All of a sudden won't give me a key to his place?

[SLL2019]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost four years and have a daughter., Before all that he always gave me a key to his place even just six months into the relationship. We had lived together for two years and recently moved apart to save money to get a house together. Well his dad gave him a deadline for Jan 21st so he is moving out by himself until I save more money, But he refuses to give me a key, He said he doesn't want me to be able to come in whenever I want. Is he hiding something or does he just want the fact of knowing its HIS place?

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i tried to talk to him about it he said if you think I'm hiding something then you do what you gotta do, cause what? you want me to bend over backwards & give you a key? I'm not gonna do that . this conversation is going nowhere so you can just leave

[CoverGirl]

Its sounds to me that he may just already know something about the relationship that the two of you have that you may not be aware of. Its possible that he doesn't completely see his future being with you. You should definitley ask him if that is a possibility. If you have a child together, have lived together in the past, and he is now moving into a place by himself and is making it clear that it is his only by not offering his key, he may be unsure if he wants a relationship with you now or in the future.

[SLL2019]

The only reason he is moving out by himself is because he can;t live at his parents anymore and the only reason I am not moving in with him now is because I don't have enough money to move out now.......

[margot333]

Bottom line. You may want to make things work because he's the father of your child but he's definitley not as into you as he should be. And he sounds very immature. I'd tell him living together isn't going to work either and that you want to date someone who makes you part of his life. Only dysfunctional men 'are hard to catch' Mr. Dave, and who really needs one of those? There are plenty of fish in the sea and you should be with one who really wants to share his life with you.

[Veruschka]

he probably figures you two are gonna get together and this is his last chance to see what being on his own is. he's probably just thinking about having a little space before he jumps into the role that is in store for him. don't freak. if something becomes fishy then worry. its too early now.

[dave216]

Women can be very controlling if allowed. I don't know his reason for wanting a private space of his own, but I agree with him, he needs one. You know one reason men are so hard to catch, we don't want to be controlled.

[firezex]

Perhaps he's a just "to himself" guy. But really, by now you should understand why he's being like this.

Just talk to him. It's all you can do.

[Unreallover]

it sounds like a little of both. but does he have any reason not to trust you? that's weird that he doesn't want you to be able to come in whenever you want

[Anonymous]

It kinda sounds like he has something to hide, you shoudl try and talk to him about it.

[Atomizer]

You need to ask your boyfriend these questions.