol. People changed the way they first perceived me. I think there's not much you can do if people just don't want to observe you and think "hey, maybe he's not who I thought he is was" Some people can be quite rigid

[Asker]

Well yea cause at first you seem all princess-y and then people get to know you and you turn out to skateboard onto a rail, down some stairs and land in mud 😂

[Genie23]

😂 Land in mud? Gee, I'm so touched that you have so much confidence in my skateboarding skill 😑 But jokes aside, I suck at playing any kind of sport. I am only good at running which was useful to run away from sticky situation. The last time my youngest bro's friend tried to teach me tennis, he ended up getting hit in their eye (I tried serving 3 times failed, then I felt mortified and tried for the fourth time... and used all my strength) 😶

Some of my real life friends told me they thought at first, I consider myself attractive so I feel too arrogant to be friendly and talk to people. Fact was I'm shy at first and my talkative mode gets activated only if someone approaches me, and I feel comfortable with them, lol. I rarely approach people as I'm an overthinker. So, I hesitate thinking I'm bothering them. 😅

[Asker]

Wow you really do suck at sports, at the very least we are certain you suck at tennis and very bad at taking care of other eyeballs that aren't your own from what it seems, unfortunately 😂

But this means you aren't an introvert? So what is this even called? The chat box trap 🤔

All shy and heehee 👉🏼👈🏼 until they say excuse me cause they gotta walk by, once you hear that excuse me "did you know i watch cartoons and..." Endlessness of conversation 😂

[Genie23]

I suck at every sport. My school teachers would give me chances over and over again thinking I must be good at sports because I'm tall 😂 I was bad and my brothers tried teaching me football (soccer) and cricket more than few times. I quit in frustration, lol. It was embarassing 😭 I only was good at playing sports in video games 😂 I was more of an artistic kid.

😂 I'm neither an introvert, nor an extrovert. I'm somewhere in the middle. An ambivert. I can make friends easily and enjoy socialising often, but many days I just want to be at home, not talk to people and just be with my books, movies, series or other hobbies. But you're damn right about the chat box trap 😂 DON'T TELL ANYONE THAT OR I'LL MAKE YOU DISAPPEAR 😑

Oh my God. You described me perfectly 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I'm pretty sure they tried to find whether I had a stop/pause button on my head, lol

[Asker]

Oh okay so you do suck at every sport, expect in video games, well I guess that's somewhat a flex lol

I'm not gonna tell anyone, not cause I'm scared I'll disappear cause I can just trap you in the bottle but because someone is gonna have to distract you so I can trap you, while you chat away it's a perfect distraction.

Aww people must avoid you? 😂

Well at least introverts, talking to someone for walking by sounds like a nightmare 😂

Realistically they just have to draw that chatterbox soul of yours onto someone else, possibly the next person to walk by lol

[Genie23]

I mean, I pointed out too many things I'm bad at. I had to point out something good for damage control. It was more of that than flex 😂😂 jk

I should have NEVER told you about my chatting problem. Darn it. I had no idea you'd use it to trap me, lol.

They should avoid me only when I just woke up and haven't had my cup of Chai yet because that's the worst time to pick to talk to me. I turn into Hulk and smash smash 🗿

LMAO!! You'd find this funny but almost everyone I had a crush on were introverts and few guys I dated are also introverts. 😂

[Asker]

Well I wonder how you kept their social batteries low, just kidding their battery is always low, only thing you can do is finish them off and you probably did that since they are now exes 😂

And about that chai thing, I think that walk to the store to get more chai would be very interesting, just the unusually angry chachachachia yelling at any talking soul in the way, like hey genie "SHUT UP, GET OUT OF MY WAY, can't YOU SEE IM OUT OF CHAI" 😂

[Genie23]

I only went on dates 😂 But surprisingly they happily listen to me talk FOR HOURS 😳 They probably mistook me for TV, so they didn't have to speak much but watch/listen, lol.

DON'T REVEAL MY SECRETS, CHRIS. Not everyone is a morning person. Like "great grumpy cat meme says I hate morning and people. Good morning? What's so good about it. There's no such thing at good morning" 😂

I'm surprised you remember that funny nickname you gave me..😂 that video you shared me of chachachachia is kinda stamped on my mind. What the heck was that 😂

[Asker]

There's no way you spoke for hours and you didn't spill any secrets, besides how many times do you say things and then say damn I shouldn't have told you that, I can only imagine chatterbox chachachachia spills all the secrets when left to chat, and how can I forget this nickname, I think that idea was definitely very different, I don't know if they are still doing good but I know it was catchy 😂

[Genie23]

LMAO 😂 I know you will have a hard time believing it but I'm that kind of talkative person who knows when to stop or bring up a completely different topic to avoid spilling anything that will embarrass me or
reveal my plan to take over the world like Mojo jojo 😂 So, your secret is safe with me. I didn't tell anyone that you likes teletubbies... Oops. I shouldn't have said that 😂 JK.

It sure was 😂

[Asker]

there's no way you know when to stop or change the subject, although there's moments that maybe it does seem that way or maybe you know how to keep it so secret you use the lame secrets as disguises or something, it's hard to tell with this one 😂

[Genie23]

Oh trust me. I am the master of changing topics. I don't even realise sometimes how I ended up talking about topic 4th when we started talking about topic 1 few minutes ago 😂 Then we try to trace it back. To remind ourselves what brought us to the current topic 😂

[Asker]

Yea I will give you that, because your average topic amount is around 3 to 4 topics per conversation so you cycle through them like a book 😂

[Genie23]

You have to admit that thanks to me, there's no awkward silence in our chat 😂😂😂

[Asker]

Well unless you do those smileys of death, always a triple laughy face that kills all conversations 😂

[Genie23]

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[Genie23]

😂😂😂

[Asker]

I can't see what that is lol

[Genie23]

[Asker]

Okay now I see it 😂

[Genie23]

That's what I said when you said my triple laughing emojis kills all the conversations 😂😂😂

[sage2021]

You only get one chance to make a good first impression.

[Asker]

That is what I thought

[Sunrising]

I think first impressions are important, but I do try to give a person the benefit of the doubt, if the impression is unfavourable.

[Anonymous]

Probably depends on each individual.